I write, supposedly

the reviews are in... glad everyone's enjoying song of the worm

earlier today i was talking to someone and i mentioned one of my friends, and said 'yeah it was saying-' and before i could finish my sentence she interrupted me and went "it?" as if i'd misspoken. when i said "yeah, it said-" she looked at me as if i'd like insulted her or something and went "why are you calling your friends its? don't you mean they?"

i pretty much just went "nevermind" because that's not worth it (and no i'm not misgendering a friend for someone else's "comfort" like wtf) but the issue is

this. happens. every. time.

you tell someone else you use it/its? they look at you like you're fucking insane. 99% of the time they will refuse to use your pronouns because it's "offensive" to them (yknow what else is offensive? purposely misgendering me when i literally just told you my pronouns). when you talk about a friend who uses it/its pronouns, 99% of the time the other person will try to like. correct you or stop you even though they don't even know who you're talking about.

"well they/them is gender neutral too so just use th-" no. my pronouns are it/its. they/them is not it/its. they/them is misgendering.

"but it's gender neutra-" okay and? if dude said he uses he/him and you used they/them that's misgendering. why is it okay when it's it pronouns?

"but it's offensive to refer to people as-" bitch i am literally referring to myself as it/its. i am telling you directly in plain words that these are the pronouns that make me comfortable. i don't give a fuck what you think of them they are my pronouns

i thought it was clear, but evidently not clear enough: i do not give a shit about how anyone else feels about my pronouns. you do not get to reassign me pronouns for your own comfort or out of a misplaced sense of justice/protection. i get to choose my pronouns and i choose it/its.

"but it/its has been used negatively towards me in the past, so i feel too uncomfortable using them for you!" i understand that, but why do you have the right to make me uncomfortable instead? she/her pronouns have been used negatively towards us in the past, and sometimes we're so dysphoric it hurts to hear other people referred to with those pronouns and refer to people with she/her.

we are not going to go up to someone and say "actually, please don't use she/her around me, because it makes me uncomfortable and has been used negatively towards me in the past. i'm going to use they/them for you instead, even though those aren't your pronouns, and may make you uncomfortable."

my issue with those pronouns is mine to work through. it is not my place to tell people to use different pronouns because of what i think, nor is it my place to arbitrarily reassign them.

"they/them is gender neutral, you can't misgender someone with gender neutral pronouns!" yes you can. misgendering = using pronouns that the person does not use. there are a very large amount of it/its users in the notes who absolutely agree that they/them is incredibly uncomfortable. they are two different words. they do not convey the same gender. they do not convey the same vibe.

"then i'll just use no pronouns and just the person's name!" that is degendering. avoiding a person's pronouns and finding a "work around" so that you're still Technically Not Misgendering Them. some people do prefer no pronouns, and that's great! but if i am giving you a set of pronouns and asking them to use them for me, and you straight up refuse, that is just. rude.

i do not give a shit how you feel about my pronouns 👍 use it/its or get out!

One god, don’t play with any others.

Everything is God

One big god or small group of gods made everything but that doesn’t mean there aren’t other smaller ones that work for the big one(s)

There’s one god but all of these hundreds of gods are aspects of that one god and the aspects of the one god can absolutely marry each other and have marital squabbles

Individuality is an illusion and the universe is a series of vibes experiencing itself

The world used to be an egg but then that egg became a god and then that god made some other gods and then those gods became bored and made the universe and then they got to screwing each other to make even more gods and now there’s hundreds of them and exactly what gods are worshiped changes on who you ask in a particular region

Everything has a soul. Act like it.

Someone or something spoke the world into existence and we’ve been stealing other people’s stories ever since we’ll take whatever gods you have

A bunch of regional gods got smushed together and now there’s a state mandated religion that’s trying to make this smaller pantheon more popular than local folk religion

The difference between a god, a nature spirit, and a legendary person is extremely unclear even to worshipers but there’s shrines to all of them

A god chose these people to be their special guys and their special guys are gonna have a tough time. That god may be the only god or it may be one of many those people believe exist

Humans were kinda stupid until this one spirit or person showed up and taught them how to do stuff so now we do stuff to thank the person or thing that taught us how to do stuff

The world will keep on ending and being rebuilt it just does that sometimes nobody knows when it started or if it ever did

You can learn a lot from talking animals.

People were made to do work the god(s) don’t wanna do

People were made because the god(s) were lonely/bored/drunk

This river in particular is the most important thing in the whole universe