Untittled

I have met a lot of autistic people who have said and done stuff that has made me uncomfortable. What I do about it is directly tell them what they did wrong and not to do it again because I don't like it. 99% of the time, it never happens again. Because the original action wasn't done out of disregard for my boundaries and autonomy, but due to obliviousness.

Being autistic doesn't make people turn into sexual harassers but it does make people more likely to miss, misinterpret, and misjudge more subtle social cues. Which can lead to behavior that bothers people and needs to be corrected.

Yes, if you're socially inept, and you're aware of that, you should be taking extra care to make sure you aren't doing something that makes someone uncomfortable. That doesn't diminish the importance of actually directly establishing when something is upsetting you, because it's not inherently obvious to everyone.

Man ranting on the internet about the Superbowl halftime show or complaining that something is "woke"? Hobbyless Behaviour. Girls mocking another girl for not looking right? Hobbyless Behaviour. Mindless vandalism? Hobbyless Behaviour.

Unfortunately it is also used towards people that actually HAVE a hobby but one that is unconventional or seems nonsensical to them.

I got called "Hobbylos" for Cosplaying... which is insane because my cosplaying requires different forms of arts and hobbies... I tailor and sew, I draw and design, I style wigs, I craft and paint, Makeup is a big part of it too... lastly if you are taking pixtures its basically hobby modeling too... that is infact the MOST hobby type of hobby I know about since it is a whole conjunction of hobbies... but Hobbyless is an insult after all in that case so it was meant to hurt rather than meant to make sense...

Plus having no hobbies could be cause you're depressed or lack confidence or just haven't found what you like yet. It's not a

you'll say "i think children shouldn't be forced to eat food they hate" and here comes someone who feeds their kids plain rice and boiled chicken (while eating a nicely seasoned stirfry) claiming that it's okay actually and kids shouldn't be allowed to taste things

The whole time you're told that adulthood is just stress and misery and you should enjoy your childhood while you still have it and you're trying but you're being put down, shamed, controlled, and dehumanized so much, you can't help but long for a time when you'll be treated better.

Then you turn like 10 and you're already expected to start acting like an adult. You lose your free time. You lose your imagination. Any praise you used to receive is replaced by 10x as much criticism, and you start to wonder if the only thing anyone's ever liked about you was that you used to be cute.

Then you become a teenager and there's nothing society hates more than teenagers, esp teenage girls, so of course the abuse ramps up. You already feel like you're drowning but adulthood hasn't even started yet. Suddenly every second of your time is expected to be used "responsibly." You stop doing anything fun because you're always "behind" in some way

Then you turn 18 and the very people who utterly destroyed the economy you have to inherit expect you to just move out, get married, and start working (and ideally having kids) instantly, and when you fail, all the blame is put on you.

Yesterday, I was out digging in my front yard (I'm rewilding my lawn) and a truck pulled over. A 62-year-old woman gets out, thanks me for my sign, and admits how scared she is to put up her own Democratic lawn sign. She's a registered Republican who hasn't voted for Republicans in more than a decade. We talked for half an hour and I just texted her about the VP Debate watch party this Tuesday.

Things learned:

Not all registered Republicans are actually Republicans.

Boomers and Gen X age voters are changing their minds.

Having a yard sign makes a difference.

my personal favorite is the letter template which i honestly might make copies of

tag that reads "capitalism couldn't breed a trans girl in a choker much less innovation"