Just Normal Relatable Cis Girl Things

Many of the political attacks on trans people—whether it is a mandate that bathroom use be determined by birth sex, a blanket ban on medical interventions for trans kids or the suggestion that trans men are simply wayward women beguiled by male privilege—carry the same subtext: that trans people are mistaken about who they are. “We know who we are,” Page says. “People cling to these firm ideas [about gender] because it makes people feel safe. But if we could just celebrate all the wonderful complexities of people, the world would be such a better place.”

Page was attracted to the role of Vanya in The Umbrella Academy because—in the first season, released in 2019—Vanya is crushed by self-loathing, believing herself to be the only ordinary sibling in an extraordinary family. The character can barely summon the courage to move through the world. “I related to how much Vanya was closed off,” Page says. Now on set filming the third season, co-workers have seen a change in the actor. “It seems like there’s a tremendous weight off his shoulders, a feeling of comfort,” says showrunner Steve Blackman. “There’s a lightness, a lot more smiling.” For Page, returning to set has been validating, if awkward at times. Yes, people accidentally use the wrong pronouns—“It’s going to be an adjustment,” Page says—but co-workers also see and acknowledge him.

Whatever challenges might lie ahead, Page seems exuberant about playing a new spectrum of roles. “I’m really excited to act, now that I’m fully who I am, in this body,” Page says. “No matter the challenges and difficult moments of this, nothing amounts to getting to feel how I feel now.” This includes having short hair again. During the interview, Page keeps rearranging strands on his forehead. It took a long time for him to return to the barber’s chair and ask to cut it short, but he got there. And how did that haircut feel?

Page tears up again, then smiles. “I just could not have enjoyed it more,” he says.

marty mcfly is trans

very short

social outcast

wears layers upon layers, like it’s literally SUCH a transmasc outfit

his mom doesn’t approve of his girlfriend for no discernible reason other than that it seems she doesn’t want him to have a girlfriend at all

Also if one person says that he gets kids he can’t be trans:

1) trans people can have kids

I super appreciate that you’re open to men expressing themselves with a variety of fashion choices, but when I go to the patterns tab and specifically click “male,” I am probably not looking for your cropped bralette.

Me: sees trans man not binding and one in a dress

Me : nope!

also u can’t have a go at op for drawing a trans man without a binder bc it makes u dysphoric n then call him sis. dont be a fuckin hypocrite dude.

And yeah, that’s real, but you want to know what causes me secondhand dysphoria?

Yes. A cis man from a cartoon for 7 year old girls makes me cringe.

(Sidenote while I was getting an image for this post I found this gif of him dramatically removing a cumberbund and his formal shirt was also a bellyshirt like his casual/armor look? That was funny.)

I want to make it clear that it’s actually fine I feel this way. And it’s fine if i don’t want to watch She-Ra because for whatever reason Bow’s design pushes my buttons. But when it comes to She-Ra I think the whole internet got together and agreed that the animators should not alter their style in order to avoid making men in their late 20s uncomfortable.

Something can make you uncomfortable without it being something wrong.

Here, have another thing that makes my soul want to die!

“I’m cutting my hair short but I don’t want to look like Amanda Bynes in She’s the Man.” “I’d like to wear a suit but I don’t want to look like Amanda Bynes in She’s the Man.” “I want to transition but I don’t want to look like Amanda Bynes in She’s the Man.”

I think the amount of secondhand dysphoria/internalized shame/competition and latent aggression has to do with how there’s almost no popular image of us to…”aspire” to I guess? Especially trans men, which is the topic of this post (and which seems to have an incredibly nasty strain of infighting at least on tumblr but I know this is a whole community problem). So you know what you don’t wanna be, but what do you want to look like, and be perceived as? Your only model for that is a cis guy.

But I know what I don’t want to look like. I very, very definitely do not want to look like Amanda Bynes in She’s the Man.

I think a lot of trans people are afraid of looking freakish and silly cause that’s the only image that exists.

And…the thing most likely to remind you of what you don’t want to look like is other trans people who don’t pass. I mean, that just makes sense. But it seems like a lot of people get this weird idea in their head of like…I’m the only “real trans tm”? I’m the way I see myself in my head (cis or cis-passing, etc), and these other trans people I see around me not passing, they’re clearly looking that way on purpose.

There’s art that’s upsetting because it’s making you rethink important things, or because it’s super sad and cathartic, but there’s also art that just happens to have hit your mental pressure points, and you’re allowed to simply turn it off.

I feel like part of the reason we fall into “BOW FROM SHE-RA MAKES ME FEEL BAD SO THEREFORE SHE-RA IS TRANSPHOBIC” is cause it feels like if there’s nothing wrong with Bow’s design then I’m the crazy one, and I’m obligated to figure that out and engage with it. But no, you are allowed to leave.

Me: sees trans man not binding and one in a dress

Me : nope!

also u can’t have a go at op for drawing a trans man without a binder bc it makes u dysphoric n then call him sis. dont be a fuckin hypocrite dude.

And yeah, that’s real, but you want to know what causes me secondhand dysphoria?

Yes. A cis man from a cartoon for 7 year old girls makes me cringe.

(Sidenote while I was getting an image for this post I found this gif of him dramatically removing a cumberbund and his formal shirt was also a bellyshirt like his casual/armor look? That was funny.)

I want to make it clear that it’s actually fine I feel this way. And it’s fine if i don’t want to watch She-Ra because for whatever reason Bow’s design pushes my buttons. But when it comes to She-Ra I think the whole internet got together and agreed that the animators should not alter their style in order to avoid making men in their late 20s uncomfortable.

Something can make you uncomfortable without it being something wrong.

Here, have another thing that makes my soul want to die!

"I’m cutting my hair short but I don’t want to look like Amanda Bynes in She’s the Man.” “I’d like to wear a suit but I don’t want to look like Amanda Bynes in She’s the Man.” “I want to transition but I don’t want to look like Amanda Bynes in She’s the Man.”

I think the amount of secondhand dysphoria/internalized shame/competition and latent aggression has to do with how there’s almost no popular image of us to...”aspire” to I guess? Especially trans men, which is the topic of this post (and which seems to have an incredibly nasty strain of infighting at least on tumblr but I know this is a whole community problem). So you know what you don’t wanna be, but what do you want to look like, and be perceived as? Your only model for that is a cis guy.

But I know what I don’t want to look like. I very, very definitely do not want to look like Amanda Bynes in She’s the Man.

I think a lot of trans people are afraid of looking freakish and silly cause that’s the only image that exists.

And...the thing most likely to remind you of what you don’t want to look like is other trans people who don’t pass. I mean, that just makes sense. But it seems like a lot of people get this weird idea in their head of like...I’m the only “real trans tm”? I’m the way I see myself in my head (cis or cis-passing, etc), and these other trans people I see around me not passing, they’re clearly looking that way on purpose.

target women’s section: would you like to have a giant scoop neck that would definitely like completely show at least one of your boobs. would you, an adult woman, like to wear a crop top? would you like to look like a human piñata. BLACK? I think you mean jewel tones babey!