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No, but seriously, anon, you need to look into what's going on in his classroom because he's probably being taught this trash method instead of phonics. He does not know how to slow down and sound things out because his school has never taught him that. When you tell him to do this, he has no context for what you're even talking about.

This has come up repeatedly here, and I don't have time to froth at the mouth today, but look up "whole language".

This podcast made waves a few years ago when all the lockdown parents discovered, to their horror, that their kiddos weren't being taught to read in the NORMAL FUCKING WAY WE'VE USED FOR LITERALLY CENTURIES and were instead being taught a fake-ass method backed by vibes and antivax-levels of pseudoscience.

But of course it feels intuitively sensible to her. She taught herself to read at age 2. That's the exact kind of experience that does make this method sound reasonable. But like you say, if it's going to happen, it happens very early and without the school curriculum.

As for me, I've said it before, but I assume anon wasn't around: I could not learn to read.

I was in second grade. (First grade? I can't remember. Around then.) Most of my classmates were reading at least a little. Me: nothing. I could not learn.

It was even a god damn private school, but I had to have a fucking tutor. I got dragged over to that lady's office a few days a week for... two months? Four months? It really wasn't that long, as far as I know. I was more than ready to learn. I just needed an actual fucking method that wasn't lying trash. Almost at once I jumped from nothing to reading well above grade level. For the rest of my childhood, I continued to diverge from my classmates in how many words I knew, how well I could read, the works. Every year of grade school makes that gap widen. I was on the desirable side of that gap. I was lucky.

It's obvious how verbal I am from reading my tl;dr on this blog.

But I could not learn to read.

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And if you also hadn't heard of her go read this because uhh... Holy Shit

This story sounds like it could have been a brilliant exploration of gender and warfare and violence but instead it was attacked by people who didn't know how to confront a story that made them uncomfortable, and the author faced horrible consequences.

i can recognize white people as a whole have systemically oppressed POC in america, which is where i live 

most people when they make white people jokes only mean the shitty white people and i am not a shitty white person 

Suren here, making a horror-fantasy comic called Jade Kingdoms!

When a little princess Surentara prayed to the God of War, she expected to save her kingdom and herself from her father's abuse. She got neither- her kingdom fell moments after her God answered, while she got blamed for its destruction. With the Sorcerer King's return looming over its survivors, Suren joins sides with the War God's legion and declares war.

⭐ This comic is for you if you might enjoy:

"The Healing-After-Trauma Show!"

A cute but very sad frilly-dressed princess

A not-so-dead War God adopting sad frilly princess

Said War God actually gifting her a biblically-accurate Wraith dad

"I did NOT pity a child with a terrible fate, you peasant—"

Crying acidic tears because of unprocessed grief

"I'm cursed, you're cursed, everybody's cursed!"

All daddy issues are resolved by unaliving yo daddy

Found family in eldritch monsters and forgotten war gods

That ONE time you went to touch grass and actually died :/

Don't become a dragon, don't become a dragon, don't—

A dead gorgeus Emperor haunting fucking everyone

Wdym you can't enjoy exile cause the b!tches that wanted you gone still come for your ass???

Dead Dove: do not eat™ (domestic violence and abuse)

⭐ Read on Webtoon Canvas or its own website! Members on Patreon or Ko-fi have first dibs on the next episode and access to exclusive art and lore stuff. ♥

But you are responsible for your own safe spaces. You can block tags, block words, block people.

“But i thought fandom was supposed to be a safe space” —yeah you have to curate it.

Unfortunately one persons’s safe space may be another persons’ trigger. That’s ok. Simply block them, block the tag, block the word etc. They can do the same for you.

I don’t know who said it first, but “I need to be able to express my anger without shame” and “I need to be away from yelling and loud noises” are both valid needs people can have for a safe space that really aren’t compatible with each other.

So are “I need to process my trauma” and “I need to not meet any trauma.”

Or “I want a safe space to tell/read the stories that speak to me” and “those stories are distressing to me.”

Insisting that your needs are the only needs anyone should have is not a safe space, it’s its own act of violence.