for my spuffy obsession

How Big, How Blue, How Beautiful (yes, the song is about Spike's eyes and Buffy grieving him)

Kiss with a Fist (season 6)

The Bomb (someone in the Spuffy tag already talked about this)

Buckle (Spike's perspective on the Spuffy relationship from season 5 to 7)

You've got the Love (Buffy's perspective of the Spuffy relationship in season 6 and 7)

Shake it out (Buffy season 7)

Which Witch (Mainly vibes but it just reminds me of the balcony scene from season 6)

Never let me go (Spike, season 7, especially when he's insane)

Everybody scream (season 6)

Cosmic Love (Spike, season 5 onwards)

Ship to wreck (I can't even say whose perspective when it is, it's just there)

Sympathy Magic (Buffy post resurrection)

Free (Buffy, season 5)

No light, no light (both season 6 and post season 7. I don't accept questions on this one as I can't explain)

Delilah (Sprucilla, specially "Lover's walk" as Spike is still hung up on Dru but aware of his connection to Buffy)

Witch Dance (season 6, Smashed and onwards)

Breath of Life (full Spuffy, "Something Blue" but also seasons 6 and 7)

Dream Girl Evil (Buffy's assumptions in season 6)

Hunger (Your honor, it's them. They are both so desperate for love. Start to finish)

Howl (listen to the song. Tell me it's not them. It's them)

What kind of man (Bangel. Bangel Hate to be specific)

Heavy in your arms (season 6)

Choreomania (it just screams "once more with feeling")

Kraken (Spike pre soul, kinda giving "Seeing Red" and also "Fool for Love")

Rabbit Heart (raise it up) (season 7 and season 5. Also season 2. Don't question me)

Sky full of song (Ats season 5)

All this and Heaven too (Spike, from "Fool for Love" onwards)

Light of Love (Buffy's season 6 healing arc, Spike freshly ensouled)

Hardest of Hearts (Spike about Buffy)

3x20 The Prom

BUFFY: I’ll never have a normal life. 

ANGEL: Right, you’ll always be a Slayer. But that’s all the more reason why you should have a real relationship instead of this, this freak show…I didn’t mean that. 

BUFFY: I’m gonna go. 

6x10 Wrecked:

SPIKE: I just don’t see why you have to run off so quick. Thought we could…

BUFFY: Not gonna happen. Last night was the end of this freak show.

SPIKE: Don’t say that.

Marti Noxon wrote both so either she happens to repeat herself, or she was calling back to it. I hope it’s the latter, cuz dang it’s a telling character moment if so. (a) That phrase would have to have been stuck in Buffy’s mind for years, in what couldn’t have been a good way, (b) she’s deliberately deploying it against Spike because she knows it hurts, but © is also probably primarily deploying it against herself, because she’s the only one that knows the reference.

5x10 Into the Woods

BUFFY: I thought [Riley] was…dependable.

XANDER: Dependable? What is he, State Farm?

BUFFY: You know what I mean.

XANDER: Yeah. I think you mean convenient. I think you took it for granted that he was gonna show up when you wanted him to, and take off when you didn’t.

6x10 Wrecked

BUFFY: Shut up.

SPIKE: I’m just sayin’…vampires get you hot.

BUFFY: A vampire got me hot. One. But he’s gone. You’re just…You’re just convenient.

Spike looks hurt.

Given that Marti Noxon also wrote Into the Woods, both word choices are seeming super deliberate to me now. The combination of “freakshow” and “convenient” means that Buffy is deploying the words used to dismiss or insult both of her last two relationships. Like “freakshow,” that context around “convenient” makes it come off as a word that Buffy is using to hurt not just Spike, but also herself. Because “convenient” calls back to a moment in which Buffy felt bad about herself for possibly using someone.

"What are you doing out here? Five words or less."

"Out... For... A... Walk... Bitch"