As someone with BPD, I'd just like to try to clear some things up.
DO have trouble regulating their emotions and their impulses
DO struggle with healthy relationships and attachments to others
DO have an intense fear of abandonment and will do whatever it takes to avoid being abandoned
DO have an unstable sense of self and their identity
DO suffer from chronic self-harming and/or suicidal behaviours
DO experience feelings of emptiness or hollowness
DO have erratic moods and emotions that can change drastically from moment to moment
DO frequently engage in impulsive behaviours
ARE able to feel real love towards other people
ARE able to live happy, well-rounded lives
ARE able to form healthy relationships
People with BPD do/are not:
DO NOT act the way they do for attention (the self-destructive behaviours people with BPD sometimes engage in stems from a need to cope with our emotions and thoughts, not out of attention-seeking)
ARE NOT intentionally or maliciously manipulative (manipulative behaviour is pre-planned and intentional. People with BPD engage in their behaviours as a reaction to their intense emotions. While we may act in ways that attempt to control how others behave, we are typically doing so to try to ease or prevent our own emotional pain, not to hurt others.)
ARE NOT dangerous or violent (people with BPD are much more likely to hurt themselves than others)
HAVE NOT all experienced childhood trauma (many people with BPD have experienced childhood trauma, but many have not. Childhood trauma is a risk factor, not a cause.)
ARE NOT all AFAB (while a larger percentage of those diagnosed with BPD are assigned female at birth, many of those who are assigned male at birth also suffer from BPD, and some evidence shows that it may be more equally distributed among both sexes)
ARE NOT untreatable (there are lots of treatment options available! DBT is the most common, but there are many other options as well.)
ARE NOT all abusers (abuse is not linked to any one mental illness. People with BPD may struggle to form healthy relationships and this can lead to abusive dynamics, however ANYONE can be abusive regardless of their mental health.)
ARE NOT all the same (BPD is a spectrum and it affects all of us a little bit differently. Not everyone is going to experience it exactly the same as someone else, and it's important to recognize that we're all individuals.)
ARE NOT rare (BPD is actually pretty common. It's estimated that around 1-2% of the population are diagnosed BPD. That's around 156,000,000 people, and that's not even counting those who are undiagnosed.)
ARE NOT horrible, unfeeling monsters (we are literally just people)
ARE NOT unworthy of love (EVERYONE is worthy and deserving of love)