pretty boy ❤︎

you work 5 days a week for 8 hours at a very intense job with multiple skills required. you have 5 minutes to grab all of your very heavy tools and navigate to the opposite end of the building when you change shifts. you get a single 30 minute lunch. you have to exercise, regardless of illness, neurodivergence or disability for an hour and you don't get to choose what you do. you have hours of the same work to do at home. also if you fuck any of this up, or do it the wrong way, or stop showing up, you will be punished and your caretakers could go to jail.

maybe you have the choice to do this all at home. the only difference is that you don't have to transport as much. so you're stuck in one spot, alone, head down, working like you usually would otherwise.

completely inhumane, right? but sure, "kids these days are..." alive people who think and feel. you should not torture children.

Plain text : [ Commissions / Emergency Commissions ]

Important warning : If you plan to ask for a non emergency commission , make sure you can pay using Pix. As its my only method of transaction.

[ Plain text : Important warning : If you plan to ask for a non emergency commission , make sure you can pay using Pix. As its my only method of transaction. ]

Hello everyone !

I have finally opened commissions , both for supporting me financially , and those who are in need, and I please ask to have preference for the last one.

Basically : Besides the traditional method of commissions , I will be doing commissions to fund fundraisers, these last ones can be found both in my blog tagged as #important, and also on my friend's blog @dyspunktional-leviathan , tagged as #emergency #funds needed , etc.

My prices are as it follows :

- Headshot : 3 dollars.

- Bust : 5 dollars.

- Half body : 7 dollars

- Full body : 10 dollars

- Reference sheet : 15 dollars

Any additional charather [ I can only do up to 2 ] will be 2 dollars extra from the original price.

What I can do for you : Paraphilia pride, transid pride, romantic drawings , the usual stuff.

What I can't do : NSFW, art involving Aubrey being romantic to anyone other than me, mecha, cishateful.

Do not call my art underpriced , thx !

All will be fully shaded.

Do not give me tips unless its dedicated to fundraisers.

You can find examples of it tagged as #🍖 on my blog.

The process explained under cut.

We have other prefixes for everything that people will bring up to defend the term.

Are you a fictionkin, factkin, or introject who did bad things in your source? Sourceharmful. Or even just transharmful, you’re one of the groups of people that the term was originally made for.

Are you someone who genuinely committed harmful actions in this reality, and simultaneously want to move past it/make amends and still feel connected to it? Vetusharmful.

Are you someone who committed harmful acts or has programming to do so, but it’s not your choice? Your harmful past wasn’t up to you? Forcedharmful.

After that, justifications get ridiculous. No, CNC is not rape. That is horribly offensive to both SA survivors and to those who practice kink. If you call yourself a cisrapist because you do CNC, I will be raising my eyebrows at you and you’ll be lucky if that’s all I do.

Cisharmful was created by a pro-abuse individual. I can reblog with proof if you want. But it is literally designed to obscure who supports real abuse and who doesn’t. That’s its purpose.

We should never have let this term become a thing.

I have an issue with people using it to make stuff that's completely unnecessary and would be better if a human did it, like fanfic or art. Have you seen what it's like to live near an AI database?

Not knowing as the host, who you are most of the days 24/7

Not knowing which name to go by

singlethood is insanely rare. according to the ISSTD (Institute for Singular-Self Temperament Disorder), less than 0.000001% of humans are singlets. no one who ACTUALLY HAS the disorder would post about it online, unless they were seeking attention (an action done only by Evil Heartless Narcissist Psychopath Sociopath Abusers who Abuse People and not, perchance, a result of the whole "homo sapiens being a social species" thing).

and besides, minors aren't mature enough to know they're singlets! only at the age of 18 does the brain magically switch from "bumbling, reckless, hormonal property of their parents" to "old enough to deserve human rights such as respect".

as someone professionally diagnosed with SSTD, it is not "quirky" or an "aesthetic". SINGLETHOOD is a TRAUMA DISORDER. the Structural Theory of Consolidation states from a young age, severe and violent abuse by parents (the only kind of Trauma that is Traumatic Enough) forces the malleable mind of a child into something unchanging; quashes every unique voice into one.

they've never known the agonising loneliness of thinking "hello" in your head and hearing no answer. they don't know what it's like to go through life having to do everything yourself, unsupported. they've never experienced the inflexibility of having one self as the world changes and evolves, the monotony of being the same person over and over, the sheer fucking isolation of having no one else who knows them at the deepest, most intimate levels.

