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You aren’t going to get in my way today?

Sexual attraction

Top: allosexual - often experiences sexual attraction (a feeling of wanting to have sex with a specific person)

Middle: grey-asexual - rarely experiences sexual attraction

Bottom: asexual - never experiences sexual attraction

Notes for sexual attraction:

There are other types of attraction and corresponding spectra. See: romantic, platonic, aesthetic, sensual

Asexuality can shift over time. See: aceflux

Libido

Top: high libido - often or strongly experiences libido/sex drive (a feeling of wanting sex, but not directed at a specific person)

Bottom: low libido - rarely experiences libido

Notes for libido:

Libido can change greatly due to mental health, life circumstances, and various other factors

Sex favourability

Top: sex favourable - sex is appealing and enjoyable for them

Middle: sex indifferent - does not particularly like or dislike sex

Between middle and bottom: sex averse - dislikes sex and finds it not appealing

Bottom: sex repulsed - finds sex repulsive or disgusting

Notes for sex favourability:

There are other spectra of favourability. See: romance favourability, touch favourability

Sex favourability can depend on context. See: aegosexual

Sex favourability can shift over time. See: sex fluid

Sex positivity

Top: sex positive - believing that "sex is good and people can do what they want"

Middle: sex neutral - no particular stance on sex

Bottom: sex negative - believing that "sex is bad and sex should be restricted"

Notes for sex positivity:

The other spectra are about things the brain/body does. Sex positivity is about ideology

Any combination is possible. Now you know these things exist. If you want to learn more about something, look it up.

"Well, tell me about them!"

"Oh! Okay! This one is the inclusion flag- its for everyone, including allies."

"What's this one?"

"That's the bisexual flag: it represents people who are attracted to two or more genders."

"Hmm... what about this one?"

"That's the nonbinary flag: it represents people whose gender isn't strictly 'male or female.'"

"Hmm... what's this purple one?"

"That's the asexual flag: it represents people who may not feel sexual attraction the way that others do."

She put her hand to her chest and got this really curious look on her face. "Tell me more about that!"

"Oh, happy to! So like if you're out with your bestie and someone real fine walks by and she's like 'omg look at him' and you're like 'girl get a grip?' Or like you just don't get what the 'big deal' is about sex or why everyone is so weird about it? But there's also room for like- you don't fall in love with the way someone looks, you're attracted to the person- their sense of humor and their kindness, or there's something about their personality that just makes it click for you? That's asexuality, too!"

And she got real quiet and seemed to think about it for a minute. So I grabbed our little informational sheet about different queer identities and handed her a copy. "If you want to do some research, this is probably a great place to start."

She thanked me and took an ace flag, stuck it in her hair.

Sometimes when you're online all the time, its easy to think that 'everyone knows about (topic), there's no reason to keep talking about it so much.' But while the people on the internet are real people, the internet ISN'T real life. And there are lots of people who do need to know that they do have community!