We knew the brothers had experienced domestic violence and the results of the dad cheating, but when the Paul accusations came out I started to wonder if there was also sexual violence in the house that became normalized. And now Iām back wondering about that because, as so many pointed out, Noelās appearance at that match with his boys goes beyond a blasĆ© attitude. Itās a willful minimization of sexual violence. ///
Exactly exactly I've been thinking about this, too. I've always had a strong feeling that they must have experienced/witnessed sexual violence at home. Maybe it could explain their messed-up relationship better too. Not just the incestuous side of it, I'm more talking about their weird power dynamics and comments about each other, ykwim. Like Noel taking digs at Liam by feminising his existence and god that one quote alone, where he says that he loves making women cry and loves making his brother cry too because it makes him look like a woman, it gets me genuinely nauseous. Ugh. It's all very frustrating.
Liam mentioned in some interview back inā¦had to be around 97, that his dad caned his mom. Wish I could find it. A caning doesnāt automatically mean there was a sexual element to his violence, but itās definitely associated with that type of thing more than a plain beating is.
As far as the weird power dynamics go. Ugh. Your comment about making his brother cry is kiiiiiilling me. Iām familiar with it butā¦what a thing to say. In particular āI love making women cry and knowing I was the one what did it.ā Itās like he already said he loves it. Why the need for āknowing I was the one that did it?ā Itās like he wants it out there clear that itās a power thing. Itās not because itās cute. In case we werenāt sure.
Thereās like 5 things he connects in two sentences and itās all bad. 1) He likes making women cry. 2) Crying is woman behavior 3) displaying feminine behavior is humiliating 4) he enjoys seeing his brother humiliated 5) he plays similar mind games with his brother as he plays with women
Has anyone ever put that Noel quote side-by-side with Liamās ātake me when I start to cryā?