When gay people say “I’m not interested in having sex with someone of the opposite sex” they flip their lid. They go into this “HOLY SHIT DATING DOESN’T HAVE TO MEAN HAVING SEX?? WHAT THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH YOU??” rant. 

I mean yes, Im not interested in dating a biological female full stop as a gay man - but its asinine to ignore that sex is a part of a romantic relationship for almost all of us, gay asexuals are in the minority. 

So what do you expect from us exactly? We fought to have gay sex decriminalised and we are still fighting for gay sex education. After decades of tireless work we are finally making major steps to prevent/cure AIDS. Our sexuality is an innate part of who we are and you are asking us to ignore a large part of it. By that I don’t mean we’re sex craved maniacs (though thats the narrative I see a lot), but we have had to fight for our sex to not be illegal - do you not understand the significance of that? We fought for our right to have sex the way we want to and now you want to take that away from us while claiming to be part of the same community and supporting us. Anyone who claims to be gay or our “ally” while supporting this rhetoric is nothing more than a wolf in sheep’s clothing. A lot of gay people will spend a significant part of their lives in the closet, wishing they could change. Once these people have come out of the closet, to then tell them that ACTUALLY they should still have have sex with people they’re not attracted to or accept a sexless relationship is nothing short of evil and homophobic. 

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Instead, Freire proposes that teachers and students act as co-creators of knowledge, where students become active participants in their own learning through questions and dialogue. Teachers are also open to changing their understanding of topics in the process of critical dialogue - the goal is not "student learns Fact A and memorizes it as presented," but instead the goal is the knowledge itself, discovered collaboratively by teacher and student, who are acting with empathy and respect towards each other. This also starts the process of the oppressed being able and empowered to question structures of power, take agency, and actively participate in the transformation of society.

When women complain that men are not doing their share of the chores it’s always: have you tried communicating that with them? Have you spoken to them about it? Have you given them a list of chores to do? Basically, have you done everything humanly to make it easier for him to do these chores?

I saw another one recently where a woman was complaining that her husband asked her three times when a certain appointment was and she said things like this put the mental load on her and was just draining. Basically every single comment was some variation of telling her she needed to put it in a calendar, saying that he probably has other things on his mind because of work or male-dominated chores (when the oil needs changing, when the grass needs mowing, etc), or basically telling her that he has a job so remembering all of this is hard and she needs to help him. (Or just insulting her.)

Meanwhile, I saw a post where a guy said that his wife always ate his fries when they got fast food so instead of doing anything about it, he hid the fries or ate them before she could get any. The responses? SHE needs to communicate better about what foods she wants in the future. On a different post where a woman was complaining that a man was eating all the snacks she would buy for herself, no matter how much asked him not to and actively hid the snacks, half of the suggestions were that she needed to buy more snacks because he clearly wanted them even if he wasn’t communicating it properly. So women eating men’s food and not asking for their own is poor communication and she needs to communicate better. But men eating women’s women’s food and not not asking for their own is poor communication but women should understand that it means he wants the snacks and get them?

Then when men don’t pull their weight in the household it’s: maybe he’s stressed from work. Maybe he’s depressed. Maybe he doesn’t know what needs doing. You, at the woman, need to communicate with him about this.

Don’t even get me started on the fact that people still assume that men are working and paying for everything while women remain at home, despite most households having two working adults.