Some guy that likes the Internet babey!

Which means that you, personally, have the power to influence how shit go in your fandom. I often see people complaining about how "urgh why is this ship unpopular" or "why isn't there more content about xyz" and such, and while I certainly understand the sentiment you have to realize that you can change that. You can make art yourself. You can commission someone to make art for you. You can post headcanons or concepts or ideas online, even if they're not prettily worded or only half-finished. You can encourage people who do create the shit you wanna see by sending them nice asks, or reblogging their stuff, or commenting on their fics.

like yes dude us other autistic bitches have had these problems too but social norms being less intuitive and harder to pick up doesn't mean it's impossible. it is a skill you can learn like any other if you stop acting like the people trying to teach it to you are snuffing out your divine spark or whatever, and stop plugging your ears whenever other people tell you how they want to be treated.

i think ultimately frustrates me the most about this behavior is that it's just such an insanely selfcentered understanding of human interaction. you think that conversation and behavior You don't personally see the purpose or value of has no purpose or value at all. and instead of trying to meet other people half way in their expectations of how relationships develop, you expect them to instead abandon all their criteria for socializing in favor of yours because you believe your own social framework is innately superior.