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got a crick in my neck and a frog in my throat and a chip on my shoulder and a stick up my ass and now you're gonna stand there puttin words in my mouth? haven't I been through enough?

Trace amounts of Monica in my life

A statistically insignificant level of Monica in my life

My life manufactured in a facility that also processes Monica

not to sound so very condescending about this but it is so hysterical reading discourse about pillion because i truly think people have lost the ability to view fictional relationships with any nuance between the opposite poles of utterly abusive vs. hashtag couple goals, let alone a gay BDSM one; god forbid the adult erotic drama depicts a complicated and often unhealthy relationship and doesn't rubber stamp it with THIS IS GOOD or THIS IS BAD so you know The Right Way to think about the story being told sorry this isn't heated rivalry but can't we all just be adults lmfao

something i loved & find myself being very grateful about the ending of pillion is that the film doesnt paint colin's enjoyment of taking a submissive role in relationships as something negative or something he needs to "snap out of" in order to be respected. its clear throughout the movie that colin enjoys the role he takes with ray, the myriad of issues within their relationship does not come from that specific dynamic but from the personal & interpersonal baggage they both bring into it, the D/s aspect is influenced by it but it is not the reason behind their dysfunction. its very satisfying that at the end colin is more than certain of what he likes & what he needs & is capable of communicating that & establishing boundaries without having to renounce a part of himself that brings him joy. it wouldve been so easy for the story to end with colin finding himself in a "normal" relationship & framing it as a better healthier alternative but it didnt! it didnt & it means a lot to me that it didnt! colin finds pleasure & satisfaction & purpose in submission & its so goddamn great to see

First half of Pillion is ultimate submission fantasy that says: what if a hot biker dom picks you up in a bar, you're really bad at sex but he likes that and gets you to do household tasks in a way that is sexually fullfilling. Second half of pillion is everyone around you saying your sexy biker dom is insane and bad at bdsm but you think you can fix him. Last 5 minutes of Pillion is the heartbreaking realization you can have both submission and agency and you can love someone who is bad for you

I’m thankful for Pillion for coming out on the heels of Fifty shades and Babygirl. “what if women…. Found power in letting men have power over them. And those men know what a clitoris is😳” what if submission was a double edged sword that could both make you feel seen and loved but also broke down your spirit and independence. what if your desiring submission was something that was taken advantage of by a man with greater power than you. what if you wanted him to. what if it’s the greatest sexual pleasure you’ve ever had. what if that had a profound lasting effect on you that cannot be measured as entirely positive or negative and the only thing that’s certain is that it’s changed you and how you navigate the world and relationships forever

OR - what if that’s the only way you know how to have a relationship now

anyways my favorite thing about pillion was the fact that a disabled person was portrayed as a dom in a healthy loving relationship. disabled people don’t get to be seen as sexual beings AND we’re always seen as vulnerable, weak, and abused — pillion flipped that around so completely and silently. the film didn’t say shit about him being disabled. he just existed as any other person does.

First my sister, now relentless Tumblr ads. Stop telling me to find Jesus! Im Jewish! I don't care that you lost him again, that's your problem!