#polyamorous triad

The princess and the knight have a cute little Mistress/pet thing going on, the knight is a service sub.

The knight and the dragon have a more “battle for dominance but one of them enjoys losing too much for it to be an actual battle”. The dragon is a brat.

Then the dragon and the princess are very raw and carnal. The princess is into cnc and free use.

Finances have been manifesting after some recent spellwork, so my man and I are making our first big investment as a stoner couple... tools for dabs.

Dabs have this big part in my life. The first time I had one was with a stoner friend. Since then, she passed away around 4/20, and I always take dabs in honor of her.

So to be able to remember her every day is going to be part of my spellwork with cannabis. (If anyone's interested, let me know if I should write a post about cannabis in paganism/occultism.)

Besides that, there's work and then there's getting ready for the weekend to meet up with our boyfriend.

So I’m bisexual, Poly sexual & also incredibly sexy which makes me what some would call a ‘unicorn’ and just like all rare beautiful creatures- humans have a tendency to hunt them to extinction. So this poem is about my most recent experience with that.

Love is love is love,

and we shared it aloft.

Is three such a crowd,

in a bed that's so soft?

But the poly I am is different then the poly you expected me to be.

For me, it’s about compassion and connectivity.

For you- it seemed to revolve around your own misery.

So many good memories of us 3

Yet was it all lies? I think it may be

A hunters mask hiding lust

Not really love when it’s bound by false trust.

I tried to make boundaries

To protect what I need

Yet you enforced rules

With no chance to concede

But My unicorn magic belongs only to me.

Polyamory was not the problem

But it did highlight the ones you had

The codependency, insecurities & inability to communicate or truly compromise.

& Despite what I tried , all you gave me were lies.

False promises, written on the back of my saddle.

I couldn’t even speak without apologizing for how I felt.

Drowning , in my own loneliness

Because it was only ever you 2- never truly us

& I carry alot of resentment even to this day

Because y’all manipulated me into believing every word you would say

And maybe I should’ve paid more attention

To the cues she wasn’t happy

But god forbid I be selfish for one fucking second

How dare I ask for a little bit of equity?

I knew you were new to this

But fuck - it’s like you didn’t even try

All the articles I sent you, the things we discussed

It feels like you crumpled them up and burned them- along with our trust.

Darling, I know I am making you out like a villain.

But I did not consent to be anyones secondary.

We were in agreement this was no hierarchy

Yet you couldn’t handle the love he had for me

So you left.

Packed your bags overnight, left us to continue the fight - Alone.

Imagine how he felt? Because you surely don’t care how it affected me.

You had your family and your therapy, and we were stuck-

Left to pick up the pieces of your mess -

And to think your excuse was your own sadness?

Like I don’t have mental issues too?

But I wouldn’t use them as an excuse to be a bitch to you.

This isn’t feminism it’s just basic fucking etiquette.

I wish I knew there was an option to just up and quit.

But the unicorn never gets the power or privilege to choose.

I just have to deal with it, and live with the bruise.

Darling, if you loved another

that would be fine

as long as you loved me still

But you don’t- and those words were strong enough to kill.

There was a second

where I thought we’d be okay-

That him & i would live to see another day

But I respect that your his wife & I would never want to come between you 2- even after all this strife.

So I’m Back to square one,

alone all along

If only I had paid attention to those red flags I knew were wrong.

but I’d never give up my magical life

just to spend my precious energy on some insecure couple that doesn’t respect my autonomy.

I am far more powerful then you realize

I am more then just a spice in your sex cabinet, a fetishization of your imagination.

I have spells to cast and faeries to dance with.

I made a longer post about this here that includes two charts to visually represent the potential relationship dynamics in Witch of the Greenwood, but here are some polyamorous and queerplatonic highlights:

Four (4) person polycule. The three people who are not you are dating and will date regardless of your existence. They are, however, open to adding a fourth into their dynamic.

Three (3) person queerplatonic / partially romantic triad. The two people who are not you will end up in a qpr regardless of your existence. One of them would be very happy to romantically smooch you on the mouth or not romantically smooch you on the mouth, and the other would like to do neither but would be delighted if you joined their qpp.

One open relationship - he’s very open (hehe) to the idea of you dating other people as long as you afford him the same courtesy. No overlapping secondary partners with him though; he likes to keep his relationships separate!

A linear polycule where a literal ray of sunshine would love to be romantic with you - as long as you can respect his partner’s boundaries, which includes you Not Pursuing Them