Submitting without a gendered dynamic

I see how restrained you are. day after day after day. I see how you've been punished for expressing your brashness, your cruelty, in the "real world". I see how careful you are not to scare people away. I see how you pull yourself back. make your touch more gentle, your words less harsh. keeping your hard emotions locked up tight inside in case you hurt someone with them. I see you playing nice with the world, darling, though it rarely plays nice back.

like, it's okay to hit it. it really is! and you'll hurt it, that's fine, and if it breaks and bleeds, it'll survive, it'll heal...

it'll still love you, too, it wouldn't let you hurt it if it didn't. it'll love you more for hurting it. it'll appreciate you more, it'll thank you!

and it knows you need to let it out, so you can let it out on this thing, where it's safe, where it's okay, where it's wanted and liked.

and yeah, you wanna push someone past the pain they 'like' and do the stuff that'll really hurt, and like, it craves that kind of pain too. make it cry, make it hurt, because it wants to feel that too. you want to satisfy yourself until it's a broken mess, that's fine too, because it wants to be broken, it wants to be dismantled!

and afterwards, well there's aftercare and stuff. you can be horrified, but it'll tell you it's okay! it'll tell you that it's fine, that it's okay. you're not a bad person for wanting this and even though you hurt it you haven't harmed it. it didn't just let you hurt it, but it asked you for it.

it feels very strongly about this: dominants and sadists and everyone with a desire to do something to hurt others or use force to get what they want deserve to be able to voice those fantasies, and not have to preface every single one by saying they'd only inflict it on a 'willing victim'. if this thing can say it wants to get beaten and bruised and violently used then there has to be room for someone to say that they want to inflict that on someone!

being sadistic and dominant is more than just wanting to hit someone and bark orders. they're about wanting control and power, and you can take it when it's given by willing subs like itself, but that's not always fun. sometimes sadism is wanting to hit someone who doesn't want to be hit. sometimes dominance is controlling someone who doesn't want to be controlled. sometimes bondage is restraining someone who desperately wants to be free. sometimes, you want someone to be actually for real afraid of what's going to happen to them.

so this thing tries to make it easy. it's just wired up that way. it wants to be hurt and dominated and tied up and tortured and it wants what it wants to support its dominants and tell them that it's okay for them to have fucked up fantasies regarding what they want to do to it

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And when you rightly ask why you would ever do that, I just flatly tell you that I've already decided I'm raping you tonight, and there's not anything you can do about that. But I'm feeling kind enough to let you choose whether you'll remember it or not.

You’re going to sit there and touch yourself while I watch. But here’s the rule: you don’t get to come until the alarm goes off. And I won’t tell you how long that will be. Could be ten minutes. Could be two hours. That’s not your concern. You don’t get to know. You don’t get to ask.

All you’re allowed to do is obey. Struggle. Shake. Whimper. But you do not come until I say so.