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hey! ducks are adorable and everybody likes feeding them, but bread causes a number of environmental and health problems that could easily be avoided. instead of bread, consider feeding duckies:

frozen peas or corn that’s been defrosted!

romaine lettuce (torn into small pieces)

bird feed of any kind

rice (cooked or uncooked!)

uncooked oats

grapes cut in half

Fresh navel with a titanium curve featuring Amber Swarovskis from @anatometalinc

aries - can be selfish at times, but like venus in leo, they have the best intentions. their love is a roller coaster ride to heaven, always climbing. give your aries the reins and let them show you true love.

taurus - taurus in love is completely at home. they bring calm, comfort and divine affection to a relationship. they are romantic and steady, intimate and focused. their love life are as beautiful as the moon. 

gemini - now this is a fun relationship! venus in gemini is super sweet and super bouncy, with a playful innocence that i just adore. they might not seem the most committed, but take the time to love them and you’ll see they really are. 

cancer - this is a warm love, a sleepy one. cancers are emotional creatures, and their love is emotional to match. they can smother you in kisses and it still won’t be enough for them. they need a lot of love back though, so make sure you can provide. 

leo - they will love you the way a child loves; their love is pure and sweet, loud and innocent. they have hearts of gold and will always want you to feel their love. make sure they feel it too. 

virgo - devoted lovers, venus in virgo will care for you like no other. romance may not be their strong point, but they will show you their love in service. be sure the care is mutual, they’re softer than they look. 

libra - you’ve never known romance until you’ve known a libra in love. they really were born to love, and if they intend to love you, you’ll know for sure. they can sweep you off your feet, waltz through life with you, and tuck you in at night with a kiss for measure. they can be your perfect person. 

scorpio - they either love you or hate you, they want a relationship to be real and strong and pure. venus in scorpio either loves or hates, but when they love, they love like no other. they are quiet and chaotic, and absolutely amazing. 

sagittarius - love with a sagittarius is an adventure and a half! they will take you across the world with them, leading you by the hand. if you can get their hearts thumping and their soul humming, you’ll be golden together. 

capricorn - capricorn can find it hard to show their love; but if you know them, you’ll know the little things they do for you are all about the dedication and adoration they have for you. they build others up, becoming a pillar for them when they need it most. treat them sweetly back. 

aquarius - they will love you like nobody else; you might not understand their love every time, but it’s always there. they’re strong and straightforward, and their love is the same. they will shock you and lift you up, the only boundary attached to their love is the skies they reach for. 

somebody: don’t worry it will go away

Venus rules all things beautiful in love, lust, and desire, so it only makes sense that this placement represents how you attract your lovers. This sign is where you express love in all types of relationships, such as family, friends, crushes, and significant others. When looking at compatibility between you and your love interest, combinations of both your sun and venus sign are essential to getting a better understanding of each other. Often times your venus and sun signs may be the same which in turn cause an ever bigger influence on your acts of love, but this may not happen every time. Venus rules Libra and Taurus which means both signs are associated with beauty, sensuality, and materialism. If you have Venus in Libra or Venus in Taurus these placements are comfortable here since the planets are in place with their ruler. 

Venus in Aries: The admirable child-like spirit in Aries is no different in this placement. You attract your lovers with your ability to literally not give a fuck. You go after you want, no questions asked. You don’t like to waste time so anyone who plays games is getting cut off. Your actions are impulsive, almost selfish, actually very selfish, but this won’t be a problem to the person who really understands you. However, you will be attracted to many people since you get bored easily and can fall in and out of love quickly. Overall, you exude confidence, are not afraid to stand out, and you want things to be simple & direct. 

Venus in Taurus: Loyalty and constant devotion are your greatest attributes with friends and family. In love you seek security and comfortability often ruling out those who are fake and filled with drama. You enjoy fine dining and fine living. You are what they call husband or wifey material because of your desire to settle down and build a home with someone, kind of like Cancer. Change does not come easy to you so you may find yourself stubborn and set in your ways when it comes to love. The strong appetite for sensual gratification in the bull reaches from the dining table to the bedroom, and they will make sure you are taken care of in both matters. 

