Bear, Prince, and Little Bit

If you can find yourself loving more than one person romantically at the same time, congrats! You’re poly!

And polyamory has nothing at all to do with sex. Sex just occasionally ties into romance. So being Ace is ACE-OK.

I don’t really tumblr that much, but I will emphasize right now that many poly communities are exceedingly toxic, and push the idea that if you’re not doing it their way you’re doing it wrong. Poly is whatever you want it to be, but is ultimately trust and communication. If your partner is not comfortable with you having partners outside of them, without their involvement, then you DON’T do that. If you can’t communicate in a healthy manner with one partner, how can you with many?That’s my two cents. - Bear

Honestly, poly is a lot more and less complicated than you think. If you think you might be, you more than likely are. But it does take a lot of work. So if you are currently in a relationship that you would like to expand on in some way, please make sure that both you and your partner understand all of the implications of polyamory before pursuing anything further. Communication, just like with any monogamous relationship, is the most important aspect, especially when there are more than just two peoples’ feelings to consider in any decision. Also, polyamory is about emotion and relationships, not sex, so being ace and poly is not only perfectly acceptable, but is also a lot more common than you would think. Additionally, some really good poly blogs I have found are @polyadvice @polyamoryus @polythought ! I hope this helps you! - Kayla

I’ve been in the poly scene for about 5 years now and I want to make something absolutely clear to any old timers and up and comers.

There is NO WAY* to do poly wrong.

Some poly centric communities would have people believe there is only one way to do poly.

These communities are toxic cess pools who exist exclusively for sexual gratification.

That is not what poly is.

If you are uncertain about what poly is, allow me to direct you to the following:

Can you form a romantic bond with more than one individual? Then you are poly

That’s it. That’s the whole thing. Anything beyond that is personal preference and open communication.