Tree Witch

I do think it’s worth “examining your kinks,” at the very least because if you can find an underlying theme you can use it to find other, stranger kinks. Broaden your horizons

Asking “Why does this seemingly self-evidently horrible thing excite me so much?” can lead you to so many cheerful vistas of self-discovery!

YES! And ya know, occasionally you may examining your kinks and discover that some of them find some of their roots in parts of your personality and socialization that you’d rather not look into. Which is uncomfortable to discover, but if you shut the door and go “well, I guess this kink if forbidden now and we will suppress it”, you block the path to both pleasure and personal growth. Whereas if you examine that part in a way that is kind and nonjudgmental to yourself, you may find that you unlocks doors to a whole new world of being a better kinkier stranger person.

Thinking about how around Halloween I went to a gay bar and one of the bartenders had "We Won't Go Back" bedazzled on the back of their costume... of fucking Ruth Bader Ginsburg. The way so many LGBTQ people in the United States are stuck in utterly false consciousness about how their rights were won and who their heroes should be genuinely makes me want to cry.

The inevitable result of bourgeoisie "civil rights" discourses is that marginalized people come to idolize and lionize the members of the ruling class who put the rubber stamp on what rights and concessions are eeked out to them after years of struggle. The people who actually struggled, who led their communities to fight and win against the laws and systems that kept them oppressed, become forgotten or are viewed as simply one part of the process that ends with the Supreme Court Justice or President, who by definition can never be their allies or leaders. It fucking sucks.

Wow everyone is going through it. Hold my hand

reblog to hold the hand of the person you reblogged from

platonic dates. platonic dates. platonic dates. let's go to a bookstore together, let's just buy some coffee, let's go eat our favourite food together, let's buy each other flowers, let's write poems for each other, let's write letter to each other, let's go shopping together, let's go on a walk together, let's just go buy groceries together, let's just get some juice and sit on stairs, let's go to the movies, let's go for a hike. let's just be together.

the commodification of friendship is the most annoying thing to come out of the internet in ages. like actually i love to break this to you but you're supposed to help your friends move even if it's hard work. or stay up with them when they're sad even if you're gonna lose sleep. you're supposed to listen to their fears and sorrows even if it means your own mind takes on a little bit of that weight. that's how you know that you care. they will drive you to the airport and then you will make them soup when they're sick. you're supposed to make small sacrifices for them and they are supposed to do that for you. and there's actually gonna be rough patches for both of you where the balance will be uneven and you will still be friends and it will not be unhealthy and they will not be abusive. life is not meant to be an endless prioritization of our own comfort if it was we would literally never get anywhere ever. jesus.

take care of yourself

being an adult is just dragging urself kicking and screaming to things that you will enjoy and that will be good for you

clenching my teeth and muttering under my breath "you'll be happy you did it you'll be happy you did it you'll be happy you did it" as I physically force myself out the door to go Do Things

being very firm with myself every time I think about bailing and saying "no. you committed to this. it will improve your quality of life. you will enjoy it. now put on your big boy pants and go."

This is super important. Platonic relationships can be extremely moving and very emotional. Some people would literally give anything for some of their friends and that is an amazing part of humanity.