Me on Tumblr: All ships are good and valid, and there is no ship better than the other. Let's all ship in peace.

Me @ myself: Lol, Sambucky is clearly the superior ship, enemies to lovers, slow burn and Happy Ending with a sunset? Who can even compete?

Me on Tumblr: They are grown *ss men!!! Steve and Bucky at are adults and the fandom needs to stop babying them and acting like they can do no wrong😠😠😠. They are SO annoying when they do that.

Me @ myself: Oh Joaquin Torres, my sweet sweet cinnamon bean who is perfect and can do no wrong😍😍😍... I will defend you as if my life depends on it and fight whoever says something bad about you.

Me on Tumblr: All Disney+ Marvel shows are good... We shouldn't be making any comparisons!

Let people ship what they want!!!!!!

Seriously though!!! Don’t get mad at people for shipping two people with chemistry because that’s the way they interpret that characters’ relationship!! People have a right to ship and make content for that specific ship, let them do it!!! It’s not affecting you!!

Certain people see themselves or find representation in certain ships. Some people have comfort ships to escape the in real life situations they’re in. Most people just really enjoy it.

So don’t take that away from people!!!! Let them ship what they want!!!!

Literally almost every single peace of media has platonic male friendships in it and almost none of them ends up in a canon relationship. So there IS representation. Some people shipping those characters don’t take away their canon friendship.

And it doesn’t only happen to the male friendships. Every close female and male/female friendship you see on screen will always have people shipping them.

Because guess what? That’s how fandoms work. It doesn’t only happen with male friendships.

Are we really ignoring all the people who assume every man and woman who breaths the same air are canonically in love with each other? But somehow it’s only a problem when queer people do it.

Are we really ignoring how we get so little male/female friendships in media without writers turning it romantic at some point?

But we never get to see two close male leads of an action movie kissing at the end do we? So shut up about “friendship representation” You have tons of platonic friendships.

And the thing is, a lot of people who say this don’t even care about platonic friendships or mlm fetishization by straight girls. They’re just trying to find a way to put queer ships down. They never say “I think this two specific characters are good friends so I don’t like it when people ship them”

Instead, it’s always “these characters showed a little pinch of interest to opposite gender so they’re straight. just let people be friends and stop making everything gay”

Absolutely no hate to people who like it but remadora is one of the most problematic canon ships in Harry Potter. The only reason it’s not the most problematic one is because snily has the first place

And no I don’t say it because I ship wolfstar. The fact that I ship wolfstar has nothing to do with why I don’t like remadora. I would still hate it if Sirius didn’t even exist and wolfstar wasn’t a thing at all.

First of all, Remus. did. not. want. that. relationship.

He was guilt tripped into it.

And don’t say “he didn’t want because he didn’t think he deserved her. Not because he didn’t love her”

Yes, he didn’t want a relationship because of the reasons based on his self worth issues and anxiety.

BUT THOSE ARE STILL VALID REASONS THAT SHOULD BE RESPECTED

Because anxiety and depression doesn’t magically cure itself when you “find the right person”

In fact, they might even get worse. And this is exactly what we see in Remus. He hated himself even more because he thought he ruined her life too.

Also their marriage was so rushed. They have a fight about Remus not wanting to be with her but then two months later they’re married?

I’m absolutely not saying she forced him. But he definitely felt so much public pressure into marrying her. He even says it himself that he “made that decision against his better judgment,” that it was a “grave mistake” and that he “regretted it ever since.”

You can’t tell me the only reason he felt that way was because he thought “she deserved better.” That could surely be a factor, but definitely wasn’t the only reason.

I mean come on guys we all know “It’s not you it’s me” and “you deserve better then me” are the top two break up excuses. People find it hard to say “I don’t love you anymore” so they just twist their words.

Like- he literally tried to walk out on them when he found out she was pregnant. He only went back because Harry told him to. And if it takes a seventeen year old telling you for you not leave your pregnant wife alone in the middle of a war, you should probably take a second look into that relationship.

Also do you really think Tonks greeted him with open arms when he came back? What Remus did probably put some walls between them and definitely left a huge scar in their relationship.

Which is why, this relationship harms Tonks as much as it does to Remus.

We can all agree Remadora is just a big assassination on Tonks’ character.

She’s a cheerful, independent person who has a great role in the Order. But then she falls into depression because the guy she liked didn’t love him back.

It’s completely understandable to have depression while you’re in the middle of a war, but she’s depressed just because Remus didn’t want her. And then her depression magically cures once she marries him. Then she immediately gets pregnant and stops fighting for the Order.

You can tell how she changed only by looking at her looks. That marriage just ruined her character.

And it wouldn’t take so long for her to realize how this relationship effects her.

Trust me, I’ve seen so many relationships like this in my extended family. The woman who’s full of life and cheer marries this older guy who’s so distant and unwilling in their relationship.

And every time, they either have a horrible divorce or the man simply becomes invisible in the relationship while woman breaks under all the pressure of trying to make a one sided relationship work, taking care of the house, and kids all at the same time.

Because like it or not, Remadora is a one sided relationship. The only reason Remus stays is because of all the public pressure people put on him.

I saw a lot of marriages like this around me and it’s the type of relationship I’m most scared to end up in

Like it’s clear the woman loves him. And the guy doesn’t hate or even dislike her but he just… doesn’t care. It’s like he’s only there bc he’s doesn’t want to bother with a divorce

Also we know Remus was never involved in the rivalry. And even though we’re not sure about Peter, in the only memories we see James and Sirius “bullying” Snape, Peter isn’t involved.