Venus In Gemini: It’s a no brainer that the way to your heart is through your mind. This Gemini is fun, flirty, and just wants to enjoy life in a number of ways. For this reason, you can only be tied down by someone who is capable of keeping you interested for, essentially, the rest of your life. It’s important for you to truly get to know a person before getting into a relationship. Otherwise, if you are not stimulated you will move on quickly. There is never a dull moment with you and you just want to be surrounded by other individuals who share this same interest. In matters of love, the dual personality shows a good side and a dark side, but this combination creates a unique, and inspiring individual.

Venus in Cancer: You are attracted to those who need you. You aim to nurture and provide an emotional blanket for your loved ones. Your intuition runs high and you use this to better take care of your partner. Although this can make them vulnerable because you might meddle into their lives to make sure you are needed. Depending on your sun or moon sign, you can be quite emotional and hurt easily but hide it well. Like any Cancer, once you get into your shell it’s hard to get you out of it. You are loyal, a great listener, and create families out of your friends. Overall, you have a big heart and this makes you very attractive. 

Venus in Leo: In order for your heart’s desire to be satisfied you need to be loved at all times. Sex isn’t even all that important to you if you’re not being made the center of attention. Feelings of insecurity rise for the Leo when you are not told that you are different or special. You don’t want to be like everyone else, you want to stand out. You are loyal, generous, and love hard. You have a lust for life and surround yourself with colorful people. Your sunny personality makes you fun to be around. You live a lavish life and show off your relationships and hope to be shown off the same way. It’s important for your loved ones to express their love to you in grand gestures because you expect the royal treatment. 

Venus in Virgo: Like Cancer, you want your loved ones to need you and appreciate you, this makes you happiest. You work quietly into the heart of others, taking your time getting to know people by observing them. Punctuality is important to you and you take this into matters of love as well often focusing on practical aspects of a relationship rather than being romantic. You don’t ask for much in a relationship but your partner might find it hard to satisfy what you want because you focus on small details that one can easily ignore. The pickiest of all signs, the person who wants the key to your heart has to be perfect or at least close to it. Is that too much to ask? Maybe, but you’re not willing to settle for anything less.

Venus in Libra: The world you envision is one of peace and serenity. You treat others the way you’d want to be treated. When all is well, both you and your partner are putting in the same effort into the relationship. Because of how dependent you are, you will most likely always be in a relationship. You’re all about fairness. You don’t like to stir the pot so you might conform to other people’s needs just to be likable, especially to stronger personalities that make you feel threatened. However, your personable appearance and amazing social skills cause you to be attractive to others no matter what you look like. A hopeless romantic you enjoy all the beauties of romance and want your love story to be like a fairytale. 

Venus in Scorpio: Intense. Intense. Intense. The dark and mysterious qualities of Scorpio are strong in this placement since their actions are affecting their love interests. In relationships, you want all or nothing. You want someone to surrender to you and give you control. In return, you give your full attention and extreme loyalty. Consequently, you are jealous and possessive, although this can be flattering to some people. Secretive, you don’t give much away about yourself, but want to know every detail of your significant other. You can read your friends as plain as day because of how well you can pick up vibes of other people. Your strongest asset is that you are not afraid of change, in fact, you thrive on the transformation of change. 

Venus in Sagittarius: Variety is the spice of life for you. You are always roaming, moving from one place to another, never really committing to anyone. Wherever you go you’re having a good time and searching for new experiences and knowledge. You’re fun to be around because of your free spirit, open-mindedness, and ability to entertain. You take pride in what you know and can be quite judgmental, but you’re very honest. You’re attracted to people of different cultures because you want to learn their different backgrounds and experiences. In love you just want someone who is going to partake in all your adventures and not ask too much of you since you value your freedom and independence. 

