butch harlotry

This is a lesbian sex party invitation from 1970s San Francisco. I love that it has coffee stains on it, like it was left out on a table for a while.

2) the inside of the card. the left side reads: "Rules of the House 1. You don't have to do anything. That includes watching. 2. You don't have to deny yourself anything, provided you can find (a) participants, (b) equipment, (c) space, and (d) consent to do it. 3. No dogs. They are too big, and take up room that could be allotted to voluptuous women. No lizards or canaries. They are too small, and may get lost in the chip dip or crushed underfoot by dancers who have thrown Caution to the Winds. 4. You can come with your monogamous lover, make it with her, and leave your contract unblemished. You can also come with your vibrator, buzz off, and leave without having broken your vow of celibacy. 5. If you want to get so high that you can't take care of yourself, be prepared to have other people take charge of you. That means we do things like confiscate your car keys. 6. Bring refreshments. 7. Come dressed as a character in one of your sexual fantasies. 8. There is room to crash, but you may not have a pillow all to yourself. 9. You can bring friends if you think they will enjoy the space. 10. Women only. 11. We will provide labels for your toys or equipment. We will not provide labels for your head space or your behavior. 12. In case you haven't guessed by now, or heard all the rumors that have been flying around town, this party is intended to be a celebration of undomesticated female sexual energy." the right side reads, in all caps, "this is an attempt to lure you to yet another sinfully outrageous event designed for women who are eager to be corrupted", then in regular capitalization, "October 28, 8:00 p.m. The doors will be closed at 10:00. Please RSVP at 626-7381 so that reservations can be made for brunch the following Sunday." /end id]

This is all to say that at the 202 level, I don't have a prescribed answer or rule to recommend. You have to identify what works for you, what is or isn't good or safe for you, what level of damage is actually okay. Humans have the right to do things that aren't great for them! But more than that, sexual drama can be transformative and "real" if you want to make that a part of it for you.

Preemptively, in case this gets away: Be cool in the notes.

"Ministrations," part 3 of my king/knight illustration series 😁

from What We're Rollin Around in Bed With Sexual Silences in Feminism: A Conversation toward Ending Them by Amber Hollibaugh and Cherrie Moraga

[Image Description: A photo of a white woman bound with rope to a wheelchair. She is wearing a blindfold and she is grinning like an idiot. /end Image Description]