I've increasingly been encountering cis "allies" saying they're replacing "woman" in their vocabulary with "AFAB" to be more inclusive of transmascs, e.g. if they're talking about people who get sexually harassed by men. I used to think this was a well-meaning position born of ignorance, but I've discovered that you press them on whether they think transfems get sexually harassed by men, amazingly they will often admit that they know they do. You then ask them to reconsider why they refer to "AFABs", and they just repeat that they want to be inclusive of transmascs.
The only way their contradictory behaviour makes sense is if they understand that transfems are marginalised in much the same ways as cis women, but they just don't care about it. Their solidarity does not extend to us.
I get harassed for even wearing eyeliner outside and people are very comfortable commenting "that's a boy!" whenever I do ANYTHING to dress feminine. I've had male hawkers corner me in public to hit on me while trying to sell me their products while around my TME exes and nothing was done, not even from my partners at the time.
I get proselytized to, stared at, catcalled, pretty much every which way for the daring proposition of existing as a woman who has been through masculinizing puberty. These are not included or even considered when so called allies use agab language to exclude the experiences of trans women and transmisogyny because they don't view us as people.
