i'd like to go back to sleep now

I see you. You are valid in all aspects of your identity. You are aspec enough, and your disability does not make you less deserving of having the kinds of sex you want to have. The world is ableist, but not all individual people are. The world is aphobic and puritannical, but not all individual people are.

In case nobody has told you recently, wanting to have sex as an asexual is not a bad thing. Wanting to have sex as a disabled person/person with a disability is not a bad thing. Sex with aids, supports, and detailed plans and contingencies is not a bad thing.

You are good and whole and valuable and desirable and valid exactly the way you are in your entirety, and I hope nobody ever dares make you think otherwise.

Korra and Marinette Dupain Cheng are both often hated by many members of their respective fandoms.

Korra is impulsive, aggressive and poorly socialised (through no fault of her own)- at least at the start- and these traits are often lauded and coddled in many white male characters, but many fans hate them in her, a young nonwhite woman.

Marinette is neurotic and anxious (and almost certainly neurodivergent in general) and plans ahead for Literally Everything, traits that are notably lauded in male characters such as Batman, and yet are hated in her, a young nonwhite girl .

Both Korra and Marinette were thrust into a massive power and responsibility that neither technically even asked for. Even so, both demonstrate quite exemplary competence with their power, but many nitpick them nonetheless ("But Aang wouldn't do that!" "Aang would never have lost his connection to the previous Avatars!" (without considering that Korra is living in a different time and society to Aang, and faced not one but MULTIPLE high-level villains, AND SHE IS NOT AANG! The point of LoK is that she is NOT AANG and shouldn't be!) ; "Marinette made the Worst Possible Decisions and should be dragged through the mud and never forgiven for it!" (she is 14, overwhelmed, and traumatised. If you can see through Chloe Bourgeois' behaviour and correctly identify her as an abuse victim, you can give Marinette the same grace).

Both Korra and Marinette were groomed and manipulated by much older men whom they trusted/ had faith in, and were forced to make difficult decisions in impossible circumstances, and yet many in their fandoms thinks that they would Totally Make the Correct Decisions in such circumstances. Here we see an interplay of subconscious or even overt misogyny and racism where a male or even white female counterpart would likely be forgiven or even praised for the exact same personality traits and/or decision making, yet Korra and Marinette are often held to a needlessly higher standard in comparison.

Korra and Marinette Dupain Cheng are both often hated by many members of their respective fandoms.

Korra is impulsive, aggressive and poorly socialised (through no fault of her own)- at least at the start- and these traits are often lauded and coddled in many white male characters, but many fans hate them in her, a young nonwhite woman.

Marinette is neurotic and anxious (and almost certainly neurodivergent in general) and plans ahead for Literally Everything, traits that are notably lauded in male characters such as Batman, and yet are hated in her, a young nonwhite girl .

Both Korra and Marinette were thrust into a massive power and responsibility that neither technically even asked for. Even so, both demonstrate quite exemplary competence with their power, but many nitpick them nonetheless ("But Aang wouldn't do that!" "Aang would never have lost his connection to the previous Avatars!" (without considering that Korra is living in a different time and society to Aang, and faced not one but MULTIPLE high-level villains, AND SHE IS NOT AANG! The point of LoK is that she is NOT AANG and shouldn't be!) ; "Marinette made the Worst Possible Decisions and should be dragged through the mud and never forgiven for it!" (she is 14, overwhelmed, and traumatised. If you can see through Chloe Bourgeois' behaviour and correctly identify her as an abuse victim, you can give Marinette the same grace).

Both Korra and Marinette were groomed and manipulated by much older men whom they trusted/ had faith in, and were forced to make difficult decisions in impossible circumstances, and yet many in their fandoms thinks that they would Totally Make the Correct Decisions in such circumstances. Here we see an interplay of subconscious or even overt misogyny and racism where a male or even white female counterpart would likely be forgiven or even praised for the exact same personality traits and/or decision making, yet Korra and Marinette are often held to a needlessly higher standard in comparison.

Korra and Marinette Dupain Cheng are both often hated by many members of their respective fandoms.

Korra is impulsive, aggressive and poorly socialised (through no fault of her own)- at least at the start- and these traits are often lauded and coddled in many white male characters, but many fans hate them in her, a young nonwhite woman.

Marinette is neurotic and anxious (and almost certainly neurodivergent in general) and plans ahead for Literally Everything, traits that are notably lauded in male characters such as Batman, and yet are hated in her, a young nonwhite girl .

Both Korra and Marinette were thrust into a massive power and responsibility that neither technically even asked for. Even so, both demonstrate quite exemplary competence with their power, but many nitpick them nonetheless ("But Aang wouldn't do that!" "Aang would never have lost his connection to the previous Avatars!" (without considering that Korra is living in a different time and society to Aang, and faced not one but MULTIPLE high-level villains, AND SHE IS NOT AANG! The point of LoK is that she is NOT AANG and shouldn't be!) ; "Marinette made the Worst Possible Decisions and should be dragged through the mud and never forgiven for it!" (she is 14, overwhelmed, and traumatised. If you can see through Chloe Bourgeois' behaviour and correctly identify her as an abuse victim, you can give Marinette the same grace).

Both Korra and Marinette were groomed and manipulated by much older men whom they trusted/ had faith in, and were forced to make difficult decisions in impossible circumstances, and yet many in their fandoms thinks that they would Totally Make the Correct Decisions in such circumstances. Here we see an interplay of subconscious or even overt misogyny and racism where a male or even white female counterpart would likely be forgiven or even praised for the exact same personality traits and/or decision making, yet Korra and Marinette are often held to a needlessly higher standard in comparison.