greyest

"who said that" is a powerful spell that casts a defensive bubble around your most vulnerable thoughts

[excited about an aro friend getting a boyfriend] congratulations! [remembers that presenting romantic relationships as a universal goal to be achieved perpetuates amatonormativity] I don't care about your relationship at all [trying to reaffirm that I am supportive of aromanticism] and I hope you break up

i refused to stay buried because i love you why are you running

babe it's me i'm just covered in dirt and blood because i had to claw my way up into the light and crawl on my hands and knees back home to you stop screaming

one of the hardest but most necessary things ever is realizing when ur being a dick or being really reactive to smth you shouldnt or being kinda toxic/guilt trippy/passive aggressive and youve gotta be able to take a step back and recognize that ur feeling that and why and then try to counter it intentionally by remembering that your behavior probably isn't helping the situation & the other people around you dont deserve that. this is hard but it is something u can do, please practice it

it helps a lot to learn as a habit bc now when i feel myself getting bitter and rude i kinda go "ok. i don't like the way i'm acting. why am i acting like that." and usually the answer is to politely excuse myself from the situation and let people involved know that i need some space and i will talk to them again when i'm feeling less reactive. taking some space to think about it is super helpful because if you engage with things that upset you while you're in the heat of that bad emotion, you'll say things you regret. make less situations where you can do something regrettable if you can help it. you're not bad for feeling that way but it's your responsibility to recognize that your feelings cannot be taken out on others and you need to go deal with that yourself

just write a shitty poem, what do you have to lose