Sexologist, Dr. Stephen de Wit

GOOD THING OR BAD THING?⠀ ⠀ What tempts you?⠀ ⠀ - drugs?⠀ - sex?⠀ - food?⠀ - social media⠀ - netflix⠀ ⠀ What is your passion or poison?⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ #sextherapist #sexspeaker #drdewit #justdewit #sexologist #selfcaretips #youareabadass #selfloveclub #beyourbestself #sexcoach #youreworthit #goodvibesalways #selfcaretips #problemsolved #adultingishard #sexed #speaker #professionalspeaker #isavesexlives #temptation #entertainme #goodorbad https://www.instagram.com/p/BmyOHFdgwYh/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=11r4bhmtgbmjm

THE CUNNILINGUS CONSPIRACY!⠀ ⠀ If your partner does not like giving you oral. What do you do?⠀ ⠀ Here are a few helpful tips:⠀ ⠀ - let them hear and see your pleasure and satisfaction⠀ - don't be selfish and reciprocate⠀ - don't force it, there may be some trauma that needs to be healed⠀ - educate and empower your partner⠀ - thank them⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ #sextherapist #sexspeaker #drdewit #justdewit #sexologist #selfcaretips #youareabadass #selfloveclub #beyourbestself #sexcoach #youreworthit #goodvibesalways #selfcaretips #problemsolved #adultingishard #sexed #speaker #professionalspeaker #isavesexlives #oral #conspiracy #empower https://www.instagram.com/p/BmwZDmuA5rA/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=121ehwzh18pr9

WHAT DOES PORN SOUND LIKE?⠀ ⠀ Have some fun with this. ⠀ ⠀ Click on some porn and capture what you heard in the comments.⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ #sextherapist #sexspeaker #drdewit #justdewit #sexologist #selfcaretips #youareabadass #selfloveclub #beyourbestself #sexcoach #youreworthit #goodvibesalways #selfcaretips #problemsolved #adultingishard #sexed #speaker #professionalspeaker #isavesexlives #subtitles #hearing #fillintheblank https://www.instagram.com/p/BmvoHkOgiAO/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=sr9ps6p5lci

HOW BIG IS TOO BIG?⠀ ⠀ Is bigger better?⠀ ⠀ As penis owners their has been a massive focus on penis size.⠀ ⠀ Some people don't enjoy large penises.⠀ ⠀ Some people don't want penetrative sex.⠀ ⠀ And other's love it large.⠀ ⠀ To each their own.⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ ⠀ ⠀ #sextherapist #sexspeaker #drdewit #justdewit #sexologist #selfcaretips #youareabadass #selfloveclub #beyourbestself #sexcoach #youreworthit #goodvibesalways #selfcaretips #problemsolved #adultingishard #sexed #speaker #professionalspeaker #isavesexlives #isbiggerbetter #micropenis #differentstrokes https://www.instagram.com/p/Bmt_LmYgtsU/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=fp9e5mtudgy5

ARE YOU LOUD OR QUIET?⠀ ⠀ Do you talk? ⠀ Give directions?⠀ Talk dirty?⠀ ⠀ Are your orgasm loud or quiet?⠀ ⠀ Have you ever had noise complaints?................. I have ;)⠀ ⠀ Was this wonderful Filipino Catholic woman who was the building manager called me up and was so awkward she didn't want to say the word sex.⠀ ⠀ She said their were complaints and if I had heard anything myself. lol⠀ ⠀ I assured her if I heard anything I would let her know right away. HAAAAAAAAA!⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ #sextherapist #sexspeaker #drdewit #justdewit #sexologist #selfcaretips #youareabadass #selfloveclub #beyourbestself #sexcoach #youreworthit #goodvibesalways #selfcaretips #problemsolved #adultingishard #sexed #speaker #professionalspeaker #isavesexlives #screams #loud #quiet https://www.instagram.com/p/Bms6S_8gbAZ/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=edrfte27zk5v

#TBT - I MAY BE NAKED!⠀ ⠀ It is days like this when I miss having a boat!⠀ ⠀ The joy on my face is palpable.⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ ⠀ ⠀ ⠀ #sextherapist #sexspeaker #drdewit #justdewit #sexologist #selfcaretips #youareabadass #selfloveclub #beyourbestself #sexcoach #youreworthit #goodvibesalways #selfcaretips #problemsolved #adultingishard #sexed #speaker #professionalspeaker #isavesexlives #nakie #lakelife #joyoflife https://www.instagram.com/p/BmjmMLBAP8-/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=5xk4y9cy0ygq

