Sapphic

“She deserves to be punished too.”

“I’m not saying I support rape, but-”

“Sorry to say - she deserved it.”

“She put herself in harm’s way”

“But if she was fingered, then that’s not rape.”

“She ruined their lives.”

“Yea, but did you see what she was wearing?”

“Boys will be boys!”

“She should know better than to drink at a party…”

  “He should’ve enjoyed it.”

“She must’ve lead him on.”

“But she orgasmed. That means she liked it - “

“Women can’t rape because…”

“Be grateful it wasn’t a man!”

“I’m sorry she hurt you but don’t call what happened to you rape, it’s an insult to the REAL victims…”

“You weren’t raped, you’re just lesbophobic.”

“She’s his wife, it’s her job to please him.”

“Oral isn’t rape.”

“Well he wasn’t armed, she could have walked away.”

“Guys can’t be raped, they love sex!”

“She didn’t fight back; it wasn’t rape.”

im glad people are discussing fatphobia but please don’t throw disabled & chronically ill fat people under the bus while defending metabolically healthy fat people! health is not equivalent to morality or worth & unhealthy fat people’s bodies are no more the business of thin folks than the bodies of metabolically healthy ones.

I touched on it earlier in my bitchfit: it’s kind of liberating to be able to see somebody say something monumentally fucking stupid, make fun of it, even tell them how fucking dumb they’re being, but to not take it very seriously. I kinda think that can help train you to see people as complex multitudes which are contradictory and conflicting, not just a linear slider from “bad” to “good.” If you make confrontation into a taboo, if you make it into this locked-up axe that you only reach for in the most dire of circumstances, it ends up tainting people in your eyes when you’re driven to confrontation with them. That, or you end up resenting people because you want to tell them to stop being a fucker but that’s a no-no. Judgement is kind of similar, and I think that’s why we have this recurring issue on social media where people can’t just dislike eachother. Your distaste has to be justified somehow. When you don’t allow yourself to just be petty over something, then you search for “real” reasons to justify it and it builds up in a similar way.

However, if confrontation just isn’t a big hairy, scary deal, then it rolls off everybody’s back. I have friends who can get bullheaded as fuck with me every once in a while, and when that happens? We bicker! Because I’m willing to tell them to their face that they’re being unreasonable and kind of a shit! But what I’ve realized it is, is that we all understand and know that this doesn’t define us, so it blows over in like 30 seconds because it’s not a big deal.