Venus in Capricorn: Reserved and humble, you attract others by keeping to yourself. Those who are willing to get to know you will do so. Very goal oriented and smart, you hope that your friends are as hardworking as you. In relationships you want what is cautious and safe since you are willing to build a home and family with this person. Social class is important to you so you care about how much money you make and might marry into wealth if possible. Although you are guarded in public, you are able to get in tune with your emotions in private. You’re affectionate and can express your love in various ways. Creating partnerships comes natural to you and people will know you to be loyal and responsible. 

Venus in Aquarius: No restrictions, no emotions, no fucks given. You basically do what you want and won’t settle for anything less. In love, however, you are committed and willing to compromise to your lover’s needs, only if they are worth it. But until then, if you are single, you are sufficient all on your own. You enjoy being eccentric and attract your crushes by making yourself stand out. Ahead of your time, you feel as though you have visionary thoughts. You are able to inspire others, although, at first they don’t understand you, but once they do, you’ve already moved on to the next thing. Your loved ones appreciate your oddities and quirks since this is what makes you special to them. Direct and honest you try to be as real as possible. 

Aries - Barbarella

Taurus - Fight Club

Gemini - Donnie Darko

Cancer - Monty Python and the Holy Grail

Leo -  The Princess Bride

Virgo - Heathers

Libra - The Rocky Horror Picture Show

Scorpio - Pulp Fiction

Sagittarius - Clerks

Capricorn - The Big Lebowski

Aquarius - A Clockwork Orange

Pisces - The Room

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Drink more water. I know this sounds uwu, but seriously. Being dehydrated causes muscle weakness and fatigue. Depression is already good at doing that to you by itself, don’t make it easier. Plus, being properly hydrated helps your organs, like your liver and kidneys, function better and helps flush out toxins. Having a buildup of toxins can make you feel icky and gross, which will negatively effect your mood. If you’re like me and drink pretty much nothing but caffeinated beverages, or you hate the taste of water, then do what I do and when you finish a drink, get a third of a glass of water and force yourself to chug it before getting another drink you actually like. I started doing this two months ago, and it has DRASTICALLY improved my life. Stay hydrated. Drink water.

Start taking a daily multivitamin. When you survive on mostly depression meals (half a bag of stale Cheetos and a slice of bologna straight from the package) you tend to miss out on a lot of your basic nutritional needs, which, of course, will make you feel tired and weak. Taking just a regular multivitamin is a great place to start making sure you’re meeting all your nutritional needs. You may also look into other daily vitamins and supplements that will help with your own personal needs. For example, I’m slightly anemic, which can cause muscle fatigue and lack of energy, so I take a B12 daily, and an iron supplement once a week. I also have a poor immune system from years of suffering with an eating disorder, so I take a vitamin C. And I have really bad anxiety, which causes my heart rate and blood pressure to spike a lot, so I take a fish oil pill everyday because that helps regulate both of those. If you’re like me, and your memory is terrible, get one of those day by day pill deals and keep it somewhere you will see it every day, like right next to your toothbrush. Also, DON’T GIVE UP TAKING VITAMINS COMPLETELY JUST BECAUSE YOU MISSED A COUPLE DAYS! It’s okay if you notice on Thursday that you forgot to take Tuesday’s and Wednesday’s vitamins. You’re not a failure, and taking your vitamins 5 out of 7 days of the week is better than taking them 2 or even 0 days of the week. Don’t think about it like “oh no, I forgot to take my pills those days,” but more like “sweet, that’s two days next week I don’t have to fill up!”