Since permamonika has appeared in my inbox, I'm gonna give my own two cents, ignoring the screenshots I've seen where prn was directly seen sexually harrassing a person of youth. I'm going to be focussing on a very specific aspects of this, hopefully this take isn't too hot...

Grooming, inherently, is a build up of trust, that you manipulate. If you groom someone correctly, they will consent to you. They will say yes, and during such they will behave in a way that seems heavily consenting.

Saying "but they consented" after being accused of grooming doesn't work, because ofcourse they did, thats what makes it a manipulation tactic.

I dont beleive all agegap relationships are grooming at all, I'm in a agegap relationship, my partners have been nothing but beacons of hope in my life, and I don't personally have a contact stance (their stupid) I do know not all minor and adult relationships are inherently grooming, as much as the media would like to say that.

However when you have multiple people of youth coming out, stating "I feel taking advantage of, my trust was twisted" over and over - to the point theres a pattern - that to me is a sign there's something going on.

If it was a fully consentual relationship, then there wouldn't be so many people of youth saying otherwise.

Thats something I see alot of people in this community not understand, there's going to be victims who seem consenting at the time, sometimes you say yes to people hurting you, this goes for any form of being hurt and is why you should repeatedly check "is there a power balance we should discuss?" "does this person seem mentally stable?" "Has this person went through anything traumatic recently?" "is there anything that could be influencing this person to say yes to me?"

I dont beleive that if you've hurt someone previously that this immediately means you are the devil either, you can unconsciously manipulate someone, difference with Monika is that Prn has proven to have a pattern with this.

I think if there's anything you should take out of this situation, it's that consent is alot more complicated than yes or no, and you should always be conscious of the various reasons someone might be saying yes to you. Alot of my own suffering wouldnt of happened if the people around me had considered my mental breakdowns, manic episodes, bpd highs and lows, recent trauma, ect before getting me to agree to things, or if people beleived me when I said I was manipulated into saying yes, uninformed or influenced yes's aren't consent, and even in some cases, what is consent varies from person to person, and you should ask them if there's times, they don't feel safe consenting.

There might even be times where you thought you were fully sure and it turned out that person was influenced or not in a place to say yes. Always always do "aftercare"* no matter the situation, where you check in with the person and see how their doing. Risk/harm prevention I think should go for all scenarios, and is as simple as asking if a person is okay and or still consents to x y z.

*This goes for nonsexual consentual acts too

Equally, maybe we should all take a moment of what grooming really looks like, and what consent while being groomed looks like and how manipulation can twist consent.

Stay safe basically 🎉

you'll say "i think children shouldn't be forced to eat food they hate" and here comes someone who feeds their kids plain rice and boiled chicken (while eating a nicely seasoned stirfry) claiming that it's okay actually and kids shouldn't be allowed to taste things

as a child, if you have an idea that you want to pitch to an adult about absolutely anything, you'll be told off by someone saying, "oh you're just a kid, what would you know about this." or some bullshit like that.

and this is so contradictory because everyone says that children are so creative and have such great imagination. why not use that imagination somewhere? when it has the potential to solve an actual problem, why not consider their ideas?

Whether or not kids can consent in a utopia youthlib future is literally a useless argument. Like, we don’t live in that world. We may never live in that world. Even if you’re an optimist, you have to realize that we will not see that world for a very very long time. Right now it as useful of a thing to talk about as talking about a world where unicorns are real.

Right now kids cannot consent to adults. “Do you want to have sex with me?” “Yes.” That yes means less than nothing in a world where kids have learned that saying no to an adult gets you yelled at/threatened/beaten/denied privileges/denied basic needs/emotionally manipulated until you say yes. Literally take your pick. Some of these have happened to me, some of these I know people who they have happened to. There is zero way to meaningfully consent to someone who can legally beat you for discipline (read: disagreeing with them) in far too many places.

Once we actually build a future with youth rights we can debate about things like physical maturity and emotional maturity and whatever. Right now if you see children as “able to consent” to you I am going to assume you want to manipulate/abuse them. You want a youthlib utopia? Get off your ass and work for it. Ban corporal punishment. Lower the voting age. Reform the school system. End a culture of “obey your elders or else” that every kid gets constantly indoctrinated with. Make it so kids aren’t terrified of making any adult unhappy ever because otherwise said adult might chuck a pair of pliers at the wall and you can’t criticize them because you’re a kid so you just have to be around someone who might do that if you make them mad enough. Oh? You don’t want to do the work? Your advocacy begins and ends with “let kids fuck me”? Of fucking course it does.