Hot take but amatonormativity should be considered a feminist issue and was in fact eluded to in a lot of early feminist writing, and the fact that we donât widely regard it as a feminist issue today indicates either a loss of knowledge or an acceptance of harmful social norms on the part of modern feminists
Amatonormativity:
-Teaches young women and girls that you must be in a romantic relationship to be happy, and therefore insinuates that they should prioritize making themselves romanticly available (usually to men) over all other things
- Validates straight menâs feeling of entitlement towards women by equating the right to happiness with a right to womenâs bodies and emotional labor
- Helps justify the act of isolating your romantic partner from their friends by promoting the idea that your romantic relationships should be prioritized over all other social relationships, resulting in a climate where itâs easier for domestic abusers to socially isolate their victims
-Promotes negative views of older single women such as âhagsâ, âspinstersâ and âcrazy cat ladiesâ
And all of these things are directly tied to frequently discussed feminist issues, so I really donât know why no one ever talks about amatonormativity in feminist spaces. Â These norms donât just hurt aros and poly people they hurt everyone, and it would greatly benefit yâall to actually listen to us when we discuss these issues. Â
