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“My dad was strict, so I was beaten a lot growing up. I could almost never go against his wishes. When I was 20, I bombed my college entrance exams, so I ended up going to a school that I didn’t particularly want to go to. My parents told me I was absolutely not allowed to wait a year to take the test again, so I tried my best at that college. But I just couldn’t take it. In the end, I dropped out of school without my parents knowing. I needed to get confirmation from a guardian, so I secretly had my grandma do it. When my dad found out, he was furious and said, ‘I’m done helping you. From now on, you're on your own.’ So, I packed my bags and left, working part time at a cafe during the day and studying at night. I resented my parents. My friends all went to nice prep schools to retake the exam, supported by their families, while all I wanted was for my parents to cheer me on, and they wouldn't even do that. Ultimately, I did poorly on the test the second time around too. After that, I didn’t see my parents for a long time. I had practically no interactions with them besides a short phone call on my birthdays. It took nearly seven years before I met my mom and dad for dinner. While we were talking, I could feel that they were really trying hard. While I had totally detested them before, it was only then that I started seeing them differently. I recently even got a letter from my dad. The fact that my dad even wrote to me caught me off guard and hit me right in the chest.” “What did he write in the letter?” “‘I am sorry that I hurt you so much. Though I was not able to be a good dad for you, I want to be a good grandpa for my grandchild.’ I am slowly starting to realize that it was also my dad’s first time raising a daughter, so it wouldn’t have been easy for him either.”

Masali Baduza via dionnesmithhair

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I probably could have phrased that better.

It’s always been explicit and intentionally racist in terms of what is considered correct contouring technique is to emulate white associated features. Which is not to say that contouring is bad, but it is good to ask ourselves why we do not contour to make our noses look wider and more distinguished. Or why we don’t shadow and highlight to make the face look perfectly round? While contouring is not bad ( and is actually very cool to literally be able to control the way people perceive your face, it’s like magic) it’s good to ask ourselves why we contour the way we do.

weather fairies ☂️☀️