Fuck my blog, ammirite?

There is something sooo deeply American going on with Seattle Children’s Hospital that I think would brick the minds of everyone outside of the United States.

The CHILDRENS hospital has to restrict helipad landings because of noise complaints from the wealthy home owners living next to it. Only the most urgent patients can land directly at the hospital. While the other kids have to land a mile away and are taken to the hospital via ambulance. Which is an unnecessary risk to the child’s life and also makes the families pay for the helicopter AND ambulance.

“does the left hand of darkness pass the bechdel test” the greatest thread in the history of forums, locked by a moderator after 12,239 pages of heated debate,

"i don't know.. that's scary.." has become such a core part of my vocabulary that I forget people will not immediately understand that I'm making a reference when i say that

lesson 2: yes, even the ones you don't want to fuck

lesson 3: also you have to respect the ones you do want to fuck. even if you don't get to fuck them at the end.

lesson 4: sometimes (not always but often enough) respecting women means shutting the fuck up. whether you like this or not is immaterial. you will likely find that this is something of a cheat code for respecting women because so few people do it. this is because we live in hell.

lesson 5: the fact that you say you respect women does not automatically mean that you do. there is no incantation that makes the cultural effects of misogyny disappear.

lesson 6: your position relative to misogyny is a political concept and not a moral one. whether you are a "good person" is irrelevant. if you do not actively seek to understand and account for your position of relative privilege then you will exploit it without even noticing. this is harmful to women.

lesson 7: whatever objections you currently have to the previous 6 lessons are definitely not new and there are entire academic libraries going over them. this is part of lesson 4.

lesson 8: in some ways privilege, be it gendered or racialised or otherwise, is like walking through life with a hammer duct-taped to your hand. you didn't ask for the hammer, there are few (if any) personal consequences for using it and when you're pissed off, it can be really really tempting to swing it. you must never do this, even if you have one million ways to justify it to yourself. even if you hate a particular woman, you must resist the urge to weaponise misogyny against her. there are no exceptions to this.

Lesson 9: respecting women includes trans and intersex women

noteworthy that they literally had a mask on me hooked up to a tank pumping narcotics into my lungs through all this, and my body temperature was like 34°. I would have been doing well to just have both eyes pointed in the same direction

"This is great. I'm going to get a good grade in post-accident cognition."

harrow is aware she is only attracted to women but is also a nun married to The Virgin Mary so she regards the idea of being in a relationship with a real human woman with almost as much fear and trepidation as she does the idea of being in a relationship with a real human man. gideon is firmly under the impression that no one has ever been attracted to men ever, not even once, not even to the nice ones, not even by accident. nona is fairly unfazed by the idea of men being sexually interested in her but personally she's mostly into women and/or flowers. ianthe is definitely into women but she might be willing to have a go with a guy as long as a) it was politically advantageous to her and b) he didn't enjoy it that much. camilla is ace in that "has replaced her desire for sexual intimacy with something Worse" kind of way. corona is bi but that on its own would simply be too easy for her so additionally she's unrequitedsexual. palamedes likes women so much that it loops back around into most people initially thinking he's gay. not all of the lyctoral squad were bi to start with but they sure were by the myriadic year of our lord. ortus is a unicorn.

What you just said about Palamedes is what happened my whole life until I transitioned

nods. paul.

people act like CNC is some evil irredeemable kink as if it's not literally just you and your partner(s) deciding that today opposite day.

"But if we let people play the floor is lava around the house, it normalizes being careless around real lava!" that's y'all. that's how you sound.

they won't tell you this in therapy but sometimes the best way to stop catastrophizing/anxiety is to interrupt your spiraling with "girl what the hell are you talking about"

honestly I hate “can you pet the dog?!?” not for any of the common reasons but because it was initially interesting as a proposition of “can you interact with the world in a way that is not within the primary mechanical loop” and that very quickly fell away to being “well now any indie developer making a game has to have a pet the dog button or they’re going to get letters”

One of my dream projects has an NPC with a dog, and if you try to pet it, the owner tells you not to do that. If you try again, it bites you and you take damage. I want to do this entirely because I genuinely believe that this would make me feel way more grounded in the world than any “click button to see cute animation” would ever do, and also it would be really funny to have a game where people lose their runs because they tried to pet a dog they were told not to pet