aplatonic DOES NOT mean "doesnt want friends"

aplatonic DOES NOT mean "has no friends"

aplatonic is a term some aromantic ppl may use if they dont want a tomantic relationship, dont wish to replace romance with a friendship, and does not care for being in a qpr

its not an orientation

aplatonic is: little to no platonic attraction which may or may not include a lack of desire for friendship

aplatonic can also mean having difficulty making and/or maintaining platonic relationships which may or may not mean we have less friendships than average

aplatonic is a term ANYONE can use if the above definitions resonate with them, it exists independently from the concept of romance/romantic attraction; conflating aplatonic with not desiring a qpr** comes from when its assumed qprs must include platonic attraction (they do not have to)

for many of us it literally is a part of our orientation, aplatonic was made by neurodivergent aros not just with aros in mind but especially with nd and/or trauma survivors in mind

not making fun of aplatonic includes not joining ableists in the erasure or demonization or infantilization of those who dont experience/desire, and/or have difficulty with platonic relationships; by distancing aplatonic from things you may see as "cringy" or "childlike" when in fact those things are not inherently either, you are associating us that have these qualities with ableist assumptions

And here’s a rebloggable version.

This can be used by anyone I suppose, but is made specifically for people with a queerplatonic/platonic/non-romantic partner. You could use this with friends, too! 

Kissing (forehead, cheek, etc): Kissing (mouth): Hand holding:  Cuddling:  Hugging:  Other affectionate touching: Hugging in public:  Cuddling in public:  Kissing (forehead, cheek, etc) in public:  Kissing (mouth) in public:  Hand holding in public:  Other affectionate touch in public:   Eye gazing: Crying on:  Being cried on:   Massage (giving):  Massage (receiving):  Hair brushing (giving):  Hair brushing (receiving):  Nail painting (giving):  Nail painting (receiving):  Shaving (giving):  Shaving (receiving):  Bathing together (with bathing suits):  Bathing together (naked):  Seeing my partner naked:  My partner seeing me naked: Feeding my partner:  Being fed by my partner:  Tickling (being tickled):  Tickling (doing the tickling): Terms of endearment:  Being called “best friend”:  Being called “partner”:  Being called romantically-coded words (boyfriend, girlfriend, etc): Me having other platonic partners:  My partner having other platonic partners:  Me having other romantic partners:  My partner having other romantic partners: My partner doing romantic-coded things with someone else:  Me doing romantic-coded things with someone else:  My partner doing sexual things with someone else:  Me doing sexual things with someone else:   Touching my partner sexually:  Being touched by my partner sexually: Having sex of any kind with my partner [specify if yes]: Sexual kink with my partner [specify if yes]: Non-sexual kink with my partner [specify if yes]:  “Romantically coded” gifts (flowers, chocolates, etc):  Dancing:  Bed sharing (non-affectionate):  Bed sharing (cuddling): Tucking my partner in:  Being tucked in: Living together:  [Platonic] marriage:  Raising children together: Having pets together: Other stipulations/concerns:

I think that covers everything. If it doesn’t, please let me know and I’ll add it!

they’re called tone indicators, they help with telling the tone of anything you say through text because sometimes its hard to tell!!

/j = joking

/hj = half joking

/s = sarcastic

/srs = serious

/p = platonic

/r = romantic

/l or /ly = lyrics

/t = teasing

/nm = not actually mad or upset

/nc or /neg = negative connotation

/pc or /pos = positive connotation

/lh = lighthearted

/nbh = nobody here (for when you’re vagueing someone in a vent)

/m = metaphorically

/li = literally

/ij = inside joke

/rh or /rt = rhetorical question

/gen = genuine question

/hyp = hyperbole

/c = copypasta

/sx or /x = sexual intent

/nsx or /nx = non-sexual intent

/th = threat

/cb = clickbait

/f = fake

/g = genuine

Signs that you’re living in abuse:

Behavioral patterns of living in abuse

Was I abused? Checklist

Not knowing you are a victim

Signs your family is abusive

Making excuses for your abusive parents

Experience of living in secrecy

What they taught you was abuse

Emotional experiences of living in abuse

Shame and guilt: how abused children feel

What makes parents abusers (actions)

Have I been manipulated into believing abuse was my fault? Checklist

Am I being held hostage by abusers? Checklist

You are not allowed to mention the past

Why you still love abusive parents

Parental behaviour that isn’t normal

Shit parents aren’t supposed to say to you

Experience of “not belonging anywhere”

Red flags for abusive parents

Healthy vs Abusive Chores

Was my childhood abusive or just had some bad parts?

Rules always change (unpredictable environment is abusive)

Breakdown of abusive parent’s behaviour:

“This is my house” rule

Start living in the real life!

Why all the children aren’t abused equally in an abusive home

Common abuser hypocrisies

Do your parents want you to be happy or look happy?

Why do they try to convince you that you’re worthless

Why do they pretend you’re a burden? Controlling behaviour

Why your abusers are not good people

Abusive parents are keeping you in false hope they’ll change

Are your parents preventing you from succeeding?

Abusive parents pretending “it wasn’t that bad”

Double Bind (why every choice you make ends wrong)

Incorporating trauma in raising children

Abusers will not allow you to call them out on abuse

Signs your parents are narcissistic:

Stuff delusional narcissists say

Shit narcissistis parents say

Tactics of narcissistic abuse

Recognizing emotional immaturity of narcissistic parents

Examples of narcissistic behaviours

Being punished for growing up by narcissistic parents

What children of narcissists go thru

Signs you’ve been thru sexual abuse:

CSA (Childhood Sexual Abuse) Symptoms

Signs you might have endured CSA

Was I sexually abused by adults as a child? Checklist

Signs of abusive friendship/relationship:

How to tell if a friend is not a friend

Am I in an abusive relationship/friendship? Checklist

Manufacturing insecurities

Red flags for abusers

Have I been thru social abuse? Checklist

You can recognize abusers by how they make you feel

How abusive childhood teaches you to stay in abusive relationships

Recognizing abusive friendship

Signs you’re struggling with trauma

Trauma processing information

Experiences of traumatized children

Signs you’re recovering from long term abuse

Things abuse survivors think/say

Thoughts of victims of child abuse

Your brain on trauma

How long term childhood abuse develops into complex trauma (comic)

Zucchini: colloquial term used to refer to a person's partner in a queerplatonic relationship.

Mallowfriend: alternative to qpp and zucchini. it's short for marshmallowfriend.

Aromate: aromantic equivalent to datemate.

Quasifriend: quasi- is sometimes used to replace the queer- in queerplatonic. the meaning of quasi- is "seemingly; apparently but not really" or "being partly or almost".

Squishfriend: a squish is the platonic equivalent to a crush.

Plushfriend: a plush is the queerplatonic equivalent to a crush.

Squashfriend: a squash is the less commonly used term for a queerplatonic crush.

QPF / QPfriend: replaces 'partner' with 'friend'.

Partner: a familiar choice that can be used for any type of partnership.

Companion: often used by those who are specifically in a companionate relationship.

PF: a specific term for those who are in a passionate friendship. also known as passfriend, pashfriend, or passionate friend.

Some alloromantic: I wish I was aromantic :(

I like to view asexuality and aromanticism as twins.

People often mistake one for the other. People think they’re the same. Though they may look similar both of them is a unique individual.