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Not to mention it’s the color of Qifrey’s eyes I don’t have the time to go into that

And I was thinking. You know what other spell I saw animated and went oh wow that’s so pretty and not the colors I expected it to be animated as?

Qifrey’s water dragon. Which does in fact have the traditional fire magic coloring

Please take this common grackle gently prodding an abandoned bagel

Then, while you are at the event, make that clear. At 10:00, remind the folks you’re with that you’ve got to be home by 11:00. If they disregard this, it’s up to you how you solve it — I’m the sort of person to just suffer it out, but then I’ve gotten to the point that I can have a conversation about my boundaries. Particularly, “you didn’t care about my deadline, and that hurts. I don’t want to go to events like this anymore if my boundaries aren’t respected.”

Sometimes complications do arise! Talk things out. “I understand why you had to stay longer, and while I’m upset at the situation, I know it wasn’t on purpose, so I’m not mad at you” is a fucking star.

And sometimes you need to bail early. So say that. “Hey — I’m way out of my depth. Ideas?”

Go somewhere quiet and rejoin the party some other time.

Get a Rideshare if affordable/applicable.

Leave together! Maybe they’re ready to bail too.

Move the party. “Anyone want to go to Taco Bell? I’ll pay if you drive.”

That was the exact thought process