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Yes! She has tried to eat Shamura, Kallamar and Narinder haven’t had to deal with it

Leshy gets it the worst but no worries! Leshy attacks back

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this has been a very hard decision to make, but I need to pause transfem voices project

when I started it three months ago I genuinely did not expect it to reach the size it has. I've been told by a lot of people who do this kind of work professionally that it's very taxing and that, with the volume I've been taking on, I need to make sure to take care of myself. I figured I would go until something gave, and something giving is where I'm at now

I don't regret a second of it, because it's clear now more than ever that this is work that needs to be done, and I love every one of my transfem sisters. it's vitally important that we have spaces and resources like this to heal from our sexual trauma, and there are dangerously few of those in the world. that's why it's been so hard to decide to take a break, and I want to truly apologize that this resource will spend some time closed off

I'm going to be exploring options for making this work more sustainable when I open the project back up. I've been discussing the possibility with some transfeminist friends of bringing on additional people to help process submissions, and moving the project to a sideblog to facilitate this. that's one possibility, but I'll explore other possibilities as well during my break

I apologize, but I'd like to request that submissions are not made during this break. I still have a few submissions to process, so those will go up soon, but those will be the last submissions until the project is opened again

here are some stats: the project started on April 9th, 2026, and has run for 94 days. it has had 330 submissions, for an average of 3.5 submissions per day

finally, I want to make a call to action. sexual abuse resources for transfems need to exist much more than they do now. they need to exist far beyond the scope of me or this one project. there's nothing particularly special about me that has allowed me to do this. I realized there was a need for it and I started doing it. you can do this too. if you're reading this and you have the capacity in any way, please consider looking into what you can do for transfem survivors of sexual abuse. there are so many of us, and rarely ever do we get any of the support we need

i'm not sure if this is something you'd have a personal connection to, but maybe some people following you would? basically, i'm a trans man and a preschool teacher. i work at a very leftist reggio school with a lot of lgb teachers and admin, but the community is (predictably) predominantly tme. i'm one of three transmascs and there is one (1) tma genderqueer teacher.

transmisogyny is an enormous blindspot in our community in ways that are glaringly obvious to them and i, but not acknowledged by anyone else. anyone in childcare who's not a cis woman is constantly held to a higher level of scrutiny when it comes to what's considered "appropriate." their stories are personal so i won't share them here, but our one tma teacher is periodically criticized in language that implies inappropriate conduct, but basically just amounts to "i don't like them." i call this out when i see it and we are both dismissed as overreacting to "harmless opinions."

the amount of trans women I've met who have learned what i do and replied something to the tune of "i wish i could do that too" is heartbreaking. that grief is so real. and these are patient, gentle, emotionally intelligent women who would make for exceptional teachers and caregivers. i wish i could tell them that it's 100% safe. that they won't be harassed by parents or held to a quadruple standard for appropriate conduct. that they'd be supported and given the grace it takes to learn and grow as teachers. but i don't have confidence in my administrative team that they would competently defend their staff against transmisogyny from families or fellow teachers.

i want so badly for the trans girls at our school to have just One woman in their community that they can look at and think "Oh! so i can have a beautiful future, actually. this is an option that's possible" in the same way the tboys have men to look up to - this was a not-insignificant reason why i went into this field. i want so badly for this field to be kind to trans women who love and respect children and want to help them learn and grow. i don't know what else to do other than to call attention to these biases over and over again among the adults, to defend my tma colleague (whom i have NEVER seen act inappropriately as long as i've worked around them), and to consistently verbally affirm the children in their self-expression and the fact that only they can decide who they are. i don't know how else to get my colleagues interested in proactively putting supports in place to make our school a safe place for transfem people to work. they all seem to think that since the director is a (cis) butch lesbian and we have a handful of trans(masc) staff, there's no more work to be done and that trans women would simply show up for interviews if they were interested in the field. when i've brought the topic up with admin, they invited me to speak at an optional staff meeting on the broader topic of gender justice in ece (which there IS a lot to say about, but waters down the conversation at hand). i bring up transmisogyny whenever given the opportunity, but it's always just met with a lot of vacant nods and empty agreements.

all that's to say, we NEED trans women in childcare, but no one is interested in proactively making it a safe profession for trans women to enter. i'm putting this out there in case you or anyone else has thoughts, especially trans women who work/aspire to work in ece. sorry for the long message. much love ❤️

throughout my adolescence, me and my brother were always put in opposition to each other. he was always treated as the boy brother and i was the girl brother, so to speak. he was a wannabe man who liked working out and hanging out with the Boys, and i was an obvious effeminate faggot whose stepdad always danced around questioning my sexuality or perceived maleness, he would always say things about "being a man" to me but never my brother, like he knew i was failing it.

anyways, within the household, there was an obvious gender dynamic applied between me and my brother. fundamentally, i got treated as the girl, but without any of the allowance to actually Be the girl. and, to be marxist about it, this was in a large part consistently reproduced through household labor. i was the one expected to do the "inside chores" while he did the "outside chores," and at a certain point in my teen years, my stepdad stopped even bothering asking me to work outside at all, fully making my expected workload to be the cooking and cleaning. and if i did not clean, i was reprimanded in the way of a bad woman, and if my brother didnt mow that week or something it was brushed aside because he was a mans man and the favored sibling as such.

the point is, both in and outside the household, i was not experiencing life being "socially male" and in fact the dynamics within my household specifically were reproducing gendered dynamics where i would be maintained as the woman through feminized domestic labor. because, guess fucking what, as trans women, even before were out, people can notice things about us and act accordingly and we genuinely truly get socially classed as women, and i think my particular experience was starkly important as it raises questions about the labor and domestic processes and the family and how these forces are literally foundational to the maintenance of gender class and its reproduction and how these forces position themselves to transfeminity. these questions which i mull over constantly.

like what do terfs and tme people who dont understand the transfem upbringing want me to fucking say? i got raised within the social class and expectation of woman, and this fundamentally affects my transfeminine experience and the way i move within any given dynamic now. like the expectations of the woman are embedded in me, both in labor and looks.

yes!!!! I had a similar upbringing, marked as the more feminine child in comparison to my other siblings, including my sister. I was treated as a workhorse of domestic labor, one of my main chores being doing all of the laundry (washing, drying (on the clotheslines during warmer months, even though we had a dryer) and sorting and folding for our 6-person household

I don't have anything to say about this off the dome, but I will think about it

what I do want to say right now, however, is that we don't exactly have a lot of genuine allies in general right now, and at the risk of saying some words I'll eat, I'd rather have loads of clumsy allies who are genuinely trying (albeit ones who are open to feedback and criticism!!!!) than a small few perfect ones who are afraid to act lest they misstep

but thats not what they said. they said: “it’s not fatphobic to declare that you dont want to sleep with fat women.” which is a different thing altogether. a wrong thing, might i add.