If you take a medication, make sure you take it at or around the same time every day. This will help your body get used to having that medication in your system, and it will help you remember to take it. You can always keep it in the same pill thingy you keep your vitamins. Of course, it’s important to always take medication as directed (ie. with meals, at night, etc.), and if it’s a new medication, take note of any and all side effects. Write them down and discuss them with your prescribing doctor. Don’t fall into believing you’re one of those people who doesn’t need to be medicated, like I did. Less than three months on an anti-anxiety medication, and I went from “couldn’t leave the house most days” to “I’m auditioning for the Voice in ten days.” If you’re doing everything you can to maintain and control your disorders without medication, and you’re still struggling, then that medication could very well be the thing that takes you from feeling like you’re barely on top of things to feeling almost like you don’t have a disorder at all. Obviously, not everyone is the same, and what meds work for one person could make things worse for another, which is why it’s always important to discuss any side effects, symptoms, and other noticeable chances with your doctor.

Eat real food. Junk food and fast food contain a lot of fats and preservatives which can make you feel down, tired, and sluggish. Again, depression is already pretty good at making you feel these things, DON’T help it. You know how in the Sims game, when you tell a sim to cook food, you can choose a single serving or a family meal? And even when you have just one sim, you still cook the family meal so you can put it in the fridge for leftovers so they don’t have to cook the next three days. IT’S POSSIBLE TO DO THAT IN REAL LIFE. Get a family sized box of hamburger helper or something, and make it just for yourself on a day you have the energy to cook. That way, you won’t have to cook for a few days, but you’re still eating better than if you were buying fast food. This will also help you save money in the long run.

Stretch. Ideally, you should stretch for 15 minutes a day, every day, as soon as you wake up. This will help you feel more awake as well as limber you up for the day. I have never done this. However, I still take time two or three days a week to stretch. I literally do it whenever I have the time, like, when I’m waiting for my food to cook, or I find myself bored with nothing to do for 20 minutes. Stretching regularly has a lot of benefits. For one thing, it’s almost a form of meditation, and if you choose to do yoga, it IS meditation. Taking 15 minutes to clear your mind a few times a week can drastically reduce stress. Stretching also works your muscles, helping to build muscle mass and make you physically stronger, leaner, and more toned. It will help you improve your range of motion, increase longevity, and can even alleviate joint pain and arthritis, which of course will improve your mood because not being in pain is always a mood booster. Stretching also releases endorphins, those feel good happy chemicals that people with depression always have such a hard time producing. It’s also a great gateway drug to actual exercise, like strength training and cardio, so if you hope to someday be one of those people who goes jogging every morning, stretching regularly is a good place to start.

Go for walks. A vitamin D deficiency can contribute to increased depression. Sunlight is good for your brain. Fresh air is also good for your brain. Exercise, which releases endorphins, is good for your brain. Take time to go outside and be in the fresh air and sunlight. Try to make yourself really enjoy the act of walking for the sake of walking. Spend the time thinking about what you see around you, and not what’s stressing you out or whatever problems you’re currently having. One walk around the block a week could have a much more positive effect than you currently think.

Talk to people. Message that friend you haven’t seen in six months. Reply to that person you left on seen three weeks ago. It’s more than likely that they know you have depression, and that answering people is hard when you have depression. They won’t be mad at you, they’ll bee happy they’re finally hearing from you. And if they do get mad at you, especially if they know you have depression, then that’s not a person you need to have as a friend, and you don’t need to feel guilty about never responding to them again. And when I say talk to people, I mean really, just talk. You don’t have to open up and soil everything you’re feeling about your depression onto that one friend you haven’t spoken to in forever. You don’t have to talk about your depression at all. I know I don’t really like to. Just talk. Ask them how they’re doing, what they’ve been up to, tell them about what’s going on in your life. Catch up. We are a social species of animal. Normal social interaction is essential for maintaining good mental health. Talk to people.

Don’t beat yourself up for making mistakes, and don’t give up doing any of these things just because you forgot to for a while. Only doing something once a month is better than never doing it at all.

Don’t take on everything at once. You will overwhelm yourself and it will be harder for you to make any of these changes. Start with one thing, and just keep doing that one thing until it becomes a habit, then start doing the next thing. Eventually, all of these will be part of your everyday routine, and you won’t even notice it happening.

