Eldest Daughter Support Line

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its not like i dislike the canon design! i just... can't help myself ;;;

And I feel like an alien every time I encounter this sort of thing, because it's so antithetical to any kind of logic or self-consistent ethical framework I can wrap my brain around. It's taking the genuine virtues of mercy and valuing human life and blowing them out of proportion into grotesque parodies of themselves. The victim here is not the one responsible for the ultimate outcome.

Does that mean that we should approach everything with infinite escalation forever? Hell no! But that doesn't change that almost all 'disproportionate' escalation the victim performs is dwarfed by the act of trying to harm an innocent victim in the first place! If I take the 'total violence' of a situation from a 1 to a 3, I've tripled it, but if I take a previously non-violent situation and amp it up from 0.00000000001 to 1, I've scaled it by an insane degree that makes that factor of three look minuscule despite technically being a lesser net increase.

Pray for those men who are in addiction, in poverty, in hospice, who go through bullying and isolation and domestic abuse, who have been raped and are sexually abused, who are self-harming and contemplating suicide. Who are struggling in their homes, marriages, families; with their health, and their safety. Please pray for all the young men who have lost their lives due to PTSD and insufficient support and trauma and accidents. Please pray for the surviving families, and their male members, whose sons, fathers, and brothers were targeted and taken away from them too soon because of crime and violence and injustice.

« … you got this person and they’ve been through trauma, horrors, the end of their world, even. Maybe they break, maybe they don’t. But for years, it’s bleak. And one day, they wake up and they know: peace is possible again. Joy, even. That’s resilience. »

You also have to look at your potential spouse's behavior towards other people - not just people he likes or wants to impress, but people who annoy him, people who he has obligations to take care of, people he disagrees with, people who are cashiers and waitresses and homeless people. Look for how he treats others when he is sick or tired or frustrated. (If he is never sick or tired or frustrated, than he is either hiding it (bad) or you haven't known him long enough.)

Sorry, his commands are in French.