Spongebob is cleanqueer! (and you can be too! :3)

Guys I think proship and radqueer stuff is a bigger focus. Nobody is using cleanqueer for syscourse bullshit (well, except people like Sophie) I promise you 🥹🥹 I say this as someone who's anti endo, it's GOOD that the term is stanceless. It focuses on something that can harm way more people and it focuses on being anti harassment!! I'm PROUD that there's pro-endos probably using this label, it's nice to unite over something this fucked up as people who don't believe in harassment even when beliefs differ

I hope people stop bugging you about syscourse!!/gen

It genuinely feels like people are trying to find ways to demonize the term that's harmless as hell :(

There is 100% such a thing as a harmful paraphilia. Pedophilia, Zoophilia, Necrophilia, and others all involve non-consenting individuals and are incredibly harmful. “Thought crimes aren’t real” doesn’t mean “if you’re aroused by rape it’s ok and awesome!” It is a phrase meant to comfort people with intrusive thoughts.

I really don’t want to put this person on blast but creating a space for children to talk about their attraction to animals, dead bodies, and younger children is not okay. And I know they’re a kid, but although it is true that kids deserve a safe place to discuss their attraction, publicly on tumblr is NOT a safe space!!! This is practically a buffet for predators and MAPs! Do not harass the original poster.

"Thought crime isn't real" doesn't suddenly stop applying to people you don't like. You cannot designate some thought as bad because they don't hurt the person thinking them.

Regardless of whether you think this blog should exist or not, minors with paraphilias exist and they deserve to have a space to talk about them in a SFW manner. I developed a MADIR paraphilia when I was 16 and blogs like that not only helped me but fully prevented me from developing a paraphilic disorder. I also want to point out that the blog is not for any explicit discussions, which you can see if you actually scroll through it.

To sign off this post, I'm going to show a lot of examples of this account actually helping people through their internal shame.

Secondly, the phrase “thought crimes aren’t real” applies to people with intrusive thoughts. It’s not “so people that you don’t like don’t get to use it?” It’s a phrase for people with intrusive thoughts because people can literally believe that their bad thoughts can influence the real world. That’s what the phrase is for. And btw, acting on something in the real world is not a “thought crime” and people need to stop appropriating that term. Writing fanfic is not a “thought crime.” Creating a tumblr blog for minors to express publicly that they are zoophiles is not a “thought crime.” Proudly proclaiming that you are a zoophile is not a “thought crime.”

And these screenshots you’re showing of “helping people” is first of all, mostly not even paras at all but people with OCD. And the reason this seems like it’s helping is because, again, it’s “your thoughts about rape are cool and awesome.” Which can be comforting, because it makes you feel good about your intrusive thoughts. But in reality, people who have intrusive thoughts shouldn’t be learning that they’re cool and awesome, they should be learning that it doesn’t define them or say anything about them as a person. And that they’re involuntarily. These communities are incredibly unsafe for people with intrusive thoughts because these people absolutely love convincing you to do things that make your thoughts more prevalent and project your thoughts into the real world through looking at porn and telling strangers online about it. Things like darkshipping, which can be extremely harmful even to people who don’t have intrusive thoughts, are especially dangerous to people with intrusive thoughts, especially paraphilias, because they encourage you to treat your disorder and/or symptoms of a disorder like a cute innocent kink. And it is BECAUSE these things are so stigmatized that these types of communities and blogs arise, because some people see it as a kink, and paraphiles, which have no where else to go, are forced to see it as a kink in order to be accepted. Paraphiles deserve spaces that aren’t kink spaces, that are separate from actual kinks like objectum, to talk honestly about what they feel, rather than being forced to make their paraphilias worse because the only place they have to go is fetish spaces.

The DSM-5 defines a paraphilia as an "intense and persistent sexual interest other than sexual interest in genital stimulation or preparatory fondling with phenotypically normal, physiologically mature, consenting human partners". Which just means, to put it shortly, a sexual interest in a non-sexual thing or being that isn't capable of sexual consent.

The DSM-5 (as does the ICD-11) also makes a point to distinguish paraphilias from paraphilic disorders. A paraphilia is only considered a paraphilic disorder, and diagnosed as such, if it causes marked distress to the individual or has been acted on with unconsenting beings.

An attraction cannot be inherently harmful because it is purely a thought. Without influence that pushes it into a paraphilic disorder, it cannot hurt the person who has it. And, as I said before, if it is acted on the action itself is the thing that is harmful.

Paraphilias that are not paraphilic disorders cannot be treated because there is nothing to treat. Again, this is agreed on by the literal DSM-5 and ICD-11. If someone is existing as a MADIR paraphile, is fully okay with their paraphilia and is not at risk of harming another person, there is literally nothing else you can do. You cannot get rid of a paraphilia.

