ain't that just the way

bc the subtle (even if unintentional) message that it’s possible to Be ugly at age 10 and that we should’ve somehow been what?? hotter?? more attractive, as literal children, is EXTREMELY disturbing and definitely part of why we’re seeing elementary and middle schoolers doing makeup and wearing clothes to present themselves as adults on social media like instagram.

everyone shares those “me at 14 vs. 14 year olds now” memes with a modern 14 yr old perfectly contoured with puckered lips but nobody considers that by sharing photos of ourselves as children and suggesting that we were ugly and lame and embarrassing, we’re teaching kids who are that age now that they should AVOID looking their age.

No! Some kids are considered “prettier” than others based on a set of made-up standards set by adults!

No child should ever be viewed through the lens of “attractive” or “not attractive,” because they’re children, and when you refer to your childhood self as ugly or lame or embarrassing, the children around you look for the features you’re referring to in themselves and try to avoid/erase them. And if they can’t, they just settle for hating that part of themselves.

It’s not ‘polyester’ it’s plastic

It’s not ‘vegan leather’ it’s plastic

Its not ‘faux fur’ it’s plastic

Plastic is a pollutant and causes far more damage to the environment both now and in the future than leather or wool.

Just because the guy isn’t technically a pedophile, doesn’t make him any less predatory. When you’re in your 20s you may not be a kid anymore, but you’re not fully developed as an adult either. You’re still vulnerable to predators who have the advantage of more experience and thus tools you don’t yet have, in addition to the other advantage of power imbalance due to gendered relations.

A man who wants to be your mentor, especially if he says he wants to “shape” you or anything similar, is a man who’s trying to turn you into his puppet, to make you “develop” (be molded) into the girl/woman that serves his pleasure, even if not directly sexual.

There’s predators who get off on the intellectual performance of the younger female objects of their obsessions. There’s predators who get off on your social development fitting their not-necessarily sexual fantasies. There’s predators who get off on the idea of taking a depressed girl and becoming her “savior”.

There’s people who get off to feet and fucking statues, you best believe there’s predators who get immense satisfaction from mental games against vulnerable girls/women even if they’re not (directly) sexual. And even if those things aren’t sexual at all to you, it will fuck you up. Because you’ll know or feel that you’re being used against your will, that you’re not being treated as a human, you’ll feel trapped, you’ll feel controlled, you’ll feel hopeless and disgusted with what he’s turning you into.

It’s about control, it’s about possession, it’s about ownership of who you are, it’s about having the perfect doll to play with.

It’s about you becoming mentally, emotionally, intellectually, socially dependent on them. It’s about a boost of their egos.

Regardless of the numbers on your paycheck or in your bank account, nobody is less than you.

Also most people in NYC are working more than 1 job. I know people living out shelters working 2 jobs.

This happened in Syracuse, New York, where I live. It is one of the poorest cities in the entire United States. We have a large number of homeless people, many who are mentally ill and/or disabled. When these stories are labeled as “New York,” people think it’s NYC and end up ignoring the issues in “upstate” NY.

This homeless man’s name is Jeremy Dufresne. He is a homeless man suffering from schizophrenia. He was charging his phone in order to contact his mother. A gofundme was put together in order to replace Dufresne’s clothes and phone charger. So far 22k has been reached to help him get on his feet. 

Al-Amin Muhammad, a local homeless advocate, confronted the Dunkin Donuts employees. He runs an organization called We Rise Above the Streets, which has been feeding and clothing homeless people in Syracuse, NY. You can support this organization by donating here. 

(Money supports distribution of meals, clothing, and hygiene items)

Al-Amin Muhammed is a former homeless man, drug dealer, and convict. He now dedicates his life to helping those who went through the same struggles as he did. He actively protested this Dunkin Donuts. He met with the owners of this store, and they agreed to contribute to feeding the homeless.

Additionally:

The workers who dumped the water on Dufresne were fired almost immediately. Furthermore, one of the workers publicly apologized for his actions. Another popular donut shop is giving away 1,000 donuts to the homeless in the wake of what happened.

Ya boi just took some asshole for a ride. Some schmuck called me from a (spoofed) DC number with some cockamamie story about how he’s with the Federal Government and they’ve randomly selected me to receive a $7000 grant, oh and I’ll have to go pick it up at any of several chain grocery stores. Keeps using these “check-in” phrases that are meant to prompt you to say yes.

But see, joke’s on him: I’ve heard of this scam, and I don’t talk like most people. When I answer the phone and someone asks for me by name, I say “Speaking,” not “Yes.” So every single time this assclown tried to get me to say “Yes” I’d say something like “Understood” or “Go on.”

You see, the scam is, they trick you into saying “Yes,” and bonus if they can get you to repeat numbers (esp. 0-9) and/or “I agree.” What these low-lives do is record your voice and then use the sound bytes to make fraudulent charges in your name.

So fuck this guy right off the bat.

The more I dicked him around, the more frequently he started trying to goad me into saying the y-word. The funniest part came when he was going to “give me a confirmation number.”

Him: The confirmation is seven, one, three…

And he just STOPS. The “three” was pitched up to indicate there’d be more. I wait. He waits. I say, “Go on.”

And this bitch goes, “Yes, the confirmation number is seven, one, three…”

And he STOPS AGAIN. I wait. He waits. I say, “Go on,” again.

And he STARTS! OVER! AGAIN! He did this TWO MORE TIMES before giving me the “full confirmation number” and a “number to call,” which together JUST HAPPEN to include all ten digits, 0 through 9.

This entire time I haven’t said a single word that could be construed as agreement. So he asks me to repeat the numbers back to him. I decide I’ve had enough at that point. I tell him to get a better job, hang up, and block the number.

Another “DC” number immediately calls me. I reject & block it.

And then I filed a report with the Federal Trade Commission. :3

BE WARY. Get yourself on the National Do Not Call Registry. If a number you don’t recognize calls you, DON’T REPLY “YES” OR ANY OTHER GENERIC AFFIRMATIVE TO ANYTHING THEY SAY OR ASK.

I’m trying not to be annoyed by this

but I’m annoyed

I understand that this is tunglr dot hell and people love to make up wild shit but llllllook boys girls and others this literally happened to me, personally, exactly as I described it. Here’s the screenshot of the two “DC” numbers that called me—the one I answered at 12:35, dicked around, and hung up on, and the one that called me immediately after which I rejected.

Here are some news articles about the “yes” scam:

https://abcnews.go.com/Business/fcc-warns-consumers-phone-scam/story?id=46405703

https://www.usatoday.com/story/tech/talkingtech/2017/03/27/dont-say-yes-when-robocall-scam-rings/99709634/

https://www.freep.com/story/money/personal-finance/susan-tompor/2017/02/01/mystery-phone-calls-dont-say-yes/97237592/

Here are some articles about the fake $7000 grant scam:

https://www.usatoday.com/videos/news/2014/12/14/20401343/

https://www.consumer.ftc.gov/blog/2013/05/fake-government-grants-real-refunds

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KW6zh3GJZ98

https://www.scam-detector.com/article/government-grant-scam

On reflection I do partway suspect that it might have just been the fake grant scam, but I still gotta say, super fucking fishy that he kept trying so very hard to get me to say yes and repeat numbers.