Take this advice from someone who cannot remember a life without depression. Take this advice from someone who never expected to live past the age of 18 (I’m 26). Take this advice from someone who has tried to kill himself 5 times, and was nearly successful enough to need hospitalization twice. I know all this sounds like the same old generic advice neurotypical people spout off at anyone who has depression, but HONESTLY. Take care of your physical health, and your mental health will improve, I promise. It’s possible to get better, but you have to make the effort yourself. No one is going to do these things for you.

Aries: Like a warrior ready for battle. Aries Mars is a placement with an abundance of energy. Sometimes when these people can’t use the energy productively, it can channel into anger, frustration, and impatience. Aries Mars needs something physical to release their energy. Aries Mars is fierce and knows what they want and how to get it. They’re always looking for the next thrill/adventure. A great person to travel with.

Taurus: A TRUE romantic. Loves love, even when they don’t want to admit it. I don’t see these people as the hook-up types, but that’s only looking at the mars sign. A very chill and laid back vibe. Probably knows some good movies to snuggle to. A GREAT cuddler. They’re stubborn and will stick up for their loved ones until the end. These beings are so full of love and compassion. Don’t hurt them and ruin them!!!

Gemini: The talker! A great socializer, makes friends easily. Loves attention, but attention only. These natives aren’t for the long term unless you’re someone special. Gemini Mars rules the twins, so they give off different vibes to certain people. All in all, these people are laid back and fun, but they know when they need to act professional. If you want to charm these people be confident :)

Cancer: Cancer mars are such sunflowers. I love this placement. But cancer mars can blow things out of proportion due to their sensitivity. Their auras are so nurturing and motherly, and they would thrive if they realized that not everyone i out to get them. Truly kind people. They love so much when they find the right person. Great taste in music and has a simple, chic style.

Leo: Fierce, feisty. A confident beauty that gets what they want. They love attention like Gemini, but they love love as well. This placement can be hard to handle in a relationship because they can be self-centered if they feel like their being attacked. Very sensitive. Wants to do things and wants to help people, can be extremely genuine and kind if the chart allows it.

Virgo: Laid back on the outside, anxious on the inside. These people come off as a go with the flow type but they really just wanna do what everyone’s doing and not cause issues. They are critical and notice everything. Surprisingly, with their timid nature, they are great in bed. Lowkey nerds that are really smart in what they enjoy.

Libra: The Peace-maker! These people hate confrontation and they hate making others feel sad. They ARE NOT pushovers because they will fight for what they believe in. They love love as well, but they need someone really special to stick with, because they fall fast and hard, but they fall out of love quickly too. These natives are great talkers, I love these cuties :) Can have a chaotic mindset if things get too overwhelming, just breathe!

Scorpio: I love this placement :’) everyone thinks scorpio mars is big and scary, which can be true if you cross them, but they are so loyal if you just listen to them and be compassionate. They are actually pretty gentle like a cancer mars, but they have a front because they can’t take anymore hurt. If developed, this mars placement is incredibly psyhic an intuitive. Great partners in bed.

Sagittarius: These people are the chillest of the zodiac. They love to party and socialize and try new things. They do stupid things for the story to tell people. These folks are extremely lucky, and when they don’t think things will work out, they somehow do! Travelers, these people are some of the smartest people in the world (imo), because of their open mindedness. 

Capricorn: Either extremely generous or cheap. These natives usually have an abundance of money or really struggle with it. Every Capricorn mars I know strives to be successful in some way. Loves the finer things in life, and hates change. Can come across as melancholy. 

Aquarius: These people love to be weird and different (in a great way, obvi). They can actually be quite shy at first, then they will open up. Extremely funny people because they dance to their own beat. Is prone to weird meet-ups, psychic adventures, etc, because of their high self. Loves to adventure like Sag mars, can be socially anxious.