I really wish I could figure out why using tumblr regularly stresses me out so much? I have a vague sense of why this is the case for social media generally (don't want to do something wrong, don't want to be perceived incorrectly, don't want to interact too much and come across weird, don't want to miss out by not interacting, don't want to hurt someone's feelings by not interacting, immediately feel irrationally bad about who's a mutual or not, not knowing who's reading/seeing what, general feeling of being surveilled by unknown internet users), but ..... tumblr is the lowest-stakes social media imaginable. I could just reblog people's textiles and plants and linguistics jokes all day and no one would care. I could put all my posts in a queue to get dumped at one time per day so that no one can tell whether I'm looking at my phone a lot or a little. The only people who can easily id me are people in the same little circle I'm in irl already. This should be no problem?
....but instead using this site on a regular basis ratchets up the anxiety wildly. (This blog is newish but I've been either on tumblr or tumblr-adjacent for many years.) The best compromise I've found is to just check in on the handful of low-traffic tags I'm most interested in, but then I miss everybody's life updates and weird jokes and interesting links and surreal nonsense! Which sucks.
Seriously how do people do this; I am genuinely asking




















