*shows up to ur fandom 5 years late with fanart*

I don't have anything to say about this off the dome, but I will think about it

what I do want to say right now, however, is that we don't exactly have a lot of genuine allies in general right now, and at the risk of saying some words I'll eat, I'd rather have loads of clumsy allies who are genuinely trying (albeit ones who are open to feedback and criticism!!!!) than a small few perfect ones who are afraid to act lest they misstep

but thats not what they said. they said: “it’s not fatphobic to declare that you dont want to sleep with fat women.” which is a different thing altogether. a wrong thing, might i add.

It's shorthand for "I'm a transphobe but I've learned if I say the quiet part out loud I loose my social standing"

It's shorthand for "I learned progressive language but Ive never even considered meaningfully changing my worldview in any way, that sounds hard"

I'm a trans man, and being told I'm oppressed because of my 'femaleness' or that my gender isn't the same as a cis man's or that lesbians are attracted to my agab or WHATEVER is the most aggressed upon and violated I have ever felt.

cis people have NEVER made me feel so misused and vulnerable as my own community telling me I am weak and sexualized and cannot be a 'real (cis) man' because I'm afab. YES I experience misogyny. NO I don't want a stranger to keep fucking rubbing my nose in it because they think I'm not woeful enough about it because I know I can perpetuate misogyny too

and this isn't nearly as fucked up as the way they're (we're) abusing trans women and transfeminine nb people. but for the record, this isn't benefiting anyone, not even the people it's meant to benefit.

I'm a man, with all that entails, including the responsibility to respect and show up for women in my community, to atone for what other men have done and continue to do. I'm a fucking man. if TMRAs don't see me as one, that's their personal business

"Ableism tag on Tumblr be like: 80% Radical Disability Advocates complaining about anyone who isn't disabled". "Transphobia tag on Tumblr be like: 80% Radical Trans Liberationists complaining about anyone who isn't trans."

not everyone is pan

me: "I don't give a shit who you're attracted to but you don't have to go up to minorities and announce that you find them unfuckable"

I've been wanting to unpack this particular terf argument for a while but I'm not even sure what I wrote that you could be responding to here. yes it's bioessentialist to see trans women as our assigned sex before what we actually are, but that fact alone does not obligate you to sleep with anyone

it would be fatphobic to announce that you don't want to sleep with fat women, and someone simply calling that out alone would not constitute pressuring you to sleep with anyone you didn't want to

When I was growing up and transitioning, it was understood that trans women were more vulnerable to bigotry as just an observable fact. It was unspoken.

I have been hurt by transphobia sure but it was never because I was specifically FtM. What I mean by that is this -that people who hate trans men ALWAYS hate trans women too.

Yet I have met many cis people who don't mind trans men but LOATHE trans women, seeing us as 'quirky gender outlaws' while still viewing trans women as predatory men invading some 'sacred female space.'

Example: no one ever bothered me for presenting masculine things at work, even when my beard was too long for our work standard.

Yet the day my freshly-out trans femme coworker wore tights to work, her department manager pulled her aside within an hour of her clocking in and made her go home and change!

The cis girls were never bothered for wearing tights even if they were wearing colors/styles that were against technically against dress code.

The same HR lady who helped me change my legal name in our employee roll did nothing to help this girl when I reported the manager who singled her out. Even speaking up for her got me labeled as being 'dramatic.'

She quit within the week, it was awful. ( I am glad to report she got a better job and recently got her legal name change and is four years on E at this point! )

I've had to cut ties with many people over them saying weird shit about trans women to me, that job being one of those ties! I was there for five years but seeing what happened to the girl made me lose all my faith in their 'inclusive' claims, so I left.

If you don't want my trans women peers around, you don't get my trans masc self either! That's how it should be.

All trans men must practice zero tolerance for transmisogyny otherwise we can never expect trans girls/women to buy into claims of solidarity from us trans men. The world is coming at the girls from all sides, we shouldn't be adding onto their stress by repeating rainbow-flavored TERF talking points.

It says a lot that the public generally perceives us (trans guys) as ready to agree with the whole "lol trans women are freaks, amiright??" Bullshit.

The reputation is there because many trans men are too chickenshit to speak up for their sisters. At worst, they agree with the transmisogyny.

I have been trying to educate the younger men about why TME vs TMA is needed in trans discussions but it has been an obnoxiously uphill battle. Many do not want to listen.

Your page is a great resource for breaking down the aspects of transmisogyny that trans men miss or don't consider, thank you for putting it up. It gives me the language to dismantle transandrophobia arguments.

This issue is something older trans men need to get active in correcting this behavior. Trans men have to teach our younger bros to be better than this otherwise it will keep spreading like redpill shit did among cis dudes. The fact that so many trans women are doing the emotional labor of educating these buttheads isn't fair and I don't blame all of you trans femmes for being frustrated.

Sending this privately because I don't want to seem like I am stating my peace for clout.

You rock ✌️ and don't let the bastards get you down.

Fixed your shitty meme for you ^-^