Save Yourself

I was talking to a guy at a bar last weekend, and he was like “Yeah, I didn’t really wanna hook up with this person. But she kept asking me and I felt bad so I just did it. I didn’t really like it. But it was whatever.”

And I’m like… “Dude, that’s not okay. You have the right to say no if you don’t want to. And the other person should accept that and leave you alone.”

And that’ll be a NOVEL concept for them. Like they never considered that they could say no and stand firm in it. Because they’re convinced that as men they should always want sex, even if they don’t actually want it. It’s so sad.

what binds all americans together culturally is Big Drink

and you might be saying "is this fat shaming" or "but mayor bloomberg outlawed Big Drink in nyc" or "gays are so annoying about their iced coffee" or some other dumb comment but no open your minds, Big Drink isn't just sugary or caffeinated beverages

every day i see one of you hydration bitches (affectionate) on the train with a water bottle so big a toddler could drown in it. that too is Big Drink. we literally invented a bigger beer can (tall boy) in wisconsin in the 60s in the service of Big Drink

Sex is not essential. You can live without it. Full stop.

Not having sex isn't shameful or a sign of failure. It also doesn't make anyone boring.

You are not entitled to having sex with anybody and nobody is entitled to having sex with you.

Sex is not what makes someone an adult.

Nobody's worth is defined by how much sex they have or don't have.

Sex is not equally important to everyone.

You can have fulfilling and happy relationships without sex.

You should only have sex on your own terms, not because you feel like you owe it to someone, or because you feel like you'd be incomplete without it.

Know your boundaries around sex and be firm about them. Know how to respect other people's boundaries.

The previous point also applies when it comes to discussing sex. If someone doesn't wanna talk about it or hear about it you have to back down.