Anon

but, the thing is? i'm mature. so i moved on. feelings are normal. jealousy is normal. that feeling of "this isn't fair" is normal. but you have to learn to deal with it. you have to acknowledge that the feeling is real and valid, but it's also not one you can allow to stay.

because it's not fair to them. those are real people, endogenic and willogenic systems. those are people with emotions and feelings. you have no idea what their life is like. you cannot allow your upset to hurt them.

Fiction is not reality.

You can enjoy things in fiction that would be awful in the real world. Like playing a murderhobo in a game! In the real world, being or supporting a murderer-thief would be pretty damn awful, while in the game it's just good fun. Same with anything else you choose to do with the pixels on the screen, like kinks that don't affect anyone real, so they're okay in fiction, but would be pretty damn bad in real life.

No one else is responsible for your online experience. They are required not to harass you, but they are not and never will be obligated to not post about ships, kinks, or tropes you dislike just to avoid you seeing them. It's up to you to blacklist words or phrases, block tags, or even block users as needed to avoid seeing content that upsets you.

No one can force you to read anything against your consent. Any content you don't like seeing can be instantly avoided by closing out of the offending post/fic.

You are not owed an online experience free of discomfort.

Nothing that happens in your imagination can ever make you a bad person. Words you write or read about fictional characters will never make you a bad person.

The claim that media consumption influences real-life behavior is intellectually dishonest and serves only to excuse the behavior of real offenders.

Fiction is a safe way to explore horrifying or confusing concepts. Therapists agree that fiction, even (or especially) about taboo topics is a good coping mechanism, especially, but not exclusively, for trauma survivors. Fiction is to adults what play therapy is to children. This doesn't stop being true if the work in question is of a sexual nature.

Sex isn't an inherently worse or better motivation than anything else. A work written to create feelings of arousal isn't dirty, shameful, or in any way less pure than works written to entertain, provoke moral questions, or for other reasons. And worth noting is that multiple purposes can exist in the same story, especially fanfiction.

I believe in a plural future. And more than that, I believe in an alterhuman future.

One part of this future that people tend to avoid talking about is sexual liberation.

Radnormals officially claim to be pro-alterhuman. More generally, so do many antishippers. But that's not true. Not really.

There are a few reasons why they fail at being pro-alterhuman. The one I've talked about before for radnormals is the system medicalism. You can't be pro-alterhuman while being against endogenic and spiritual systems.

One that I haven't talked about though is the hardcore antiship ideology. Specifically, as it pertains to depictions of non-human "animals."

In the real world, it's understood that bestiality is wrong because of mental differences. Because animals can't consent. Because of a clear power imbalance.

It is not because of the animal form. It's not because the animal looks different from a human. That would be a pretty ridiculous thing for a person to base their morality on.

The best way to view this is that morally speaking, the problem of bestiality is not with a human being with a non-human animal, but a person being with a non-person animal.

In fictional contexts, some non-human animals are people.

And yet, this hardline anti-ship position is that any sexual depictions of the animal form, even if the animal is canonically just as intelligent as a human being, and the animal therefore would be capable of having a healthy consensual relationship with a person, is morally wrong and inherently problematic.

The moment you've decided it is morally wrong to depict non-human people in a sexual way, you are also oppressing alterhumans.

You are signaling to them that they won't be safe depicting themselves in a sexual way either. They cannot draw what they look like in a sexualized way. They cannot make accurate avatars of their mind forms in VR that are sexualized. They cannot write self-shipping fiction that depicts themselves with their internal appearance. And in the case of plural systems, inner world sex involving non-human headmates becomes a strict taboo, because what headmate in that environment is going to feel safe admitting that they've had sex with someone in the inner world who bears an animal form?

There may be different levels to this too. Maybe some groups would be okay with anthro alterhumans but not feral ones. Essentially, the alterhuman community gets divided up between "normal" alterhumans who are allowed to sexualize themselves and have sex in the inner world, and "abnormal" alterhumans who these communities would deem it acceptable to sexually oppress.

In those communities, alterhumans with feral identities would become second class alterhumans, treated as less than those with more humanoid inner appearances.

Sexual liberation for alterhumans means being able to create a world where people are allowed to find all nonhuman mindforms sexually attractive. Anything less than that would be settling for oppression. It would be settling for a world where alterhumans forever have to repress themselves sexually for the sake of not making non-alterhumans uncomfortable.

Any world where any alterhumans are oppressed for being alterhuman is something that we as a community cannot accept or abide.

On MULTIPLE occasions I have seen girls having genuine mental breakdowns because they’ve identified as a lesbian for basically their whole life but one day they found a man attractive and, therefore, believed they wouldn’t be accepted as a lesbian. They were scared the community they were apart of for so long was going to turn its back on them and they weren’t allowed to live the lifestyle (yes, being a lesbian is considered a lifestyle by many) they were so comfortable with.

There were a couple people in the comments who were apart of the lesbian community as well and assured them that the community would not turn its back on them and they supported them and they could still identify with lesbianism if they wanted to. Sadly, these comments were met a lot of backlash saying something along the lines of;

“She’s attracted to men. At the most she’d be bisexual” (this is also biphobic; implying one for of queer is “more queer” than another.)

Or say, “lesbians aren’t attracted to men- hope this helps!”

These people are giving off the same vibes as people who support the ‘Gold Star Lesbian’ term- that queer girls and fems- hell even nonbinary people who don’t even identify femininely- who have been attracted to men or have had sex with men are ‘less good’ or ‘less pure’ than individuals who haven’t.

“Yeah these conflicting emotions, opinions, likes etc are all equally real but the idea that these come from separate entities is the delusion.” Fair point, hypothetical person In arguing with and if we were talking about believing these internal experiences came from seperate bodies entities I’d agree with you. But we’re not, tulpamamcers are aware that both they and their tulpa exist in one brain. We can objectively determine that thoughts and emotions are produced by the brain. The idea that the brain is inherently one entity is not an objective fact though. It’s made of several neurons and regions that are all sending electrical signals to each other in ridiculously complicated patterns. A singlet is one entity because they experience themselves that way. Tulpas and tulpamamcers experience themselves as more than one entity and that’s no less real than another set of 80 billions neurons experiencing itself as one.

How has cynicism about someone's experiences become but a boundary?

How has presuming someone's mere existence can be ableist become the norm?

"bomb that kills all-" "I just don't get bi women bringing their-" "pansexuality isn't a real thing-" "all lesbians-" "trans men really are the men of the-" "theyfabs-" "pfft aroace people are cringe-" "nonbinary people are actually all-" Instant block. Goodbye. Not listening. It's for both solidarity with your fellow queers AND to protect yourself, because once a person is convinced to hate one group for their immutable traits they can be convinced fairly easily to hate another too, and thus I do not trust them.