Look, I completely respect you if you ship Harmony. Because they twisted their dynamic so much in the movies. And we're already used to seeing male lead ending up with the closest female to them in media. So a lot of people shipping it is understandable. Also l don't like hating on ships as long as they're not explicitly abusive and/or problematic. So this is not a Harmony hate post by any means.
But this is just a shoutout to people who think Ron and Hermione is a disaster couple that fights all the time, yet Harry and Hermione would make a great couple with a cute, peaceful, happy marriage.
Especially people who think they shouldāve gotten married or something
I hate to break it to you guys, but that would not happen. And I'm not saying because I don't like the ship. I'm just being realistic here.
There is no way Harry and Hermione could never be in a romantic relationship. People usually don't like the ship because they think Harry and Hermione are like siblings. And I completely agree with that. I think their relationship is so beautiful in a completely platonic way.
But that's not the only reason. I think a romantic relationship not only would ruin their relationship dynamic, but it would also turn it into something really toxic.
First of all, Hermione likes to be bossy and tell people what to do. Which is not a bad trait on it's own. But when it's combined with the way Harry hates being told what to do, and Hermione getting so annoyed when people don't listen her, that could cause huge arguments between them.
Also Harry needs someone to listen and understand him. However Hermione never seems to empathize with his feelings. In fact, she could be very judgmental sometimes.
We see the best example for it in O0TP: When Harry stops taking Occlumency lessons from Snape, he doesn't even tell Hermione. Because he doesn't think she would understand him and doesn't want to deal with the fuss she would make. This is not that much of a problem in a friendship. But not being able to talk about important things and your feeling with your partner is a huge problem.
Also they don't even enjoy each other's company enough to be in a relationship. Harry is legit miserable and bored when it's just the two of them. There were even nights they went to sleep without talking each other when Ron left. And don't tell me it's because they were stressed or something. Because the same thing happened in the GOF too.
There are even times when Harry is relieved when she isn't around.
All of these things are the reason why they are so much better as friends. In fact, I think they have a perfectly realistic sibling dynamic.
They don't always have long conversations, don't like to spend all of their times with each other and sometimes can even get bored of each other. But they still love each other so much and will always be there when the other needs them. That's all that matters.
And I think most of us are like this with our siblings. And that's completely okay. We're not exactly compatible, but the thing is, you don't have to be "compatible" with your siblings anyways.
However that's not how it works in a romantic relationship.
Like imagine them married. The house would be full of awkward silence. And through the later stages of their relationship there would be a time where they can't even stand each other's existence anymore