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Women have always been described as the weaker sex and I find that genuinely funny when you actually think about it for more than thirty seconds. Men are governed by a biological drive so consuming and so constant that it has been responsible for the collapse of careers, marriages, governments and dynasties across the entirety of recorded human history. The same men who built systems to control women were simultaneously being controlled by something they could not turn off and could not reason their way out of and could not stop making catastrophic decisions because of. The reason men control women is because women inherently hold more power over them.

Women have hormonal cycles and men like to treat this as evidence of instability while conveniently ignoring their equivalent is permanent and continuous and has no off switch. The male biological imperative just keeps running in the background of every interaction, every decision, every relationship.

The hypocrisy is the part I find the funniest. The same man who will philosophize at length about female emotionality and irrationality will blow up his entire life for something he could not control for thirty minutes. Will say things about women’s behavior that his own behavior contradicts so completely you would laugh if it were not so consistent across so many men across so many centuries that it stopped being surprising sometime around the Renaissance.

The women who are genuinely compelling and genuinely believable in any context are not the ones who have constructed the most elaborate fictions. They are the ones who have lived so broadly and so fully and accumulated so many real experiences across so many different worlds and circles and situations that they have an almost inexhaustible reservoir to draw from. When you have actually been in the room, actually traveled to the place, actually known the person, actually navigated the situation, you do not really have to construct anything. You just select from what is real and present it with the framing that serves you and that is an entirely different skill from lying and a significantly more powerful one.

This is why I am so insistent about actually living. About going places, about inserting yourself into situations, about collecting experiences and people and stories. Every real experience you accumulate becomes material. Every person you actually know becomes a reference. Every place you have actually been becomes a detail you can reach for under pressure with the ease and the specificity that only genuine memory produces.

The person who has actually spent time in a specific city does not describe it the way someone who researched it does (tbt to the era of fake city reviews) The person who has actually moved through a certain social world does not talk about it the way someone who read about it does. Real experience has a texture and a specificity and an ease of recall that fabrication cannot replicate under sustained scrutiny and the people worth impressing are almost always the ones scrutinizing most carefully.

Context and framing applied to a genuinely rich and genuinely lived life is the most powerful tool available. You are selecting which parts of what is real to present and in what light and that requires judgment and intelligence and self knowledge rather than the specific kind of sustained anxiety that pure fabrication demands. It is also sustainable in a way that invention is not because you are never more than one follow up question away from something you actually know.

What scares me is the cumulative epistemological effect of existing in an environment where nothing can be verified and everything has a potential agenda and the tools for distinguishing real from manufactured are degrading faster than most people’s ability to compensate for that degradation. The rational response to that environment is a level of skepticism that most people find socially and psychologically uncomfortable to maintain consistently. So they do not maintain it. And the people who understand that are counting on exactly that. There is no longer a visible seam between real and manufactured and that is a relatively recent development.

AI generated content is now indistinguishable from organic content in most cases and that threshold was crossed earlier than most people realize. The woman giving you a genuine looking review of a supplement from what appears to be her kitchen is not necessarily a woman or a kitchen. The comments section of any viral post is increasingly populated by coordinated responses designed to look like spontaneous cultural moments.

The micro influencer pipeline specifically has become so sophisticated that the disclosure requirements that were supposed to create transparency have essentially become another layer of the performance. The aesthetic of authenticity is now the most valuable and most deliberately constructed commodity in the attention economy and the people constructing it are very good at their jobs.

Pre 2019 information is significantly more reliable as a baseline because the incentive structures around content creation were different and the tools for mass manipulation were less developed.

Archived forums are some of the most valuable information sources available precisely because they predate the current content economy and were written by people with no particular incentive to sell you anything. Reddit threads from 2012, old Makeupalley reviews, archived forum discussions from niche communities.

The Wayback Machine and Google’s date filter are tools I use regularly and I think everyone should know how to use them. Filtering search results to a specific date range immediately changes the quality of what you are accessing. The older the source the less likely it was optimized to manipulate you and at this point that alone makes it significantly more valuable than almost anything produced recently.

Primary sources wherever possible. The actual study, the actual book, the actual documented account rather than someone’s summary of it which has almost certainly been filtered through at least one agenda by the time it reaches you.

Veronica Kamina

You see how Shera7 wasn't? And Anna Bey? Meghan Markle? Kerry Washington? Hailey Stefield?? See how no one is trying to humble Kendall Jenner? Lori Harvey?

Keep your man low-key. Do not EVAAAAAAAAAAA whatever happens post him Ever. Boyfriends are embarrassing. All of them. Husband's as well. Men in general are an embarrassment you have to treat them like that you have to hide them. My husband brags on me not the other way around most people in my real life don't even know I'm married or don't know who I'm married to like no I'm embarrased like I'm tied to some XY you would need a gun to voluntarily get that information out of me I don't even wear a ring on my finger it's around my neck UNDER my top like no. Ew. A man will ALWAYS want to have the upper hand and when you make him the star of the show he'll try humiliate you usually by cheating and then embarrassing you. If he ever feels like you're bigger than him he will try tip the scale back always always always by cheating or playing you for granted. The way relationships with men work is. You exist. They are grateful. You see prince Harry he left ROYALTY behind for Meghan he is NEVER cheating on her the price he paid to have her is so big she could beat the shit out of him and he'll stay. If a man knows he's won you it's over.

So lets not act surprised when Taylor Swift gets played by that Magarat she chose to tie herself to. On the plus side we will get an album and you KNOW it'll eat so bad. Or when that annoying Twink rat that looks like it stinks finally cheats on our girl Sel and frees her from whatever bs that marriage is. Hopefully SHE doesn't release an album she can't sing to save her life. Oh and guys when eventually timotee shalameeeee fumbles the Queen King Kylie let's pray to gaud himself she finds her a masculine guy like she's literally Kylie Jenner why would she run with a Twink rat.

When I first started i knew little to nothing about male psychology. Now i consider myself a pro at seeing through BS and why guys do what they do, or whatever. But that was through experience and dealing with trash older men with a mentality of an idiotic 20 year old 🙄 anyway

The best way to progress is to experience life through relationships, mistakes, past lessons, understanding male psychology to get what you want.