IS DIGITAL LOVE LEGIT?⠀ ⠀ I remember years ago I was MCing a wedding (I have done many) and the bride and groom had met on line. They specifically requested that I did not mention that.⠀ ⠀ Now, it is almost the exception that people don't meet online.⠀ ⠀ Are their drawbacks or benefits? Does it matter what type of relationship you are looking for?⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ #sextherapist #sexspeaker #drdewit #justdewit #sexologist #selfcaretips #youareabadass #selfloveclub #beyourbestself #sexcoach #youreworthit #goodvibesalways #selfcaretips #problemsolved #adultingishard #sexed #speaker #professionalspeaker #isavesexlives #digitallove #doubletap #newagelove https://www.instagram.com/p/Bmi4VdPgrAf/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1o7t1v24137ru

FOMO⠀ ⠀ Rarely if ever is someone having amazing sex all the time. Although it can appear that way.⠀ ⠀ Through your life there will be ebbs and flows, ups and downs. Trust in yourself that the best is yet to come.⠀ ⠀ And if you stuck or struggle reach out and talk to someone. Live a sex live by design rather than one by resign. (not sure if that is proper grammar, but it rhymes!)⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ #sextherapist #sexspeaker #drdewit #justdewit #sexologist #selfcaretips #youareabadass #selfloveclub #beyourbestself #sexcoach #youreworthit #goodvibesalways #selfcaretips #problemsolved #adultingishard #sexed #speaker #professionalspeaker #isavesexlives #vacation #amazingsex #allofthetime https://www.instagram.com/p/BmgMcfuA5XD/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=12z5fx3hm8qzk

WHAT IS YOUR LOVE MAKING JAM?⠀ ⠀ Music can do much to set the mood, communicate what you want.⠀ ⠀ I am always surprised when I take the time to listen to lyrics how sexual they are.⠀ ⠀ What is your favourite song or type of music to get down to?⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ #sextherapist #sexspeaker #drdewit #justdewit #sexologist #selfcaretips #youareabadass #selfloveclub #beyourbestself #sexcoach #youreworthit #goodvibesalways #selfcaretips #problemsolved #adultingishard #sexed #speaker #professionalspeaker #isavesexlives #music #slowjams #getyourfreakon https://www.instagram.com/p/Bmeo7c_AQkM/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=mcgb0gvdk4g7

WHAT YOU WANT MATTERS!⠀ ⠀ Your needs and wants are legit.⠀ ⠀ Do not give up if you haven't found a partner or your partner is not open to exploring what you are interested in.⠀ ⠀ Have conversations. Set out a clear plan to have what you want. Reach out and talk to an expert.⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ #sextherapist #sexspeaker #drdewit #justdewit #sexologist #selfcaretips #youareabadass #selfloveclub #beyourbestself #sexcoach #youreworthit #goodvibesalways #selfcaretips #problemsolved #adultingishard #sexed #speaker #professionalspeaker #isavesexlives #toolegit #toolegittoquit #needsandwants https://www.instagram.com/p/BmdmrHkgzAP/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=mxptkcx2eapp

HUMILITY AS AN ACCESS TO GROWTH⠀ ⠀ At different times in my life I have been at what I like to think of as the top of my game.⠀ ⠀ The reality is that I am at the bottom of another challenge.⠀ ⠀ Recently been taking on my fitness @f45libertyvillage.⠀ ⠀ Nothing like having women half your size outlast and out lift you to keep me humble and open to growing.⠀ ⠀ Similarly when it comes to sex coming at it with an open mind, not with all the answers but with all the questions on how you can learn and grow with a partner will make you a great lover.⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ #sextherapist #sexspeaker #drdewit #justdewit #sexologist #selfcaretips #youareabadass #selfloveclub #beyourbestself #sexcoach #youreworthit #goodvibesalways #selfcaretips #problemsolved #adultingishard #sexed #speaker #professionalspeaker #isavesexlives #f45 #humble #humility

COMMUNICATION IS LUBRICATION!⠀ ⠀ To actually allow someone to see you for who you are and accept you is one of the most powerful bonding experiences possible.⠀ ⠀ The catch here is most of us are too afraid to show someone who we really are because we see ourselves as flawed and inadequate.⠀ ⠀ It has been my experience that we all (myself included) have things we are not proud of that we hang onto and that prevents us from connecting.⠀ ⠀ Take a risk share about that big elephant in the room...... Cause guess what, they feel the weight too!⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ #sextherapist #sexspeaker #drdewit #justdewit #sexologist #selfcaretips #youareabadass #selfloveclub #beyourbestself #sexcoach #youreworthit #goodvibesalways #selfcaretips #problemsolved #adultingishard #sexed #speaker #professionalspeaker #isavesexlives #communication #vulnerability #sharing

