I Have No Idea What Im Doing

“He appears to be attracted to vulnerability. One way that this warning sign manifests itself is in cases of men who are attracted to women (or girls) who are much younger than they are. Why, for example, does a twenty-two-year-old man pursue a sixteen-year-old adolescent? Because he is stimulated and challenged by her? Obviously not. They are at completely different developmental points in life with a dramatic imbalance in their levels of knowledge and experience. He is attracted to power and seeks a partner who will look up to him with awe and allow him to lead her. Of course, he usually tells her the opposite, insisting that he wants to be with her because of how unusually mature and sophisticated she is for her age. He may even compliment her on her sexual prowess and say how much power she has over him, setting up the young victim so that she won’t recognize what is happening to her. Even without a chronological age difference, some abusive men are drawn to women who have less life experience, knowledge, or self-confidence, and who will look up to the man as a teacher or mentor. Be alert for the man who seems to be attracted to power imbalances.”

Why Does He Do That, Lundy Bancroft.

Studies in the United States have indicated that female victims of intimate partner violence tend to be younger than their assailants, as female victims are often in relationships with men who are older than them. Couples with large age discrepancies were found to be at a particularly high risk for this type of homicide, especially when the male partner was around 15 years older than the female partner. 

My mom loves BTS so so so much and she is also very savage so enjoy:

“I bet you, I love Jungkook more than you. I saw him on my dream last night. What did you dream of my daughter? Oh wait! I don’t care that wasn’t a question hahahhahah *leaves the room while leaving the door open*”.

“Can I exchange you for Jimin? I mean he is cuter than you so it’s only fair”.

“*comes into my room* what are you doing? Are you busy? Whatever let’s watch when BTS won their first award. It’s more important“.

“I told my neighbor friend that we listen to BTS and she dared ask me ‘who is BTS’ so I maturely educated her”.

“OMG they talked about BTS on the radio. This stupid country finally did something good”.

“*To my dad* You are lucky I didn’t know BTS before marrying you or my standards would have skyrocket”. 

“You are BTS’ age, yet they are touring the world and you refuse to even shower? Move your BUTT go shower RN“.

Pro Tip - Never drop the word wedding while planning if you don’t need to. Most things can be for “an event you’re planning.” This obviously doesn’t include things like the venue, DJ (who needs specific wedding songs), and the wedding dress company if you’re going that route versus just buying a dress.

For my wedding I got “discounted” cupcakes, flowers, decor, bridesmaids dresses, groomsman attire, and invitations. I did this by either searching for things that aren’t marketed for weddings or not telling the companies I was working with it was for a wedding. Because honestly, most of the time they don’t need to know why you’re ordering.

These companies target people planning their weddings and markup everything the second “wedding” is said. And it’s said often because people assume the services change exponentially for weddings. They absolutely do not. 

The best example are the cupcakes I had for my wedding. I used a designer cupcake store in town instead of spending $1000 on a wedding cake. If you place a large order of cupcakes with a cake tree for display - it costs about $150 for 100 (which is what I did). When you order their “wedding” package - the price raised to a $700 base for 100 cupcakes. The only other perk includes a “tasting.” Forget that. Our tasting was buying a few cupcakes in flavors we thought we’d like and picked three. It cost maybe $20. 

What these companies do is scummy and targets people who don’t have information about the event industry.