Maybe this will not be taken well, but I'm going to say it anyway: it bothers my that I keep reading Buddie metas (not always, not everybody, its stupid that I feel I have to say this) about Buck and Eddie both needing to grow and 'be better versions of themselves' in order for their relationship to work.
Is that the message we want the show to get across?
Is that what people really believe?
That in general you have to be some perfect version of yourself to have a successful relationship? To have long term love?
Cause that's bordering on a message that says you have to be a certain way to "deserve" love. Or that people with baggage can't do the work in the relationship if they are also still working on themselves.
And maybe its because I'm older, or maybe its because of my own experiences in life, but that is absolute bullshit.
I want to see Buddie together and I'm totally fine if they aren't perfect people when they are. I want them to support each other in becoming better. I want them to love each other with all the baggage and the flaws. Because I think they already do! They love each other, flaws and all, they're just friends/partners/platonic soul mates?? now, not romantically involved.
I don't want there to be some arbitrary 'finish line' they have to reach first before they kiss.
I want the mess. I want them to sometimes say the wrong thing and do the wrong thing and love each other anyway!
Because that's what love and relationships look like in real life!
Like Mitchell said, you don't find it, you make it.
Relationships take work not just because relationships themselves are hard, but because the people in them are always changing and growing and getting hurt and healing and sometimes not healing very well.
I don't want Buddie to be rushed. In fact, I would be sad, but fine if Buddie never becomes canon, because I don't need it to be canon to believe in the love between Buck and Eddie.
But, if Buddie does happen, I don't want it to be presented as something that couldn't have happened if Buck and Eddie hadn't worked through every one of their own personal issues.
Clearly, there are some issues (for example Eddie's repression of his sexuality) that have to be addressed, but some of the others...
Buck and Eddie can still be a successful couple while Buck is working through his feelings of abandonment and emotional regulation. Buck and Eddie can still be happily in love as Eddie works through his difficulties opening up to others and his tendency to take on other people's problems and issues and expectations as his own.
Let them be messy. And love each other through the mess.
