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So I've done a lot of digging, a lot of reading, and I've come to a personal conclusion on radical feminism. As it actually manifests, not as it is in theory.

I've come to find it is a road to ruin paved by good and bad intentions depending on the person. By far the greatest obsession is attacking trans women or indeed anyone whose trans or even looks trans to you. There's so much transphobia, so much homophobia, and nobody wants to own up. It's always someone else's fault. I've found every excuse in the book for it: our enemies are worse, we deserve to be able to do it because of our identity, it's only the bad ones doing it, real radfems don't do it they're just posing, it's different when we do it, women deserve to be held to a lower standard, and the only honest answer to top it off: I don't care because I'm enjoying it.

You are not exempt from criticism. Nobody is. Your perception that people you hate get special treatment does not in turn entitle you to special treatment. The struggle of every woman to ever live is not yours personally to use and abuse rhetorically. And you certainly don't get a free pass to revel in terrorizing the queers just because you misspell the slur and consider yourselves the prime arbiter of what is and isn't homophobia. I don't want to hear anything about how "well men/tras did it first, it's not fair," I mean honestly. How old are you, five? It's embarrassing to see grown women throw tantrums like that and no amount of jargon or justification will make it more respectable.

This is not a defense of men or mras or tras or anything else. This is an honest reflection on radfems. Until you can own up, police your own communities, and genuinely clean up your act, nobody will ever take you seriously. You can scream and holler and go on for days about the injustice of it all, but if your actions don't seem genuine to outsiders none of that will do anything but buy you clout with the people who already agree with you. That's not activism. That's a circle jerk.

Maybe I'll reconsider what you all have to say down the line. Maybe you'll turn it around. Who knows? But I'm out for the foreseeable future. This is an echo chamber and I know how people are treated when they pop the bubble. I won't be sticking around for the verbal abuse thinly guised as a debate. I'm not taking the bait. I've looked and looked and looked for the good radfems and I honestly just cannot find them. People who seem good deep down sure, but that's not the same thing.

So, throw your stones. Take your shots. I've informed myself plenty and come to an honest conclusion. No amount of peer pressure or guilt tripping is going to change that. It'll just ruin my day. Hard pass.