Also - "This type of attraction is not normal and is caused by disorders like OCD and PTSD" - I would love to see a source on this because it is objectively not true. Paraphilias and paraphilic disorders do have an overlap with both of those things, but it is common knowledge that paraphilias are developed through a mix of sources.

Speaking entirely from my own terms I can say that my paraphilias were not caused by some trauma or mental illness. I have several that developed in very early childhood, before I had any exposure to sexual content. Some developed in my late teenage years but, again, were not caused by a trauma or mental illness. I know that is anecdotal evidence but I feel it is worth saying.

Source

Pt: Characteristics of Paraphilic Disorders Most people with atypical sexual interests do not have a mental disorder. To be diagnosed with a para- philic disorder, DSM-5 requires that people with these interests:

feel personal distress about their interest, not merely distress resulting from society’s disapproval; or

have a sexual desire or behavior that involves another person’s psychological distress, injury, or death, or a desire for sexual behaviors involving unwilling persons or persons unable to give legal consent.

so yes “distress” can classify a paraphilic disorder, but a sexual desire involving non-consent (aka sexual desire for kids, Animals, and dead bodies) also classifies it. At least in the DSM source that I could find, which I am willing to admit isn’t incredibly recent (2013) however this source from 2025 claims that the DSM defines one of the criteria for pedophilic disorders as “The patient reports recurrent and intense sexually arousing fantasies, sexual urges, or behaviors involving sexual activity with a prepubescent child or children…; symptoms must be present for at least 6 months” (with very similar definitions for each respective paraphilia; I chose this one because I felt it was the most relevant.) Notice that the definition also includes FANTASIES, AKA thoughts.

(also, MADIR? What? MADIR pedophile?? I’d like if you could explain this because I couldn’t find that anywhere even when I searched on tumblr for it /gen)

This next part is kind of nitpicky, and I apologize for that but I can’t not address it, but “if it causes marked distress to the individual or has been acted on with unconsenting beings”…. Something only being a disorder if it has been acted upon already, is, obviously not correct? Extreme actions like rape happen as a result of untreated disorders (in this case, not in the case of some misogynistic man doing it cause he can or something), it doesn’t just happen randomly and then you’re disabled because you did it? Again that was nitpicky af so I’m sorry about that…

and, things that are “purely thoughts” CAN hurt people and have an effect on them. Because like all things we see, thoughts affect our emotions and influence us, especially if they are involuntary because then you have no control over them. We act based on our thoughts and emotions. For people with intrusive thoughts, they aren’t just passing thoughts that you can let the wind carry away, they stick there and fester and fester and grow worse and convince you all the worst things about yourself. Thoughts can be harmful because they can cause actions, and because they can significantly worsen your mental state (intrusive thoughts mainly being the second one, unless they get extremely bad, which is rare). If opinions can form from thoughts, then thoughts can affect us. This includes opinions about ourselves.

What I said about OCD and PTSD were examples. Here’s what the source you linked in that paragraph says can be sources: “

Anxiety or early emotional trauma interferes with normal psychosexual development.

The standard pattern of arousal is replaced by another pattern, sometimes through early exposure to highly charged sexual experiences that reinforce the person’s unusual experience of sexual pleasure.

The pattern of sexual arousal often acquires symbolic and conditioning elements (eg, a fetish symbolizes the object of arousal but may have been chosen because the fetish was accidentally associated with sexual curiosity, desire, and excitement).

It is controversial whether all paraphilic development results from these psychodynamic processes, and some evidence of altered brain functioning and functional anatomy is present in some paraphilias (eg, pedophilia)  “ (btw a psychodynamic process is basically how an unconscious event or early childhood experience affects behavior and stuff for anyone reading, I had to look that one up lol)

The source you used literally sites anxiety and trauma, early exposure to sexually charged experiences, and sexual conditioning, and describes them as psychodynamic processes? Which doesn’t really dismantle my point at all in my opinion? I guess I could be wrong maybe or maybe I just wasn’t clear enough that they were examples. However I stand by my point that attraction to rape isn’t normal.

Duckies on the way to gay <3

Something I wish a lot of people understood is recovery isn't linear. Some people believe they cannot get better, therefore cannot recover. Some believe they cannot recover but are still actively trying. Some do think they can recover, but struggle to try to get motivation to. Some believe they can recover, and are actively trying to.

Even for those actively trying, their recovery may move backwards sometimes. They may fall in pits of "maybe I am bad and cant actually recover. Maybe I should stop trying."

Currently I'm in one of those pits, trying to get myself out. Previously I was doing fine, believed I could recover and deserved to, but now I struggle to believe I deserve peace and happiness. I am still trying, but I understand those out there who stop trying because mine is so bad.

So please. Remember your recovery doesn't need to be linear. It often isn't.