#tbts ⠀ ⠀ I won! Last year at the @canfitpro World Fitness Expo I won the outstanding new speaker.⠀ ⠀ I had the opportunity to speak in front of 5000 people. I will never forget that.⠀ ⠀ This year I am back speaking at a super session Saturday afternoon! Swing by and say hi.⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ #sextherapist #sexspeaker #drdewit #justdewit #sexologist #selfcaretips #youareabadass #selfloveclub #beyourbestself #sexcoach #youreworthit #goodvibesalways #selfcaretips #problemsolved #adultingishard #sexed #speaker #professionalspeaker #isavesexlives #awardwinning #dreambig #backagain

HUMAN TOUCH IS VITAL!⠀ ⠀ I remember when I first moved to Toronto. I really didn't know anyone and was really struggling.⠀ ⠀ Two touches I remember:⠀ ⠀ 1). I had bronchitis in the middle of the winter and was in bad shape. I remember the nurse putting her hand on my back before putting the stethoscope on my back. I recall, sick as I was, letting out an sound just to be touched by another human felt so good.⠀ ⠀ 2). I finally secured a job bartending at a club called "This Is London" in Toronto and it was my first shift and I was cashing out and this security guy comes up to me and says Vida (another bartender) wants to see you. I had no idea who Vida was. He walks me in to the back room and there sits this angelic woman I had never met before and she gives me this hug that I will never forget. ⠀ ⠀ Reach out and touch someone.⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ #sextherapist #sexspeaker #drdewit #justdewit #sexologist #selfcaretips #youareabadass #selfloveclub #beyourbestself #sexcoach #youreworthit #goodvibesalways #selfcaretips #problemsolved #adultingishard #sexed #speaker #professionalspeaker #isavesexlives #touch #hug #humantouch

IT'S BETTER DOWN WHERE IT'S WETTER!⠀ ⠀ Let's talk lubrication. ⠀ ⠀ As a general rule of thumb the more the better. If it is natural or external.⠀ ⠀ If things are not happening in the natural lubrication department. I suggest to check things out. Talk to your doctor, talk to your partner to ensure you are getting the level of arousal you need. ⠀ Artists: @mrndapnda, @galen.neil .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ ⠀ ⠀ ⠀ #sextherapist #sexspeaker #drdewit #justdewit #sexologist #selfcaretips #youareabadass #selfloveclub #beyourbestself #sexcoach #youreworthit #goodvibesalways #selfcaretips #problemsolved #adultingishard #sexed #speaker #professionalspeaker #isavesexlives #lubrication #wetter #thewetterthebetter

ALL YOU NEED IS LOVE!⠀ ⠀ Sometimes just for yourself.⠀ ⠀ Masturbation is lubrication for your sex life.⠀ ⠀ -release sexual tension⠀ - reduce stress⠀ - help you sleep better⠀ - improve your self-esteem and body image⠀ - help treat sexual problems⠀ - relieve menstrual cramps and muscle tension⠀ - strengthen muscle tone in your pelvic and anal areas⠀ - develop sexual awareness (know what you like)⠀ ⠀ ⠀ So get to it and put your back into it.⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ #sextherapist #sexspeaker #drdewit #justdewit #sexologist #selfcaretips #youareabadass #selfloveclub #beyourbestself #sexcoach #youreworthit #goodvibesalways #selfcaretips #problemsolved #adultingishard #sexed #speaker #professionalspeaker #isavesexlives #pleasure #brb #lubrication

TOO MUCH TOGETHER TIME?⠀ ⠀ Are you too connected to your partner?⠀ ⠀ Is that even a thing?⠀ ⠀ We have been taught to complete our partner to be inseparable. ⠀ ⠀ Does that serve you?⠀ ⠀ Often the erotic/sexual energy needs space to develop. Too much together time can squash it. ⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .#sextherapist #sexspeaker #drdewit #justdewit #sexologist #selfcaretips #youareabadass #selfloveclub #beyourbestself #sexcoach #youreworthit #goodvibesalways #selfcaretips #problemsolved #adultingishard #sexed #speaker #professionalspeaker #isavesexlives #together #toomuch #sexualtension