I am afab, and generally speaking I'm cool with that, however, the only time I have felt a visceral hate towards my assigned gender is when it's being sexualized.
This is not in the sense of not wanting to be sexualized, or being sex repulsed (if anything I'd say I'm hypersexual) but more so my gender being sexualized. If you're sexualizing me for who I am, that's fine, great, I'm glad you're enjoying me, but if you're sexualizing me for being a woman, or for having female biology, I want to claw both our eyes out. I also tend to dislike gendered terms like "Good girl/boy".
The best way I can describe it is that my gender is just not important enough to mention, but also I'm too aware of the social biases so enjoy and gendered "dirty talk", as opposed to humiliation/objectification which most people find more extreme.
I wonder if anyone else feels like this. It almost feels like objectification but not the fun consensual kind.