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@aggressivelyaromantic
listen to me. if youre aro you have to be louder about it. i dont care how loud about it you are already you have to be louder. if we have to be surrounded knee deep by amatonormativity all the time every day its good for the soul to be loud and annoying about your aromanticism
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more people could identify as asexual/aromantic if they not only knew what that label is but also knew about how wide the spectrum could be. because not every ace/aro person feels the same way and even people who DO have a general idea on what it means, could still be like "yeah no i cant be possibly ace/aro because i feel/do this and that"
I swear to god, the number of cool conceptual songs that always go back to this...
You can make a post on here that's like "hey I wish we could talk about real life aromantics and asexuals who aren't repulsed and have a more complicated relationship with romance/sex as a result of their orientation, and not just talk about people shipping fictional characters" and then someone will show up and say "you're so right! We need to talk about how people like that are not a loophole to be used to ship fictional characters! I'm so sick of people shipping my favorite aroace character!" Shut uuuuuuup not every post mentioning the fact that it is a spectrum about fictional characters
When you are aromantic, especially when you are aroallo, you tend to walk a fine line when it comes to headcanoning characters in media as aromantic.
Like yes, one hand I agree that calling two girls who are close with one another, sharing a bed and even have sex with one another as "just the bestest friends" is lesbian and bi erasure.
And on the other hand, my bisexual aroallo ass does wish for that kind of dynamic in a fwb way in fiction. Like no romance, they're fuck buddies or a qpr and committed in their own way to one another. They're still friends and not "just" friends. Just aro lesbians and/or aro bisexual girls doing all of that together.
And yet the danger of the "just friends" devaluement and double erasure zone is right there. Additionally I'm also being at risk of being seen as the one doing a part of the erasure there, all just because "friends" and "just friends" are stupidly close together in the minds of most people.
Want I want to say is: I want to see way more fwb saphic relationships in media that are also great amazing friendships and not "just" friendships.
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i ship them but in an infinitely more nuanced and aromantic way than you ever will
many people would be happier and feel less broken if we de-centered romantic relationships but idk if queer people are ready for this discussion. simply because if you are traumatized and soft conversion therapyโd out of expressing romantic desire, the idea that romance is not important is traumatic. and then thereโs the pervasive family of origin trauma. if your partner fulfills the ache of unconditional love that you never felt growing up, you understandably will want to prioritize that relationship. plus thereโs the pervasive sexual shame.
which means that people who are aro and ace kind of have to navigate a soup of other peopleโs trauma that we trigger by existing, and definitely trigger by taking up space and CERTAINLY trigger by offering observations like this one.
the first thing you have to remember is that being aromantic is fucking awesome and opens your world to so many new experiences without the fear of romance the second thing you have to remember is that alloro society will do everything in its power not to let you enjoy it
in 2026 be nicer to aroallos
similar to many other subtypes of aphobia, aroallophobia is derived from the socially dominant purity culture of amatonormativity and sex negativity, dictating that sex can only be justified in monogamous, marital, romantic relationships, but that having those relationships is mandatory. this is worth mentioning to emphasize that aroallos' fellow queer siblings did not invent aroallophobia, but most likely grew up in a culture that instilled it; i.e., some queer people have done the work to unlearn said amatonormativity, sex negativity, and aroallophobia, but others have not, so they continue to perpetuate it. in 2026, take it upon yourself to listen to aroallo people's experiences (here's a good starting post) (and this one too, but with a TW for rape mention). unlearn aroallophobia just like anyone growing up in homophobic society would need to unlearn homophobia.
EVERYONE GET MORE AROMANTIC!!!! EVERYONE GET MORE AROMANTIC NOW!!! GET ALL THE CHARACTERS MORE AROMANTIC TOO!!! EVERYONE GET MORE AROMANTIC!!!!!
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would say โwhereโs the pride flag for aromantics who are sick and fucking tired of it allโ but i think thatโs just the regular aro flag
Thinking about it, and Iโd like to forward the idea that prejudice against single people (aromantics, asexuals, and also justโฆ anyone who does not have a romantic partner) follows dynamics less like anti-queer bigotry and more akin to anti-fat bigotry.
Fatness, like singlehood, is seen at large as a state of failure. Everybody is supposed to want to be [thin / partnered], and if you are not, that is a personal failure on your part, and you are pathetic and mock-worthy. The popular idea is that of course everybody wants to be [thin / partnered], and everybody is striving towards the goal, and anybody who is not [thin / partnered] is either temporarily inconvenienced on their way to correctness, or has something fundamentally wrong with them. And because [fatness / singlehood] is something that is treated as fixable, if you have not fixed it, then there is something wrong with youโand thus discriminating against you is acceptable, because your [fatness / singlehood] is based on your own bad choices.
The world is, in some cases quite literally, not built for fat or single people. If you are fat or single, the world is much more difficult or expensive to live in, because it is structurally designed for the assumption that you are thin or that you have a partner. The normative Person, after all, is thin and romantically partnered. If you are not thin or not romantically partnered, there is something fundamentally less human about you.
[Fatness / singlehood] is something embarrassing, something worth mocking others over, something that reflects your fundamental unworthiness. Every fictional hero is thin, every fictional happy ending ends with romance. Everyone in your life is either quietly or not-so-quietly worried about you.
And all this is fine and acceptable. Because in the general perception, [fatness / singlehood] is not a real axis of bigotry. Itโs a choice! You could just become a different person and stop being [fat / single]! You deserve the mockery, the derision, the attempts to fix you, the world not accommodating you, because you could just become a better person and stop being [fat / single] at any point. So itโs your own fault people treat you badly, really.
A comic about my aegoromantic experience I did for #aroweek in last February and forgot to post here!
Note: You don't need to find a specific label to validate your queer identity. You can have as broad or specific definition as what you're comfortable with, and you don't have to have an analysis of your identity to give to anyone else. It's no one's business but yours, at the end of the day.
For me personally finding a label that fits me perfectly was a relief. Like I've been holding this puzzle piece in my hand for a hot minute and then I finally find the place for it. Like if I found my hole.
I don't need this label to to explain myself to others. It helps me to contextualize my experience and to find my place in the ace/aro spectrum and in the queer spectrum. And I made this comic in case there are others like me, looking for that perfect hole :D
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Illustration of why I get assumed to be ace more often by queer people than by non-queer people
#recently read one of the few articles on PubMed that's actually about aro people specifically#and it found that over 90% of aro people do not want it to be considered a subset of asexuality#and the researchers asked this because the majority of research on aro people#treats it as a type of asexual and thus obviously DOES NOT CONSIDER OR STUDY ANY ARO PERSON WHO ISNT#frankly I don't even feel like that study captured just how much aroallos fucking despise that idea#<- prev tags. oh we would love to hear more if you have a link.
I do in fact:
To explore what aromanticism is, common misconceptions about this identity, and the experiences people have connecting with an aromantic ide
Fandom really needs to get behind queerplatonic realtionships "omg when the characters have a connection so intense that you can't explain if it's romantic or platonic but they're genuinely insane about eachother and there is no existing word for it" what you're thinking of is a queerplatonic relationship.
"are they friends or lovers? I don't know but they're literally intertwined and are so important to eachother" did interpreting their relationship as queerplatonic kill your grandma or something
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what if we admitted to each other that it's not always really romance that we want. What if we admitted that what we're really craving is intimacy and society taught us romance is the only way to get it.
Some aros reject the concept of love altogether and others redefine it for themselves. Neither of these is the wrong way to go about it. The wrong way to go about it is being an asshole.
