mind the mess

They're pierced!

It'd be so easy to be a part of more things.

Just as much, I look back on things I missed. That my friends were part of, too. I see the years of time that I talked to them that they were doing this other thing that I now crave. And I wonder what I could have been if I were there. I missed it. I don't like missing things.

Thus, I feel compelled to try to live it all at once. To experience everywhere. To plug in and never stop, forever. To live a life of fleeting moments that make sense, rife with contradiction. To refuse to miss anything by becoming everything.

I think in a way, that would be dying.

if you can't say tranny this isn't about you. I wrote this while thinking about getting called a pedophile and that I can never be a teacher, but I still find ways to give the care that I didn't get when I was a little girl. I tried to find it and it just was not there.

I can see three possible contexts that you're asking this from:

you know that my wife (they/them not a man not a woman) is TME and I'm TMA, you're asking about my relationship and framing it in this way as a gotcha.

you're a run-of-the-mill jackass idly harassing a trans woman because it seemed like the best thing to do with your evening.

you failed to treat me like a person and just didn't think before asking

I'll give you an answer, but I needed you to confront the fact that there is no possibility that sending this was a neutral action. I could not find a way to avoid thinking less of you. I tell you this because I hope you will do better.

would you ask a gay man if he would consider his relationship gay if his boyfriend was feminine? would you ask a gay man if he would consider his relationship gay if his boyfriend was trans?

I'm very fucking angry with the world for making sure that I had to reassure my wife that they're trans. of course they are. "pretty boy" and "pretty girl" both fit the same, it's not quite right but it gets the point across. I relish the words "she" and "her" like water in the desert, but I am constantly frustrated by the limitations of language when I try to talk about them. we talked about it and "partner" doesn't cut it, "wife" is what they prefer.

I've held them as they cried with frustration.

they had zero and I mean fucking zero issues understanding that "t4t" could technically apply to them, but it was coined by and for trans women. the earliest known usage of the term was an early-internet website made by and for trans women, I didn't know that when they first asked me if we were "t4t". they did not need evidence to believe me

dearest anon, I want to ask you something: why do you think that my wife was able to go "oh okay so that's not for me", but you're hung up on it?

this might actually be my favorite way someone's asked to see my cock. it felt like watching you fall off a ladder, but as a way of asking to see my dick. mr or ms magoo wants to know how big it is. I feel like a fat baby with cake right now.

TGIRL BEING ANXIOUS + SHE LIKES IT

give cover to people who haven't been caught yet by allowing them to use their humanity as "proof" of their innocence

silence any criticism of societal structures and institutions that facilitate those horrible things by putting the focus on individuals who are assumed to be so uniquely monstrous that the ways it was made easy for them are irrelevant

provide a shortcut to dehumanize anyone you feel like killing: simply accuse them of doing a horrible thing

3.a. if you've already established that only an inhuman monster could kill a child, then all you have to do to get people to burn down the jewish quarter is say that jews kidnap christian children to bathe in their blood

3.b. if you've already established that only an inhuman monster could commit rape, then all you have to do to get people to string up a black man you don't like is find a white woman who's willing to point at him while she cries and babbles

3.c. if you've already established that only an inhuman monster could molest a child, then all you have to do to get people to drag gay people behind their trucks is say that since gay people can't have babies, the only way they can make more gay people is by following a nefarious Agenda to "convert" children by molesting them

3.c.a. meanwhile if you try to address the rampant sexual assault of catholic altar boys, you're met with "don't be ridiculous, he's a priest!" (see #1) and with assertions that even if it does happen sometimes, those priests are just infiltrators who don't represent the church and there's no reason to make sure priests and altar boys are never alone together (see #2)

Pedojacketing / Disgust Mongering is always a cudgel used to justify violence against the most marginalized

Black, Jewish, Queer, Trans.....

head maid teaching the new recruit how to properly worship her Mistress' property.

cuck wife at the lesbian bar scouting for girls that her wife would like.

hypnotist who brainwashes people with same programming she was once brainwashed with.