I was nodding along up to the last point, where I am going to quibble a LIL BIT on the phrases "They will almost all find that difficult to impossible" and "They ALL will need [xyz]". The thesis statement of my quibble is: Subs are not a monolith. Kink is not a monolith.
What I mean by that is: Not every scene is going to be overwhelming to the point of incapacitation (nor does it need to be!). Some subs in some scenes might feel uplifted and energized at the end. Some scenes might be more emotionally overwhelming for the dom than it is for the sub. Sometimes, even with a kink that you're experienced with, either party might be more affected by it afterwards than they expected/anticipated/noticed happening during the scene.
Even "needing comfort" at the end is going to look different for everyone. For example: I know someone who doesn't like to be snuggled after an intense scene. At that point, she's hit her sensory limit for touch already, and further contact doesn't help her come back down to earth. She says it makes her feel claustrophobic and jittery. For her, "comfort" means her partner sitting or laying nearby and keeping her company, talking or joking or putting on some soft music. If her dom made assumptions about what she needed in terms of "comfort", they would be actively unhelpful.
So I'd tweak that last point of the previous post to:
Aftercare should not be an afterthought -- always talk about it in advance of the scene, and be specific! Don't try to navigate it in the moment, because either one (or both!) of you might not be at their best, communication-wise. Both parties should know aftercare information about each other, and this should includes things like "If you've done this in the past, how did it feel afterwards, and what did you need? If this turns out more intense for you than we anticipate, what other additional things should I do for you? If we're both overwhelmed and we're struggling to implement [preferred optimal aftercare option], what are some easy backup steps of support to help us bridge the gap?"
Also, UNRELATED, but another tip for baby doms -- I have seen some supposedly-experienced kinksters scoff dismissively at the idea of a scene being more intense than anticipated by saying things like, "Well, it's irresponsible to practice kink like that, you shouldn't be doing that." Don't listen to that shit, that's a completely unrealistic take. That's like saying, "It's irresponsible to go on a road trip if you don't know whether you'll get into a car accident." The whole point is that you can't always predict these things -- that's why you wear a seatbelt and keep your phone charged, just in case. Even if you have been through driving lessons and passed your driver's test with flying colors and you've read loads of books about driving and you've been driving for years, it's still a possibility that you could get a fender-bender, a flat tire, or a dead battery in the middle of nowhere.
It is the same with kink. You can be so informed, and so practiced, and so familiar with your particular Thing, and so prepared, and something can still throw you off. Maybe every other time you've tied up your partner and tickled them with feathers, it's been completely fine and fun and lighthearted -- but two weeks ago, your cat died, and out of nowhere the feather reminds you of her favorite toy, and suddenly you're devastated and you have to stop the scene right there and cry. It can happen. It can happen with any scene, it can happen with any kink, it can happen to even the most experienced kinksters, it can happen to doms just as easily as it can happen to subs.
It is better and more responsible to soberly acknowledge the possibility in advance so you can plan for it, rather than turning up your nose and bragging about how bad things never happen to you. It's better to say, "We don't WANT to get a flat tire on the road trip, and we're obviously going to drive carefully and avoid the potholes and other hazards that we can see. But if we do run over a nail or something, here's where the car jack is, here's where the spare tire is, here's our AAA membership number, here's the button for the hazard lights, and our phones are charged so we can google the nearest mechanic or dealership to get it replaced." than it is to haughtily toss our hair and say, "Well *I* would NEVER get in a car if I felt like I was going to get a flat tire."
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