I’m gutted.

Due a URL change- the old ‘self care after rape: a masterlist’ is no longer useable. If you reblogged that one- the links don’t work, try this one instead.

The Basics:

What is Rape?/Types of Rape

Common Responses to Rape/Sexual Assault(ppt)

Survivors and the Doctors Office

Traumaversaries

Why You Aren’t Bad for Loving Your Abuser.

Teaching Consent

How to Talk About Trauma:

Talking About Trauma (ppt)

Talking About Trauma (to others)

What if they don’t believe me?

Processing New Information on Old Hurts.

If Not Rape, Then (On what to call it when you’re not ready to use the word rape)

Need Help With:

But How Do I Get Over It?

Reifying Happiness

Sleep

Nightmares

Dreams and Trauma: Frequently Asked Questions

Surviving the Holidays (ppt)

Overstimulated Nerves

Self-Injury (ppt)

Flashbacks (ppt)

Panic Attacks

Making Peace With the Emotion Monster

On Holding Anger for Attackers

Processing Emotions: Anger

Disordered Eating, What it is and What you can do about it.

Admitting Weakness

Hygiene

Regression

Self Invalidation

The But Series! (About various strands of Self Invalidation.)

Finding Coping Mechanisms that Work

Effective Alternative Communication

How To Tell Your Therapist - About Almost Anything

Planning to See An Abuser

The Follower Collaborative Series:

Coping With Flashbacks

Triggers:

I’m triggered- Now What?

More On Triggers

On Purposely Triggering Yourself

Getting Over Triggers

De-triggering Abuser Names.

Reclaiming a Space

Boundaries:

Boundaries (ppt)

Boundaries 101

Boundaries: How to set them

Survivor+Survivor: Boundaries

Self-Care:

What is Self Care Anyway? (ppt)

BACE Method

BACE Method (now with venn diagrams.)

Self Care When You Lack a Sense of Self

Interpersonal Self-Care

Emotional Self Care

Physical Self Care

How to Do Self Care When You Only Have A Little Bit of Time

Self Care For Cold Weather

Self Care + Trauma Work

Consent/sex:

Intimacy After Rape

Lets Talk Consent

Lets Talk Sex

Sexuality After Rape

Using Sex as Self Harm?

Teaching Consent

Posts about Suicide:

Talking about Suicide (why we want to blame the suicidal and why we shouldn’t)

Don’t Call Suicide Selfish

Suicidal Ideation

For Friends/Family/Partners of Survivors:

How to Help a Friend Who Has Been Raped.(ppt)

How to Help a Friend Who Has Been Through Trauma

Avoiding Awkward- How to talk about rape when we talk to survivors.(ppt)

Sometimes the easiest thing to say is the worst.

How to Listen to Trauma Stories

Being Family/Friends isn’t an excuse.

A Friend is Self Harming (ppt)

Comfort In. Complain Out.

What Can I Do?

Reality Checks

Why ‘Just Leave’ Just Doesn’t Work

Misc:

Acute Inpatient: A brief overview

1. She wanted an abortion. He didn’t. 2. She had baby and gave him what he wanted. 3. She was clear about her intentions the entire time. 4. She pays OVER the court ordered amount in child support. 5. He regrets the child and wishes she would just do what he wants. (Aka. Be with him and take care of the kid she never wanted in the first place).

We are mortal, but Napoleon and Illya are forever.

I’m worried about losing you some day, Illya.

You idiot! We are for always, Napoleon.

From the beginning.

Through the middle.

But there is no end. We are forever.

and lots of people think this very likely,

“Oh little Sionnat has obviously been taken by the fairies and they’ve left us a Changeling Child who knows too much, and asks strange questions, and uses words she shouldn’t know, and watches everything with her big dark eyes, clearly a Fairy Child and not a Human Like Us.”

The Myth of the Changeling child, a human baby apparently replaced at a young age by a toddler who “suddenly” acts “strange and fey” is an almost textbook depiction of autistic children.

To this day, “autism warrior mommies” talk about autism “stealing” their “sweet normal child” and have this idea of “getting their real baby back” which (in the face of modern science)  indicates how the human psyche actually does deal with finding out their kid acts unlike what they expected.

The only geographical pattern for autism is that it clusters in wealthy areas with highly educated parents - who are more likely to hire a good pediatrician, so they’re not clusters of autism, they’re clusters of autism diagnosis.

The term “autism” was not actually coined until 1911, and then it was used in Switzerland to talk about a subset of schizophrenics. It wasn’t used in its current sense until the 1940s, and until the 1960s it was still thought autism and schizophrenia were connected.

So, obviously, there’s no chance of people who lived before that being diagnosed. Analysis of people’s lives has sometimes indicated the possibility - it’s pretty commonly believed that Einstein was on the spectrum from the way he dealt with/didn’t deal with other people.

Now, here’s a big part of it.

The two major researchers who established autism were Hans Asperger in Germany and Leo Kanner in the United States.

Asperger’s view of autism was much like how we see it now - a spectrum, with some people only showing a few traits and some showing more of them.

Kanner thought it was a rare condition AND he thought it was caused by bad parenting. And THAT is the view of autism and autistics and parents of autistics that dominated in the US for a long term. He framed it as psychosis, favored institutionalization (because they needed to be rescued from the bad parents who caused it). And because he said it was a rare and severe psychosis only the most severe cases were counted.

What’s actually happening now is that people are acknowledging that Asperger was right and Kanner was wrong and counting the people Asperger would have counted all along.

Hence, sudden autism epidemic.