i've been struggling quite a lot with this so i wanted to ask, what exactly would be the difference between a preference and an orientation? also, how can you tell the difference between wanting to be/be like a person, and wanting to actually be with them? TIA!

Do you belive aromantic and asexual lables are valid?

Comp-het is a weird concept to me because just the concept of homosexuality means that you cannot be attracted to the opposite sex, so why would anyone force themselves to? I’m not really in online/offline gay circles but I thought the whole “having sex with a partner of X many years then figuring out I was a homosexual” was like a thing that happened waaaay back in the day when people didn’t have any access of information around these things. I could see someone being super isolated and just not know that their attraction is normal, but in present day, it feels weird that it’s still happening. The only leeway I can see is if someone of preteen age had one of those “middle school crushes” that went nowhere (ended at confession/ hand holding) and then figured out they were homosexuals when they experienced actual sexual attraction for the first time during puberty. I don’t fault anyone for thinking they might be straight at that age, but I draw the line at actually having sexual relations with the opposite sex. It’s weird that this is a contentious thing. I thought this was just the general agreed upon thing.

hi so i'm the anon who asked about the split attraction model.

what do you think about women who claim to be lesbians but are attracted to fictional men

hiii i found your blog while doing compulsions (i have hocd) and something in my brain clicked. i read the lesbian masterdoc and what i've noticed is that people will disguise issues like commitment issues and other relationship related issues as comphet and reduce it down to a lesbian only issue.

also idk why but some lesbians (especially the ones on reddit) refuses to acknowledge what ocd is and the symptoms because when i do compulsions and look online, lesbians will immediately label someone who is showing obvious signs of hocd symptoms a lesbian. i'm literally so tired of them and hocd it sucks. 

um am i bisexual if i pursued men romantically but the minute it would get serious or "the chase was over" id get over them, but this never happens w women i like

ik your blog is always talk about ssa-focused bisexual problem, but what do you define kinsley 1? how rare are they attracted to the same sex? is it 99/1? sorry if my english is not that good 🙏🏻

I wish I had discovered your blog when the anxiety of not wanting to accept my bisexuality was killing me T-T

Do you mind a little bit of a story time?

do u happen to have the vid of the masterdoc author coming out as bi

i love you

do you think having crushes on boys as a little kid, like pre puberty not yet able to experience sexual attraction "counts"

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I am so glad I discovered this blog, it makes me feel sane lol. I am bisexual but have a very significant perference for women and chose to only date women and only have sex with women a few years ago. Wasn't a difficult descision because I was never in love with a man or had good sex with a man. All my prior romantic relationships were with women so this descision didn't really change much in my life. But since that descision and since I started being vocal about it, I had so many instances of people telling me that I am "a lesbian now" and that I am "in denial". Or the newest one "labels are so unimportant, you don't need that". This is of course lesbophobia. But it's also bad to tell a bi woman that she isn't bi anymore if she sets boundaries?? I will continue telling people that I am bi and only date women out of spite and also to show other bi women that they are allowed to have preferences, set boundaries and still be bi.