ari | he/she/they | late 20s | scandalous sideblog | stone butch dyke | dom/switch | not looking for new long term partners atm but flirting is fine! | if u know me from my other blogs and we're mutuals u can follow me here, just shoot me a message β€οΈ | π | no cishets please and thank u
β€οΈhi it's ari! if you know me from elsewhere please message me if you stumble upon this blog. this is just a place to be a harlot, mostly.
β€οΈi'm a tme mixed west asian stone butch lesbian (he/she/they), butch4all, mainly t4t, late 20s, polyamorous with several partners, not looking for more atm but i love to flirt. frankly, my tits and my cock look too good not to share so, know that going in β¨
β€οΈvery much into kink/bdsm. i mostly dom but i am a switch, and my posting will likely reflect this. more extensive yes/no kink list below the cut. also, i'm disabled, and my disabilities make basically any sex i have R.A.C.K. so. i might talk about such things here as well.
β€οΈnot gonna be posting about this extensively here but βοΈtransphobia/transmisogyny, biphobia, whorephobia, and racism will get you insta-blocked. also obviously no minors here either, thank u.βοΈ cishets, there isn't anything here for you, but i don't mind if my fellow gay/bi/trans/etc men follow me here as long as you're polite, nor do i mind questioning folks. just to be clear! i Will be recruiting you to lesbianism tho so watch out ;)
yes list, in no overly particular order:
domination!! particularly mindfuckery, humiliation play, discipline/obedience, pleasure domming, and brat-taming
bondage, mainly as the rigger - i especially love coming up with predicament ties for my subs
overstimulation and edging
butch4butch and butch4fem
knifeplay
blood (some, not into a Ton of gore tho)
monsterfucking (i'm Basic, i especially love vampires, but also dragons, demons, other fantasy creatures, aliens, etc)
biting/scratching/bruises and other marks, etc
gags and breathplay
sensory play like blindfolds and temperature play, especially in service to mindfucking/overstim
impact play, especially how it relates back to dominance and discipline - i have a riding crop and a flogger and i love to use them
collars and harnesses + leather in general
knights/chivalry, especially as it relates to Service and power dynamics
caretaking as a means of dominance
angels, rituals, and/or worship
doing experiments/mad scientist vibes
threesomes/foursomes/group sex
some cnc, especially the "dom decides how much you can handle" variety
somno
intox on occasion
(this list is incomplete, i'll add more as i think of things. i'll also try to keep things tagged but if any of this really bothers you please proceed with caution; this is a very casual personal blog.)
limit list (no judgement, just stuff i don't like/want):
daddy or mommy titles
certain kinds of orientation play (ie any kind of corrective rape play)
age regression
scat/vomit/urine
incest, simulated or otherwise
most medical stuff that isn't campy mad science type things
more than mild gore, ie severe bodily injury/harm
a few more "extreme" kinds of cnc like kidnapping (this is def a grey area, if you're worried about toeing the line you can just ask me nicely about it)
cannibalism/vore
d*kebre*king blogs will be blocked on sight, no exceptions
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[id: 1) the front of a coffee-stained card with a black and white vintage comic style drawing of a naked woman, hanging from the ceiling by her bound wrists, getting whipped across the ass by a full-dressed woman. there are multiple marks from the whip on her.
2) the inside of the card. the left side reads: "Rules of the House 1. You don't have to do anything. That includes watching. 2. You don't have to deny yourself anything, provided you can find (a) participants, (b) equipment, (c) space, and (d) consent to do it. 3. No dogs. They are too big, and take up room that could be allotted to voluptuous women. No lizards or canaries. They are too small, and may get lost in the chip dip or crushed underfoot by dancers who have thrown Caution to the Winds. 4. You can come with your monogamous lover, make it with her, and leave your contract unblemished. You can also come with your vibrator, buzz off, and leave without having broken your vow of celibacy. 5. If you want to get so high that you can't take care of yourself, be prepared to have other people take charge of you. That means we do things like confiscate your car keys. 6. Bring refreshments. 7. Come dressed as a character in one of your sexual fantasies. 8. There is room to crash, but you may not have a pillow all to yourself. 9. You can bring friends if you think they will enjoy the space. 10. Women only. 11. We will provide labels for your toys or equipment. We will not provide labels for your head space or your behavior. 12. In case you haven't guessed by now, or heard all the rumors that have been flying around town, this party is intended to be a celebration of undomesticated female sexual energy." the right side reads, in all caps, "this is an attempt to lure you to yet another sinfully outrageous event designed for women who are eager to be corrupted", then in regular capitalization, "October 28, 8:00 p.m. The doors will be closed at 10:00. Please RSVP at 626-7381 so that reservations can be made for brunch the following Sunday." /end id]
Kink 101 establishes as a foundation that this is sexual improv, and if that makes you feel cringe or whatever then get over it. Essentially these are agreed upon bits with certain understood risks that we all take on together because we want to. "The Heel is pretending to be a bad guy, but it's for show, see?" is ultimately true.
But Kink 202 recognizes that most people often feel as if the actor's sorrow and joy are real, even if we cognitively know we're watching a play. That's why drama and theater remain compelling since the invention of language. So, when you play-pretend the heel or slaughtered lamb or naughty child or whatever, you are borrowing the story's psyche. Not totally, not forever, not because you agree, but because the performance serves us. Often it gets us off, but it also might provide catharsis, validation, closure, etc. In that way it is "real" the way tears and laughter in response to a story are real.
Critical thinking checkpoint: how real do you think "tears and laughter in response to a story" actually are? In your experience, do you get totally absorbed in stories or is that rather difficult for you? How does that compare to your peers? How might the variation in this "realness" inform someone's risks and benefits in partaking in sexual drama?
This is all to say that at the 202 level, I don't have a prescribed answer or rule to recommend. You have to identify what works for you, what is or isn't good or safe for you, what level of damage is actually okay. Humans have the right to do things that aren't great for them! But more than that, sexual drama can be transformative and "real" if you want to make that a part of it for you.
Thank you, perverts in my notes, for reminding me of my own post. Kink can be just fucking! But also, c'mon, lemme stick my fingers in your psyche and wiggle them around in there, pleeeease please let me help reprogram you. Also Kink 303 branches into two specialization tracks: Medical Degree and Clown College. The latter is obviously more highly respected.
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[desperately horny voice] haha yeah did you know that studies have shown that vocal expressions of pain actually increase your pain tolerance? yeah, even if it's volitional, you should really be making lots of loud noises while you're in pain. please. if you want we can even practice right now.
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found an angel wandering around last night. it was standing in the street dazed, looking up at a flourescent light. didn't want it to get hit by a car so i tried to nudge it onto the sidewalk but it started getting agitated when it realized i was there. poor thing seems to be almost totally blind; there's a crack in its halo so maybe that's why. i managed to leash it and that calmed it down a bit. ended up bringing it home and it's just been sitting on my bedroom floor staring at the ceiling light. anyone know what angels eat?
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[Image Description: A photo of a white woman bound with rope to a wheelchair. She is wearing a blindfold and she is grinning like an idiot. /end Image Description]