also rent lowering gunshots time. if you are blanket banning raceplay across the board as inherently harmful i expect you to acknowledge that raceplay as a "kink" but especially as an applied tone to a scene exists outside of white people, and i expect you to mind your mouth about how annoying "kinksters" are for "allowing raceplay". be specific and direct.
if you find snowbunnying/BBC posting to be deeply objectifying and along the systemic lines of white people exerting control over Black sexuality, especially without those Black individuals' consent, SAY SO. if you want to call attention to the racist history of cuckoldry and its associated terms, do it explicitly with the history intact. if you want to hold discussion about white people letting their racism go unchallenged in the bedroom with partners of color, hold ACTUAL discussion. allow people of color to speak on their experiences and without limiting it to the language of kink. that is Not what's happening when you sweepingly relegate "raceplay" in totality to the realm of Ontologically Evil because it's a loaded topic you aren't interested in white opinions on.
it's Okay that one desires a space to do this away from white eyes! that space is deserved! i understand that a public post is likely not that place! i am also deeply deeply tired of seeing the approach of "you wouldn't get it, this isn't your fight, You're the forever asshole here" be taken as an excuse for whites to never engage with racism conceptually beyond its moral position. white people not only Can understand how racism operates materially, we have a responsibility to do so! and that understanding MUST decenter white presence in even imaginary social situations. if you're serious about ending fucking Racism and working towards this then implying that raceplay always means a vulturing white person is there is antithetical to this end! i want the people of color whose sexualities have been shaped by exclusive access to racialized power dynamics (which is true of all of us by the way. No one is exempt from this.) to have equal space to discuss what about that kink space does and does not work for them on a personal level! they are not responsible for the harm they experience or that You experience at the hands of racist white people in space with you, no matter how much raceplay roleplay they may have been paid to engage with, or done for free! they are not less real experiences of their systemic position just because they're ~created by the system~ or ~traumatized to like it~ or do it to survive, how self-centered are you?! they are still real people and they don't get to pick and choose any more than the rest of us.
you Can engage these desires in ways that consider all participants as full people. you can engage these desires in a room without any ethnic variation in it at all, and people do! and if you're going to use Raceplay as your shorthand of choice to be against legitimate expressions of sexuality that are, admittedly and understandably, not for everyone, you are not doing anything progressive or in service of liberation from white supremacy. until you give those raceplayers space to speak, we are not all safe and free. get real.
