Wounds to be tended, lessons to be learned.

we need more pathetic female characters written by authors who don't hate women

to be clear since this is making the rounds: she has to be an absolute loser in no way that can be pinned on her gender. no "i'm just a girl tee-hee" stuff. straight up just a loser (nondenominational)

addendum: she must be the most important person in the whole narrative

Lilly Billy is trying so hard to understand the record player. She’s so enamoured by the sound machine. She cannot fathom it makes sound. Her first album is Music for the Masses - Depeche Mode btw

at a certain point the question is simply, are you willing to care about other people being treated unfairly when it not only doesn't directly benefit you, but might actually directly disadvantage you? (or, to be more honest, remove an advantage that you have come to view as a natural part of the world?) the fact is that many people's answer to that is no, and this is a position they have come to hold out of fully rational self-interest. and you're not going to argue them out of this position when the core principles they're acting on are entirely detached from whatever sense of compassion you're trying to elicit.

there's some amount of accidental insight when you see transandrobros sealioning trans women asking for a reason to care about transmisogyny. for men as a class, for transmisogyny exempt people as a whole, there is not a compelling reason to care about transmisogyny. you already benefit from it! you are clearly already highly invested in turning transmisogyny to your advantage and it seems like you want to continue doing so! you as an individual are simply going to have to develop some fucking principles

wizard watching a witch get burned at the stake: anyone else feel like there’s a lot of wizard erasure? wizards just don’t have as much visibility in society as witches. i’ve decided to call this phenomenon magicandrophobia.

i still think about the fucking quesadilla terf

white kids get to have quirky racist phases black kids dont get to be kids

black kids get their lives stolen from them if they defend themselves from white kids "going through a phase"

teenagers aren’t the vanguards of the pro-censorship movement. the closest thing that happens to this is that bad actors who are adults exploit teenagers’ age-appropriate discomfort with violent and sexual art to incite internet stochastic terrorism campaigns. but even this happens far less often than adults just silencing children and pretending to be speaking for them by proxy.

i hate the misuse of the term “puritanism” in this context but the idea of teens (“puriteens”) being the principle driving demographic behind this cultural trend is genuinely pretty fucking insulting, considering adults who use kids and teens as a cudgel (“think of the children!”) are actually the people driving movements toward censorship.

saw a post arguing that trans*ndrophobia should exist as a term even though other types of men do not get their own unique terms (ie, black men do not get a counterpart term to misogynoir, etc), and that the reason for this is because "discrimination against transmascs is more complex and nuanced than against cis male minorities" and that's gotta be one of the whitest, most birthday boy ass sentences ever conceived.