Due to the pandemic, one of my D&D games has been playing remotely for almost a year. Over the past few months, there have been a number of times where the DM was kind of drunkâunusual for our games because we don't drinkâand it was odd, but the rest of the group has been playing together forever (read: decades, plural) and no one said anything, so after mentioning it to one other person who was just like, "Yeah, but he's not driving though," I was annoyed, but tried to let it go.
Well, last night the DM was completely fucking trashed, slurring his words and forgetting people's turns in combat and basic game mechanics, to the point that other people had to remind him to do shit. This is a guy who is usually so on point that I feel guilty for not having memorized every single rulebook. And while the other times he's started out kind of drunk but sobered up as the night went on, that didn't happen last night, because today is a holiday so he didn't have to work. Again, no one else seems to give a shit, but I was just fucking done. I spent the last forty-five minutes with my headphones off watching whose avatar was popping up on the screen in chat, and when his would go away, I'd pop back on for a second to see what was up.
I'd say it's because I've spent too much time around alcoholics; but the now-deceased person I replaced in the group was a dyed-in-the-wool alcoholic, and I think the rest of them all just got boiling-frog used to this stuff, whereas I'm over here like, "You're the fucking DM, man! GET YOUR SHIT TOGETHER." One guy we play with sleeps through half of our in-person sessions, but he's not the DM so it doesn't affect the game; but when you're running the show, you need to be with it enough not to forget what the hell you're doing.
I don't know what to do, because after the first time this happened, I did say something to the DM, and he lied to my face. And no one else seemed bothered by how wasted he was. Normally I love playing with this group, and these folks are all my friends now, but I worry it's going to be like this until we can play in person again, because the DM has to drive then and won't drink.
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